u/Bubbly_Path7343

i had it this morning, i’ve been feeling so much guilt and sadness since then and i’m wondering if that’s normal or if i made the wrong choice. i feel confident that i made the right choice but part of me is second guessing. i thought i was going to do the pill procedure but when i got to the clinic they suggested surgical so i did. i don’t know if it’s because the process was so short that im feeling guilty or for another reason. is this normal?

like the title says above i’m having an abortion tomorrow. i’m 20 and 6 weeks, im terrified. i’m taking the pill over the surgical option i was just wondering if anyone could tell me about their experiences or just give any advice. thank you so much in advance!

for context i’m 20f and my ex partner 25m and i broke up a little over week ago. i’m never late on my period but today i checked and i was a day late so i got a pregnancy test and im pregnant.

we hadn’t talked in over a week but i texted him tonight and asked to talk. he called and i told him and at first he hung up on me. he called me back 15 minutes later and asked me when i was getting the abortion. i told him i didn’t know and i needed time to prepare myself even though this is what i want and he asked me about the procedures and i told him about the surgical and pill option, i feel like he’s only concerned about how this is affecting him and not the pain i’ll be put through during this.

he hung up again and then called back a few minutes later saying he was freaking out and he started getting angry at me for not taking comfort in him but i feel like i can’t because he’s only making it about him. not once has he asked me if im okay or how im doing its only about how he’s feeling.

he wants to come with me to the clinic when i get the abortion but i’m not sure what to do. i would feel guilty if i didn’t bring him because this is happening to both of us but part of me feels like he will just make the whole process worse and more emotional for me. what should i do?