Is getting angry when someone tells you a true thing about yourself actually your shadow reacting?
Sometimes, people I know will point out things about me, usually something small(could be big too), like avoiding a task or chronically forgetting to do things. I know they're right. But instead of agreeing, I get angry or defensive. Oftentimes, I try to turn it back on them.
I first read about the shadow in Aion, and think I know what's happening. The anger isn't really about them saying it, it's about being seen accurately and not being ready for that. Jung talks in some of his work about how the shadow isn't just the "bad" parts of us, but rather it's whatever we've pushed out of our conscious view. From what I understood, the shadow is often projected as irritation or overreaction.
When I see myself getting defensive over something true, I try to ask myself what part of that reaction is actually about the other individual, and what part is just me not wanting to look at something.