Husband overshares with my family
I never tell my family about any of my problems or struggles.
My husband and I don't often have conflict, but when we do I prefer to only address it between us and I never share it with my family.
If we have been struggling financially or haven't had much sex lately, he will *openly announce this to my family*. I find it extremely embarrassing and inappropriate.
Personally, I suspect that he thinks they will feel sorry for him and convince me to have more sex with him or somehow increase my income.
I never complain about him to anyone. Even if I am frustrated by something, I'll put it aside and only share the good things about him.
So when he suddenly announces that he's upset about something as serious and as personal as sex or finances, it shocks my family and everyone is uncomfortable.
I've tried talking to my husband about this many times, but he keeps doing it. Anytime he starts to engage in a conversation with my family it ends with him oversharing. We live far away, so he doesn't often converse with my family which makes the whole thing even more awkward.
Today he announced to my sister that he's unhappy because my income isn't good enough. My sister was obviously uncomfortable and my husband didn't pick up on it.
My family accepted him long ago but he still doesn't seem to understand that if he wants to complain about me, he should choose basically anyone else besides my family, and especially my sister. It's not only oversharing, it's complaining about me to the few people who are most likely to take my side no matter what.
He did it again today. He doesn't often talk with my family, but he had a nice conversation with me and my sister today that ended with him oversharing and complaining about me. Afterwards, he got defensive and said that if I could just make more money then he wouldn't have anything to complain about.
I'm currently still upset and at a loss for how to address this with either him or my sister.
Tl;dr husband overshares deeply personal complaints about our relationship with my family and doesn't seem to truly understand why this is a problem for me.