Divorced parents at my wedding?
Hello! I got engaged this year and we are starting to plan our wedding. My parents have been divorced for 6 years now (married for 20) and they cannot get along. All im asking is for them to show up for the wedding and for a few pictures. They dont have to go to the reception if they dont want to. Also to note they dont like my fiancé and they don't like his family either. My parents believe that my fiancés family thinks they are better than everyone else because they are all still married and live happy lives (just normal un broken family things). His family does not think that lol. The mixing of my family and my fiancés will be an issue unfortunately (on my parents part not his).
I told both of my parents I got engaged and they didnt really care. My mom litterly said "oh ok im going to bed I have to work tomrrow" and my dad said congratulations and hung up. Even though they are shi**y I still wanted to try to have them at my wedding. I mentioned to my mom that I wanted them both to attend and she was LIVID. Asking why I am trying to ruin her day and make everything about him (my dad) and why I even want him or any of his family there and she said by inviting him she feels disrespected and a bunch of other bs. Mind you growing up I lived with them each 50/50 and he has always technically been present in my life. Its not like he's a dead beat.
I mentioned it to my dad and he said he doesn't want to see her or sit by her or even get a picture with the 3 of us or 4 including my fiancé. He wants his girlfriend to be there but he doesn't want her to be uncomfortable because i don't like her and my mom and sisters dont like her either. I told him he dosent have to sit by her or anything but I at least want one picture. He wants to "compromise" and I get a picture with him and his girlfriend and not my mom so he doesn't have to be around her at all. His girlfriend is not my mom and we do not get along and I never even lived in the same house or anything as her. We have no relationship at all. I told him his girlfriend is not a substitute for my mom and that was that. Our convo ended that way. I know I can photo shop them but id really appreciate one fricken picture that I know is an actual photo in real time.
Now that all of that has been said how would you guys suggest i navigate this situation? Im lost lol. Im walking alone down the isle (personal choice due to other issues with my dad) so both parents would be sitting probably front row. They can sit on opposite sides i dont care about that. And the families on both sides are also bitter towards each other. Im getting frustrated trying to navigate through the bs and I am about to give them the ultimatum and say either you act like adults or no one is going.
Thank you for all and any advice in advance!