help me to find out my type( ı feel left out lmao)
Hi everyone! I need your help to finally settle my type between ENFJ and ENFP. I’ve been reading about cognitive functions, but I absolutely do not fit the mainstream internet stereotypes. People online talk about ENFJs as if they are naive, people-pleasing saints who love everyone, or ENFPs as just hyperactive chaotic balls of energy. I’m neither.
Here are the specific, raw details about how my mind works. Please tell me which type or function stack this sounds like:
I have a strong, innate desire to lead and manage, but it’s currently waiting for the right moment. For example, on the very first day of school, when the teacher asked who wanted to be the school president, my hand shot up instantly. However, as the term went on, I hesitated to mingle too much and stepped back from the classroom presidency because I cared too much about what my peers thought. I hate ambiguity, though. In my current friend group, I act as the "locomotive." When we plan to go out and everyone is being indecisive, I step in, state the exact hour I want to go out, and I feel genuinely happy when people accept my ideas and follow my lead.
I am extremely sharp and street-smart; I don't see people through rose-colored glasses at all. I scan a room and read people’s true intentions and social masks instantly. For instance, looking at my neighbors, I can simultaneously see how shrewd/sharp they are, while also knowing exactly how good they are at gossiping. I see people for exactly who they are—the good, the bad, and the calculating. The ENFJs that I've met are always like, 'No, we can't know their true intentions,' or 'They have good in them.' They look like they have a pure and idealistic image of people. Even when I come across some ENFJ characters in the media, they are all like that.
I used to care deeply about looking "perfect" to others, but I recently dropped that mask entirely. I realized that trying to look perfect was stopping me from being my true self. I now choose raw authenticity over perfection. If I'm net, I'm net.Also, to be clear: I am NOT a people-pleaser who tolerates everyone just to keep the peace. If I genuinely dislike someone, I won't pretend to like them. I won't create a scene or completely ruin the mood of the environment, but I definitely won't put on a fake smile or act close either. I just keep my distance. I don't love everyone, and I don't pretend to.
Also, from what I've seen, ENFJs set a perfect standard for themselves. They always try to show themselves as perfect, both in real life among friends and in fictional characters. But for me, I can easily talk about an embarrassing moment in front of people. If I feel excluded, if someone makes me feel like trash, or if a miserable moment happens to me, I can just share it.
Despite my love for control and directing people, when I’m bored or drained, I love completely going with the flow. I will spend hours on my phone, listening to music, or getting lost in deep, vivid daydreaming scenarios (I love building fictional worlds/plots). During these phases, I don't make strict plans at all.
People tell me my need to eliminate ambiguity and direct social flows sounds like an ENFJ with high Fe-Ni, but my daydreaming and recent "low-planning" phase makes me wonder about ENFP.
Based on these real-life examples, what do you think? Am I a highly perceptive, waking-up ENFJ, or am I an ENFP? Let me know your thoughts on my functions!