I’m unsure if I should break up with my girlfriend tomorrow over text or Friday in person.
I (F22) have been dating B (F22) since August. I’ve known her for 10 years since we’re in 6th grade, however we only started dating last year when I hit her up in April, we first hung out in May and then really solidified things in August.
In the beginning everything was amazing, the dates, the quality time, just being around her, the sex, but now I feel like everything BUT the sex is. It started when she would want to do it every time we saw each other. We see each other every other week since she lives an hour away and only she drives, it just works well with both of our schedules. Then, now last week I realized I’m not even sexually attracted to her at all. My reasoning for breaking up is there’s no sexual connection and I’m unsure with what I want sexually right now. (I am a bisexual woman, who has only been with men the past.)
There was one time we were talking about it, she had said something like “Maybe you really like hanging out with me and doing all the things we do, ex: we always split dates or hang outs 50/50, one week i’ll pay then she will the next. but just not anything sexual with me” and in the moment I said I didn’t know” she slightly jaw dropped and said “At least you’re honest.” Just to give back story that this wouldn’t be just coming out of the blue.
Now I am fully set and last weekend I spent the night with my bestie and we spent hours talking about it.
The only thing I’m concerned about is “Have I waited too long to tell her?” because I was only waiting for Friday so I can tell her in person. I feel like it’s a shitty thing to do over text or call when you can talk it more out in person. But then again, why have I just been sitting on it, talking to her knowing I’m planning on breaking up with her the next time I see her when I can spare her time. We have planned to see a movie this Friday and that’s something we kind of have been doing the night every weekend I see her. I’m just thinking I’ll feel bad if she gets the tickets, picks me up, I break up with her, and the possibility of her not even wanting me to spend the night with her after, but she already drove an hour TO see me. BUT then it circles back to it being a shitty thing to do over the phone, I don’t feel like that’s the right thing to do and in person we both have more room to express our feelings fully.