So recently I got into a relationship, he is my first boyfriend and its been fun overall.
Things were good in the beginning where he just went for a trip and I did miss him but I was also understanding and didn’t pressure him to call me or such. That was in out first two months of dating.
He still called and made sure whenever he is free he’ll at-least call once in a day or text me.
Then later on things started changing.
A little info about me:
I am someone who grew up in one place my whole life, I had friends loads of them but they either moved out or just we drifted apart. I rarely went on any trips and even if I did, it was with my cousins(which also were short family get togethers), never with friends.
Later on, when I moved out to a different city for job, I found some good friends, but they were occupied themselves, then i found him, my now bf who also have tons of friends and grew up here in the same city. All his friends are here too and even though some moved, they are still in touch.
He has so many friends and they are all very sweeett. I have met all of them. Now mostly they are the only people I hangout with.
Now my bf tries to plan as many meetups with me as possible, but I also need to understand he needs to make some time for his friends as well(without me in it).
Initially it wouldn’t bother me but recently I feel bad or left out whenever he hangs out with his friends.
Its like in most cases I go out when he has something planned for us, or else l’ll either hangout with my office people or just stay at home.
If someday he’ll plan a big trip with his friends I am sure I’ll feel anxious then as well.
I always keep trying on meeting him whenever I get a chance but he cannot just meet me everyday which I should understand. We also live a little far from each other.
Why is it like its mostly the girls who get so dependent and desperate in a relationship and boys have their fun friends and their emotional needs are fulfilled with them?
Why can I just not be happy for him for once and not get moody or sad when he has plan with other people
tl;dr: Few months into the relationship and i need him more then he needs me