Found out my father sexually assaulted my older sister when we were kids
Im gonna keeps this short mostly because i just want to get it off my chest. Im 22 and i just found out my father touched my sister inappropriately when she was 6 (she’s 2 years older than me). This was confirmed by my sister, but the kicker? My mom was the one who told me. Meaning she knew. I don’t know if it was a one time thing or not but I also remember growing up my dad used to slap us on the ass out of no where until I told him it made me uncomfortable when I was around 13. I didn’t want to pry my sister for more memories or abuse instances because I know the conformation of information like that can really mess someone up, but the instance when she was 6 is confirmed by her and my mother.
I’m so fucking angry at my mother and father, but mostly my mother. I know hate is a strong word but what I’m feeling is so strong it’s the only way I know how to describe it. I’m so disgusted. My mother knew and she stayed with him and had 3 more kids. I’m so upset. I love them so much, they’re family, but I don’t want to talk to them at all.
My dad seems like he’s changed but can someone really change after doing something like that? I feel torn. But regardless I will stand by my sister, my support for her is unwavering. I just don’t know how to deal with this all, what does my relationship with my parents look like in the future? I’m so fucking angry.
Not to mention I was a bed wetter until my teens, I have no recollection of ever being abused and would honestly rather not think about it. I just hate this so much.