Last partner possibly manipulating me about pregnancy
I (24M) met a woman (25F) on Tinder while I was abroad visiting family. We started seeing each other casually and became intimate pretty quickly. We would meet regularly, go out, and spend time together.
Within the first month, she started saying things like she would miss me when I left. She also began posting me on her social media stories in a way that made it look like we were a couple, although she hid my face. I thought it was moving a bit fast, but I didn’t take it too seriously at the time because, from my perspective, we had not clearly agreed to anything serious.
During the time we were seeing each other, I never got the impression that she was struggling financially. Sometimes she would pay for small things, like cab fare, and sometimes I would pay as well. It felt fairly normal. She also brought up pregnancy at one point, saying she could see herself having a child in about a year or two. She would sometimes ask if I saw a future with her, but I avoided giving a serious answer because it felt way too early.
The situation started to feel off during one of our last times together. We had gone out, stayed at a motel, and the next morning I noticed some money I had left on the floor. For some reason, I decided not to pick it up right away because I wanted to see what would happen. I had already noticed money missing before, so I was paying closer attention.
While she was getting dressed, I saw her discreetly take the money. After that, she asked me how much money I had left and acted shocked that I wasn’t aware I had no money left. Later, she gave me part of it back and claimed she had “found” it.
That really alarmed me. I didn’t confront her directly because I didn’t want a big argument, but in my mind I decided I would stop contacting her once I got home. The main issue for me was not just the money, but the fact that she seemed willing to lie and manipulate the situation.
A few days after I stopped contacting her, she called me and said she believed she was pregnant.
The timing is what confused me. She had her period the month before, and after that, we were intimate only once. She said she started “feeling pregnant” about four days after we had sex, which did not make sense to me. She also said we should go to the hospital and “remove it,” even though, from what I understand, it would be too early to even confirm a pregnancy at that point.
I told her the timeline didn’t make sense and that I would need actual proof before taking the claim seriously. She stopped replying for a while. Later, she said she had called a doctor and that the doctor told her she should know in about a week and a half.
Around the time she was supposed to get her period, she texted me at midnight saying, “I’m pregnant.” She did not send any proof, so I ignored it.
About a week later, she messaged again and said she had taken a urine pregnancy test and that it showed she was pregnant. She again said we needed to go to the hospital. Still, she did not send me a photo of the test, a medical document, or anything concrete.
Now she has started posting things online that seem to imply she is expecting. She has posted pictures of happy couples with children and stories showing her stomach while saying she feels tired, with heart emojis. It seems like she wants people to think she is pregnant, but I still have not seen any actual proof.
I honestly do not want to deal with her at all because after the money incident, I do not trust her. At the same time, I don’t want to ignore something serious if there is even a chance it is true.
Should I try to verify what is going on, or should I stay out of it unless she provides real proof? What would be the smartest way to handle this without getting manipulated or making the situation worse?