u/Bulky_Pomegranate386

I'm 30f, partner 35m. Together 10 years and happy. What's annoying is that when he travels for work I can't sleep until we have our goodnight call. OK, whatever; my mind needs to know he's safe. When he's home I cannot for the life of me get to sleep until he's in bed with me. It feels so codependent on my part. He can and does sleep fine! I've always been like this with whoever. Yes, I'm in therapy, but not necessarily for this. Does anyone else experience this?

I really don't want to be one if those "oKaY iT's BeDtImE" since I am not his mother, he's a grown ass man, I'm a grown ass woman who does NOT want to be controlling. But DAMN I need some sleep!

Tldr, how can I sleep on my own like a big girl?