Partner Doesn't Reciprocate
Before you raise your pitchforks on my partner or me, let me explain our relationship first. We're already 4 years together, and have a 1 year old son. I love her, so much in fact that i do everything for her comfort, leave my old life to build ours, Find WFH jobs because she wants me home, I have no regrets on that , and she does too, she does take care of me and my son , cooks for us the whole thing.
Except this, whenever I say "I love you" to her, she only answer with nods, "mhms", "okay". Whenever i kiss her whether leaving for work or getting home after or maybe because I just want to, I get no return. And well as for our sex life, it's gone to the floor especially when we had our son (which is understandable so let's focus on the kiss and "i love yous")
That being said I feel , a little hurt, dissapointed? Underwhelmed? Less loved.. And before you say it , I ASKED HER , already. Multiple times the answers I'm getting range from "Tsk, I'm too tired" "we're no longer teen , we're adults" "you're making a big deal out of this" and worse to "you shouldn't been with me if that's what you only wanted" "I don't want to in public"(Public display is not everyone's cup, I understand but even a simple I love you too?) and "I already nodded, said yes, responded what else do you want"
One day , I stopped, didn't do it for a week. No kisses , no i love yous.. then she asked me " I feel like you've changed, why did you change? Do you not love us anymore" so i told her everything above AGAIN she said, okay she'll do better. So I did go back to my routine of kissing her, saying I love you... ... Still nothing.
Am I in the wrong to feel this way? Am I overreacting for something so simple and for feeling like I've had enough. Is it wrong for me to think, she'll say it more and better if I wasn't her partner.
I just can't anymore, sorry for the long rant.