Need advice from someone with BPD
Hello everybody (26M)
Been dating a girl with BPD for about 4 years now she’s in therapy not DBT and she’s also on medication live is much better than before but sometimes, when she’s not doing well we still have very explosive argument ;
I want advice, how can I help her when she’s shaking up and we are having an argument ? I love her very much I don’t always have the best reflexes I was diagnosed with ADHD almost 2 years ago and been on Ritalin eversince so I manage my emotions way better
I think she’s a good person but sometimes she does push me to a point where I yell I don’t want a relationship where she feels bad about her condition and our arguments !
Is the best way to operate is to totally displace the argument when she feels better and ready to talk without telling hurtful things ?