I don't even know how to feel right now… I'm quite upset.
So a little bit of context first.
We are fairly new to the world of LS, so far is being a crazy road mostly good, unfortunately when it gets bad Jesus Christ it really gets bad, so part of our play routine is having play partners on line via Lovense (I got a fairly large collection of toys), I’m always up front to disclose my marital status and always ask the other person about his or hers personal situation (relationships and such) because we are totally against cheating.
If the other person says he or she is married or in a relationship and his or her partner doesn’t know about them playing in lovense all communication is cut, no exceptions.
So I was using Lovense and connected with someone with whom everything seemed clear and drama-free. From the beginning, I was completely transparent: I said I'm married and that my husband knows I use the app. I never wanted to hide anything or get into complicated situations.
But today I found out that this person is married… and his wife just discovered everything. I feel awful, like I've been put in the middle of something I never wanted. I literally feel used and complicit in a situation that goes completely against my values.
What hurts the most is that I was honest from the start, and yet I still ended up involved in something like this.
I guess the lesson here is: it's not enough to be transparent with yourself; you also have to verify who you're getting involved with and not assume that others are being just as honest.
Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you deal with that guilt that you didn't even choose?