Friends don’t understand (rant)
I am 3.5 months PP and exclusively breastfeeding. Baby has a pumped bottle for one feed maybe once or twice a week.
I was meant to be going on a hen do which would’ve been a 3 hr drive or 3.5 hr train for me. It was for two nights, but I cut it down to one anyway.
Few nights before I was meant to be going, dad was trying to soothe baby but he was going insane crying and would only be soothed by me in 2 mins, after 30 mins of screaming. Dad gets so upset and frustrated by this.
In the end, I just said I wouldn’t go because I don’t think dad would be able to cope. My friends suggested I just come for the day on Saturday and bring the baby, but it doesn’t make sense for me to travel 6hrs there and back for a day of wine tasting which I wouldn’t be able to take part in anyway because I’m breastfeeding and the baby would be there.
Anyway, they started messaging again and I told my friend I have FOMO (which I do!! I really wanted to go) and she says “you could still come you know”. No… I really couldn’t. I just feel so alone In My friendship group as I’m the first to have had a child and no one understands that I can’t just get up and travel that far for something. I can’t wait for them to have their own kids so they are able to understand the nuances to parenting and exclusively breastfeeding.
If anyone has been through something similar, how do you deal with it?