AITA for telling my friend that no matter what I would never make the same bad decisions as her after she said I'm wasting money
For context, my friend Abby and I met our first year of college. Abby had a bf of 2 years. She was very reckless, like no protection, and got pregnant her second year, and when she told me, she said she wanted to drop out. I told her if she dropped out her life would be over, her parents aren't wealthy. I suggested termination or adoption. Her and I got into a huge fight because she said I was elitist, claiming that her mom is middle class without a college degree. Her plan was to drop out and have her boyfriend graduate, and he would get a good job. I even told her to do it online and she refused and said college isn't the only path to success. I eventually apologized to be there for her because she had enough going on and I didn't want to add to her stress.
After the baby was born, her and her boyfriend broke up, and he got to get his degree while she has no degree. He pays child a little support. But she has one income and has trouble dating this age. She is not impoverished, but with the way the economy is she is in a lot of car debt and credit card debt. To be fair, a lot of this was just bad decisions like buying a 70k car as soon as she got a job, when she makes less than that in a year. I am not judging and I don't care what people do but it is context for what happened.
When I finished my masters my family pooled money to buy me a home, this is very common in our culture. I also still drive the same paid off Lexus I've had since high school. I have a nice job and I'm pretty comfortable financially and have a lot of investments. I'd say about 75% of my disposable income goes towards travelling with my boyfriend. I don't ever brag about travelling to Abby because it is a sore spot since she has never left the country and would always say she wanted to travel after college, but this was before the baby. Abby and I were getting lunch one day and she asked what I am doing over the summer. I told her my boyfriend and I were going on a trip, and she asked where, I replied we were going to Bora Bora. I tried to downplay it a little, and she kept asking more and to show her the hotel since she wants to go, for her honeymoon to be if she gets married again (I never knew that). I showed her and she googled the price of the hotel and started laughing at me, saying I was blowing through money like an idiot. I told her I saved for it and she was like 'All of us are struggling with gas prices and inflation nowadays and that I'm dumb to be wasting money like that'.. she just kept going on and on and on about how bad the economy is and that 'I don't live in the real world' I told her that not everyone is struggling and that she needs to stop because I would never make the decisions she did. She is now telling mutual friends an exaggerated story about how I am said she should have got rid of her baby. I never ever would say that, I love that kid, but everyone has been texting to ask what happened. I was talking about her financial decisions not her kid.