r/FamilyIssues

Today, I (M19) got into an argument with my dad (M51) over something stupid I did, and yeah, I did something wrong, but he started yelling and didn't even say good morning to me as this was our first interaction. After that, he started yelling at me for not making my bed the right way. I tried to explain to him that I had not made my bed yet as it was dirty, and I needed my mum to give me the right sheets (she was working). Instead of letting me talk to him, he started shouting about how empathetic I needed to be when other people were complaining about me. This extended into a long and loud argument about him shouting at me things like "ur retarded" or "u live in your own reality". He also used the usual arguments of "ur vitimizing urself". Of course I shouted at him, but as usual I didn't call him names. I also told him I would no longer make lunch for him and my sister (F16 and recording some audios) as I was leaving to work myself and didn't want him to give me a ride. Between all this, he slapped me in the face and was aggressive to the point where he held my arm with both hands so I would listen to him. I was not aggressive physically to him, except when I closed my bedroom door so he wouldn't beat me. He ended up giving me a ride to work anyway as he took my stuff away from me and hid it. During the drive, he called me selfish for leaving my sister without lunch and that if I ever told him he didn't love me, he would beat me up again. I feel shitty and I know I wronged my family, but this sucks and things like this have happened between us since I can remember, even though I started to not tolerate it when I started 6th grade. I know I am not right, but I needed to let this out as my shift starts in 30 minutes, and since I work with the public, I need to not cry my eyes out. Any advice on how to deal with him?

So my younger sister(28) told me in May that she was having another baby.. she currently has 5 kids already, including a set of 2 year old twins and a 1 year old.. she also doesn't have her high school diploma, husband doesn't have a solid job through the winter months, she constantly is stressing about being broke.. so this is what my reply was (she sent me her "announcement", I saw it and it took me a couple hours to reply because honestly my first thought was not jumping for joy)

"Hi I'm really sorry I wasn't expecting that and needed some time to "digest" it. I just worry about you guys for many aspects, the timing, your health-mental AND physical, money. Etc. but I will come to terms with it and of course I'll love this baby just as much ❤️ if you guys are happy, im happy for you. Love you💗💙"

She replied "ok."

A day or 2 later I asked how she was feeling and said I didn't mean to offend her, loved her and asked if she needed anything.. she didn't answer

Week later asked again how she was doing and offered her some baby stuff.. no answer.

So I gave her time, and messaged her again a few weeks later apologizing again and telling her it made me upset she stopped talking to me when honestly as her big sister, I don't think my reply was totally off base. I was just being realistic while still letting her know I care about her. And she typed back a story basically telling me how I was wrong for being concerned about any of those things... So now I don't even know what to say to her because she's kind of being delusional imo. Like, it's okay to be excited and happy but at the same time, it's also okay to be a little realistic.. aitah here ?

I am a 16 year old girl in Mongolia (central asia). I live with my mom, dad, and two younger brothers (one is 11 years old which I’ll later on refer to as A and the other one is 3, who I will refer to as B).
My family roles are VERY conservative and traditional. My dad is a deadbeat mf who works just like my mom is not fewer hours but never contributes to house chores or anything and occasionally takes care of my youngest brother. Furthermore, he hits me and yells me whenever I have fights with A. I feel bad for my mother bc she often works long, demanding hours (not blue collar jobs, she’s some kind of boss at a bank and my father is also in the finance industry) so, aa the eldest daughter I step up and basically take care of everything-cooking, cleaning, and fending for myself and my siblings- along with my studies (I’m going to be junior year in September).
However, I often feel overwhelmed and overlooked. I know that ever since A was born he has been my parents’ favorite-it’s no secret. My father knows that A is my mother’s favorite, however, the jury is still out on whether or not A is my dad’s favorite. You may feel inclined to think that “Oh, every child feels that way and every parent loves all their children equally”. However, I strongly believe this is not the case here. On multiple occasions my father would hit me for having a quarrel with A and would worry more about him getting hurt than B and I. And don’t even get me started on my mom. She defends him against anyone and everyone. Her little genius boy can do no wrong in her eyes-every and any wrongdoing done by A has some sort of justification. All of my extended family members believe he is often neglected by my parents bc whenever they come in contact with me or my parents, A is always in his room playing games on his phone and he prefers it that way. He is an utterly disgusting lazy mf (gets FURIOUS when asked to run to the store which is less than 30m from our home)and only gets away with that only bc he has a weiner. He cooks what I make and never cleans after himself. And god forbid he fries and egg (bc that is the only “cooking” he can do) bc if I tell him to washthe plates and pans he dirtied, he takes a long ass fucking sigh and does a rushed job while also managing to spill water everywhere. Whenever I get mad and try to tell my parents this, they just turn a blind eye. When I was his age (I know I sound like a boomer but bear with me please) I looked after my 6 year old brother, got him from his school which is far from my school, cook dinner, and clean the house before my parents got home.
During my summer break this year and last year, I looked after B while A got to actually enjoy summer and hang out with his friends. I cooked and cleaned all day while dealing with a screaming, crying, moody ahh toddler, while he went to his friends house. My parents take all this for granted and I have told them thatI want to go out but they usually say, there is no one else to look after my brothers. My main issue with BOTH my parents is that why give birth to your children if you can’t take care of them yourselves and have your eldest child take care of them at the cost of your one and only daughter’s childhood and studies.
Right now, this is my last straw. My mother is going to Australia to help my aunt and uncle look after the newborn baby bc they have jobs and one is studying abroad. My parents have decided to send A along with my mother even though school starts in almost 10 days. My uncle insisted that A was to come to Australia which I was surprised bc he practically raised me when I was small while my parents where working so I considered myself pretty close to him but then I remembered all the times he forgot about me and instead had fun (like take them out to dinner or the movies which is an absolute blast when you’re 8) with my male cousins. This is not the only issue as I am staring the IB program next year. This means I will have classes back to back from 7.45am until 6pm. With A gone, there will be no one to get B from daycare (this is the only thing he does around the house and is always complaining about it). I told my mom and dad this issue but to no avail, they told me to deal with it bc my mon and A will be gone for “only” a month. The final decision to send A with my mother has been today and I have been upset ever since I was told this. My mom mocked me to my father my making a clownish frowning face while making boohoo gestures to my father and I got mad. I have been mad ever since that happened but my mom hit me a while ago saying that I had no reason to be mad and that I was out of bounds.
I know this is wrong but I often times resent B for being born bc had he not been born, I wouldn’t have to clean the house everyday and solely focus on my studies even though it is my parents fault (they didn’t plan for him to be born and got cared away with doing the boombayah one night and conceived him). Nonetheless, I still love B and he is the cutest.
I am someone who has severe confrontational issues (I legit ghosted my bf bc I couldn’t tell him that I wanted to break up). What do I do? Every single day I cry thinking about my situation. And not to mention, I gained 10kg ever since summer break started and that has not benefitted my mental health at all. I’m seriously debating whether or not I should just end it all. Please give me advice.

I’m a recovered alcoholic and has been sober for more than 6 moths now and my brother is getting married soon.

What has made me really sad is that apparently I’m not invited to anything. Not the wedding, not the dinner, and not the party afterwards.

Most of my family apparently knew about the wedding months ago, but I was only told last month. When my brother told me, he also made it clear that I should completely stay away from everything. He wouldn’t tell me when or where the wedding was happening or give me any details. they don’t want me there. which i dont understand.

I asked if I could at least come to the wedding ceremony. He said no.

I told him that I could understand why they might not want me at the party. I can even understand being excluded from the dinner, although that hurts. But I genuinely cannot understand why I’m not even allowed to attend the actual wedding ceremony.

I asked if I could simply attend the ceremony, sit quietly, and leave immediately afterwards. I dont drink anymore at all, i wont cause any problems, or expect to be included in anything else. I just want to see my brother get married.

But the answer was still no.

I am sober now and I don’t drink anymore. I understand that my past behaviour may have damaged their trust in me, and I’m not trying to pretend that sobriety magically fixes everything. I know they’re allowed to have boundaries, even if those boundaries hurt me.

But I’m struggling with this emotionally. It feels like I’ve been completely shut out of the family while the rest of the family has known about this for months and kept it from me.

I’m also embarrassed to admit that I feel some pity for myself and maybe even a little spiteful about the whole thing. I don’t want to be that person, but I’m hurt and frustrated. I ofcourse bought them a very very nice wedding present because, despite everything, I love my brother and I genuinely want them to be happy.

I dont want to force my way into the wedding in any way. If they absolutely don’t want me there, I won’t show up uninvited.

I just don’t know how to process being excluded from something this important, especially when all I want is to quietly watch my brother get married and then go home.

Am I wrong for feeling hurt and resentful about this? And how would you handle this situation without making things even worse?

Thanks for reading and best regards a very sad brother..

I feel so vindicated!

My dad who is 63 finally stood up to my older sister!!!

Back story

After years of dealing with my incredibly toxic sibling, I went no contact. I've been no contact for three years and it was difficult at first.

I missed the good moments we had, but because it was a continuous cycle of being close, her treating me like I did something wrong and not telling me. Me confronting her on bad behavior and how it impacted me. Then her getting mad about that. Silence treatment

.... Me apologizing.... Repeat...

I have had a very bad relationship with my sister since the beginning. She's always been vindictive and would break my things, steal things. As we got older she did more stupid shit She borrowed money from me and then I didn't hear from her for months and she pretended that it never happened.

she paid me back with an e-transfer three years later and said happy birthday.

Once she admitted to gifting me things for Christmas that she intended for herself.

One Christmas she said my present was under the bed. It wasnt wrapped just a bunch of scattered Hotel shampoo and soaps under the bed and yeah....that was my Christmas present.

Shit like that.

Since our mom died she has been extra.

Ok now.

My mom has been gone for ten years. My dad has dated a little and my sister is not subtle about her hatred for any other woman in my dad's life.

My dad has always been caring towards her and sensitive of her feelings to the point where I had to pretend she was the first one to learned about dads new girlfriend because it would hurt her feelings of she knew I found out first...

We are all adults... It's ridiculous.

Once my sister broke my dad's dishes over the fact that he bought a college student working a summer job a backpack because hers was ripping. He's just that guy and my sister tried to make my dad sound like a predator... I was pissed.

Since birth I had to deal with my dad telling me that I'm misinterpretating my sister's actions because she would never be so devious or as awful as I'm making her sound

...well...

My dad started dating someone new. He broke up with his last girlfriend, and told her when she was ready she needed to get her Christmas decorations out of his garage that he's been personally storing for her.

New girlfriend comes over a few days later. My sister shows up unannounced apparently.

My tells my sister that he has a lady friend coming over and if she wanted to have lunch with them that was fine.

My sister says she'd loved to meet her... Well...

My sister had a few glasses of wine and interrupted the conversation to say to my dads new girlfriend, "hey, what do you think of my dad's girlfriend's stuff still in his garage."

She made it sound like he was still dating the previous woman and my dad hasn't even mentioned it. He figured he was done with the last relationship so she didn't need to know.

New girlfriend gets pissed and leaves. My dad yells at my sister and she leaves.

When my dad told me this story, he said "she did that on purpose."

Anyways. My dad is still seeing this woman and is absolutely not letting my sister ruin it.

He even refused to take her out on her birthday because she told him that his girlfriend couldn't come.

And I think that's fucking amazing. My dad finally understands that she is in fact an asshole and immature. I noticed he texts me a lot more and every time I call he says he's with his new girlfriend or tells me about their last encounter.

I love that he has someone to share things with. I love that she even helps him with renovations he's doing which is unheard of.

Great way to start this off. Uh. Hi, just call me Roman(16-18, afab, transmasc), and I think my mother has been trying to be more so incestuous with me for a while whether she means to or not.

For starters, she has always commented on my body, specifically my chest and groin area(as well as weight) since I started puberty(9). She has not stopped no matter how many times I've asked her to, and when I tell her to step out of the room to let me change she refuses. She also forces me to try on new clothes in front of her when we get them, not allowing me to step into the bathroom and change, even if it's for my bra or underwear.

Next, she continues to ask about my sexual life, making jokes about it, and commenting on how I "can have sex as long as I don't drink or smoke." As well as before this, she would grope me 'playfully' and try to smack my ass.

She has lost interest in my dad, almost treating him like her child instead of her partner. This aggravates him, so they stopped talking despite living in the same house.

She had found my 'toy' and has now decided to continue to bring it up, and constantly ask if I want her to buy me one, despite me refusing each time. She decided that she would also touch it, despite knowing what it's used for, and moving it to an obvious place so I would know that she did. And she did it on purpose.

The reason why I'm making this post just happen. She had came into my room and said she had a "mystery bag" for me. When i had opened the bag, I had found sex toys and she started joking saying things along the lines of "these are better" and "i thought you'd like these ones," before grabbing one and deciding to turn it on and try to make me put it on. I refused and she scoffed and then pulled another one out, making more jokes before she finally left.

I've told her countless times that I don't feel comfortable with this and she refuses to listen. I'm scared as there are 3 other children in this household, and cps/dss has came over 5 times for different things and nothing has been done.

Okay so I'm saying "one of my parents" because I don't wanna specify, sorry. So this parent, everytime they see something I did wrong they go out of their way to comment on it. To even lecture me sometimes. And I feel like I'm gonna sound like such a brat because these seem like such small things but they really aren't for me.

Let me give you an example.

Let's say you totally normally organize your shoes when you come home. BUT from TIME TO TIME you forget because of something, it's HUMAN, right? So one day, I forget to do it. And the parent is like "could you please organize your shoes tomorrow" and then I get mad because I just forgot, of course I would normally organize it and then the parent is like "yeah well I remember you don't always organize it." and I'm like, "like when? it never happens to you that you forget?" and then they always have something to say like, it happens to you more often or something and then they pull out the exact day you didn't organize it. And it goes all over again the next time you forget.

Please tell me you get it.

Please.

It's not only shoes, it's everything.

It's telling like, how they view me too in a way. Get it?

Or am I the problem?

By the way, I'm 17. And I don't know if it's good or bad. If I should be ashamed that I sometimes forget or valid because I'm seventeen and they should actually view me as capable or I don't know how to describe it.

Well… to start with I wanna say that I’ve noticed that people hear "inherited a mansion" and think you hit the jackpot. But I wanna say from my own experience that it's not that simple

My grandparents did well for themselves and left me their house after they passed. When I say house, I mean a huge place way outside the city. Sounds like a dream from the outside. But I've built my own life separately. I have my own career, my own mortgage, my family. We're happy living our own lives

The main issue I guess is that I work in the city and some days I leave way too late, and the last thing I want is a two-hour drive in the dark just to take care of an enormous property I never planned my life for. My kids love their schools, and I'm not going to uproot them

On top of that, the place isn't turnkey. My grandparents had financial issues later in life and deferred a lot of maintenance. Now it's this huge property that needs a ton of work and costs money just sitting there

I listed it almost 2 years ago and I really thought that someone would jump at it. But most people think it's too far from the city, or the place is way too big and requires high maintenance. One couple wanted to turn it into a boutique hotel and then backed out at the last minute

At this point, I'm exhausted. I just want to sell it, put something into savings, pay down my mortgage, and build college funds for my kids the way my grandparents helped me

Lately I've been looking into companies like ready door homes that buy places for cash. Just so I can finally close this chapter and move on with my life. I'm hopeful this could be the fresh start I need

Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation?

I was helping my mom tidy up after a family party. My aunt was there too. She needed to go and grab something from the shop but I said I’d do it and she said thank you. I went into my room quickly and then heard my mom and aunt bitch about me. I won’t explain the whole thing but the most hurtful things were my mom said members of my immediate family have had to “put up with me for years”. They also spoke about my mental health. I overheard my aunt say that for “someone so nervous, she’s surprisingly chatty.” My mom did refer to how my mental health makes life more difficult for me but everything was said in a really negative and contemptuous way.

When my mom saw I was still here her face dropped and she looked horrified.

I know I haven’t always been easy over the years, as a teen and young adult. I have struggled with my MH and emotional regulation. I’m not very organised and often left things until last minute which can be frustrating for people. However, I am a different person now and do not bring negativity to my mother’s life. I have worked really hard to manage my MH and emotions. I feel immense guilt about my downfalls and I have worked really hard to be the best version of myself.

I have often felt like a black sheep in my family. I have felt distance between my little sister and my dad and now I am worried that a picture has been painted of me thag I can’t escape from. There have been comments over the years said by family members that now kind of make sense. My aunt said “you are lucky to have him” speaking about my partner. My uncle said “you think you are better than everyone else”. I asked my mom at the time and she said they are just like that. Now I’m starting to think I have been spoken about.

I often feel like a burden anyway, it’s up and down but I’m working really hard. I feel like this has just taken me right back to square one. I think what hurts most is I see my mom as one of my best friends. I’ve moved in with her for a few months as I’m home for family commitments and now I’m unsure what to do. The way she spoke about me was like it was about someone she really doesn’t like.

My husband (24M) and I (21F) have been married for over a year. We got married while i was still in school, but we immediately moved 3.5 hours away from my family so i could do my internship once married. Once my internship was complete, we moved back to the area where my college was, and we were only 20 minutes from my parents' home. Everything was fine for the most part. We would have dinner with them about once a week, but my husband hated going over to my parents' house. My mom is 45F, and my dad is 46M. My parents have never liked my husband because he didn't serve a mission for our church, didn't go to college, and works in a blue-collar job. My parents are extremely judgmental and criticize everyone and everything they do. Now that i am done with college, we have moved 4 hours away. I went last week to see my family, i have 3 younger sisters who were showing their animals at the fair, and i went to help. My husband didn't come. I stayed one night at my parents' house, and it was so weird. My mom and dad kept saying weird things, and it felt like they were pretending I wasn't married. It was overall very weird. I want to go down with my family to help move cows and stay one night, but my husband absolutely hates being there because he feels like he is hated and just judged the whole time. My husband is not wrong; they really do judge him a lot. I know a conversation needs to happen with my parents about this behavior, but i don't even know where to start. I feel like if i do say something, they will put in an effort to change for a little bit, then go right back to how they were. I also don't want it to be awkward, since I'm not very close to my mom or dad. What should i do?

TL;DR my parents don't like my husband, so anytime i want to see family, my husband hates it the whole time. My husband feels judged and hated, and i can see why he feels that way because my parents make weird comments to my husband and just have never liked him. i want to talk to my parents about this behavior, but i don't know how to start the conversation or if it should even be had, because i already don't have a close relationship with either of my parents, and i don't want things to be awkward. What should i do?

I need opinion about a situation. So my brother is 36 . He married a girl going against his family for that girls had an ugly fight with everyone for almost an year before marriage. His marriage couldn't survive a month and decided to get divorce . The girl is now putting false charges for domestic violence and dowry. My brother lost his job after 4 month of his marriage and being unemployed now for more then an year. He is living with my old parents . Before his marriage we tried to make him understand that the girl is not right for him and even he is not matured enough to handle responsibility of marriage but he didn't listened to any of us. Now he wants everyone to get involved in his divorce case and help him to come out of this situation. He still behaves immature and threatens everyone that if we dont help him he will take everyone in the family to court. My parents are 70+ and seeing all this I have no respect and feeling for him now. What will you do as sibling in this situation.

Grandmother and Aunt Judgers

I have a family member who thinks my husband and I will be a bad influence on our cousin if he lives with us...

I 28f am plain and boring only plays dungeons and dragons the basic RPG, nothing relating to religion or anything of that sort. I lost my mother almost a year ago she liked crystals and witchy stuff and tarot cards. (She never did readings she liked the way they looked.)

Her sister (my aunt) we'll call her "Posie" youngest son we'll call him Emerson 17m wants to live with my husband and I after he turns 18..She has the thought that we use tarot cards and do witch craft which is not true. We've never done it in our lives and wouldnt even know where to begin if we did. Plus with our busy work and school schedules we never have time to relax or do anything. Posie thought we will be a bad influence on Emerson because of that. Where she got that opinion.. no idea maybe since my mother liked it she though we did too? I work at a church as a teacher, witchery isn't my style.

We have a friend who plays dungeons and dragons with us and Emerson every weekend, who works with my husband at Walmart we'll call him "James" he's 52m, straight, divorced due to a cheating wife, also has a 17yr son. We've known him for a year he went to culinary school and was a cop. He came over to vent to my husband and I about when he was a cop. My grandmother heard and instantly said she doesnt like him. (She likes to listen in on people's conversations, and judges everyone for no reason without getting to know them or anything)

My grandmother told Aunt Posie about him and now she doesn't want Emerson to live with us because we offered to help James with a place to live in a few years (4 maybe 5 years into the future). Aunt Posie thinks James is a bad person and will r\*\*e Emerson.

I really want to stand up for James to my grandmother and Aunt Posie. But I dont want to risk losing the connection I have with my cousin since he's in the middle. Aunt Posies, and my grandmothers crazy opinions and thoughts are really starting to irritate my husband and I because they're judging him with no facts or evidence of what they're saying.

What should I do?

Quick question. Lets say someone makes dinner because her older sister and mom are working till almost midnight, only on Saturdays, but doesn’t put the food away after and so the food goes bad and gets wasted. The girl isnt even expected to do the dishes btw.

The mom and older sister come home late at night and are already tired from working but are for some reason expected to clean up the mess that was made during dinner and are not allowed to complain because it's not a big deal because the dad says "mistakes happen" but its not a mistake if it happens every single time, right??

When the mom cooks dinner, she doesn't leave everything out for her eldest daughter to clean up when she comes home, since she shouldn't expect her eldest daughter to clean up the mess that the mom made, because she dinner, so it's her job to clean up dinner.

So, why isn't it expected of the other daughter to clean up the mess she made when she made dinner?

This may sound confusing, but basically the mom came home and got upset that once again she's expected to clean up after other people's messes, and the dad is defending the youngest daughter (who is just a year younger than the eldest), saying that the youngest shouldn't have to clean up the mess...that she made...while making dinner?? But still expects the mom to clean up the mess whether she made dinner or not??

Yes, I'm the eldest and this isn't the only double standard the father has, it's just the one that came up recently.

every time i try to tell my mom i had a hard time during my childhood, and that it felt like everyone was always mad at me, she tells me it was because of my behavior. my parents were always mad at me for forgetting to do chores and for "not contributing to the family" and yelled a lot. my mom says the reason we didnt have a chore list as kids was because I refused to do anything to help, not my sister. she says i ignored them no matter how much they explained it to me, and would only do it if they screamed. i'm in my mid 20s now and i dont act like that at all. i just moved back home after five years and i help out all of the time without being asked. i dont know how to explain to them that this wasn't intentionally manipulative on my part, i was just really lazy and overhwhedlmed as a kid and didn't want to do anything. i wasnt trying to cause them so much trouble, and i only now understand how much work it is to be a parent and how much i should have been helping. i wish this clicked earlier and im so sad for causing them so much grief, but even i dont fully understand why it wasnt clicking for me. she also tells me that i screamed at her every day picking me up from elementary school. i dont remember this at all, and i do feel really bad about it. i just cant think it was for no reason, i was around two significant suicides when i was young and had really mean friends who were exclusive, and i think that is probably what was causing me to be so upset all of the time. i feel horrible for taking this out on my mom and i dont know if its fair to have grace for myself and how much.

i was diagnosed with adhd at 10. when i went to college, i started having panic attacks and was diagnosed with anxiety/OCD, which had definitely been present my whole childhood. i would make myself throw up from stress over the childohod years. i remember having intense compulsions and scary intrusive thoughts at 14/15 that i didnt understand. after moving out, i was a mess for about five years, trying to mask everything with weed. my mom says i was the "worst" i have been during those years. she says every time i needed something i demanded it then and there. again, this is so far from my experience. i was so wrapped up in my own world and trying to get out of survival mode. i was physically sick from my anxiety a lot in college and everything felt super overwhelming. i've just always felt like my mom's greatest enemy and i dont know how to get them to understand i didnt mean to be so diffucult and demanding, and i dont even know if that is fair to ask of them. im so confused and part of me is tired of feeling so guilty when i was unaware and struggling but i dont want to be easy on myself if that isnt fair. sorry this is jumbled, could someone please help explain.

Ever since, i always have a bad relationship with my mom. For context, she’s a definition of a narcissist. She calls me useless, slut, dumb stupid ass, and the worst thing i heard from her is she wished i wasnt alive. I realized that she didnt really loved me as her daughter, she only do the responsibility.

Last night, we have a huge argument just because i went outside for a while. She said that my academic achievements are very useless and i should not continue my upcoming competition for a spoken poetry this week. She said i should leave the house so that she’d be happy. When she sees my face, she gets irritated. She threatens to hit me, “the only way for me to calm down is to hit you so bad”.

I really want to leave becauze i am so sick of this household, i have no one here. She was the reason why i felt so worthless and why i wanted to commit. I just self harmed myself because i hate myself so much and wished i didnt exist so she would have a happy life. But there was a time when i loved her, i wanted a good future for her and is the reason of my achievements but she dont see me that way.

I will leave tomorrow but idk what important things to bring. I am afraid that she would be mad at me more if i leave this house and will find me, but shes actually the one who wants me out of the house. I have a home to stay but it’s my bf’s. Please help.

Hi so for context, I live in a country where getting an iphone is kind of a big deal since they are a little expensive for most people here. Usually when someone has an iphone you would consider them kinda rich. My family is not that type of family at all. All we've ever had are androids. It's not a bad thing to have androids at all btw I honestly think that if you aren't going specifically for the camera on iphone, android is definitely better, lasts longer and has many good advantages.

I've never been picky about phones. I'm in 10th grade right now and the phone I've been using since last month of 7th grade is my mom's previous phone which she passed down to me. It was already being used for 2 years before it was given to me. I've never had a phone that was bought specifically for me. All the phones I have used have been passed down.

My sister got her phone when she was in 3rd grade and I was in 5th. It was meant to be shared between the two of us but honestly she took ownership over it. That was basically her phone and I was just borrowing it.

Last month both our phones broke lol. The LCD came off mine, and hers was also broken plus getting super old. Her phone has already been repaired so many times. They got mine fixed but I still had to pay my mom half of what she spent on the repairs.

My sister has always been whining about getting an iphone ever since she entered 8th grade and saw people at school have one. My parents didn't get her phone repaired and instead bought her a new iphone 12 last week. They told me I could also use it but I knew that really. That was her very own phone. I didn't make it obvious but I really feel this is super unfair. I've never been bought my very own phone and even had to pay for my phone's repair but she gets a new iphone all paid for. She said she also helped pay for it but that phone was almost 20k php and she only paid for the case and accessories and stuff.

I hate how unfair they are so much. I know I have to understand and just compromise but I've been understanding and compromising for years. I really hate this situation. It's like they think I don't also want things like that for myself. Whenever I ask for anything I want them to pay for I'm met with the same look and response of "we don't have enough money" so I've always been one to pay for my own stuff at school and school events except for tuition. But apparently when my little sister whines and asks for something so much then she can get it.

This really sucks cause I've been keeping up my grades and getting high honors in class just to be able to ask for a reward or smth but in the end I never get anything and expectations just get higher. I want things too.

my (24NB) brother (26M) has been with his now fiancé (32?F) for 11 months. during this time i’ve only met her twice (mainly because of distance! i moved states and my brother and i communicate mainly through calls and texts).

purely speculation, but i believe she was drunk the first time i met her. i can’t confirm this but her and my brother both like to drink (she is a bartender, they met at their job) and her behavior resembled someone who was under the influence.

the other times i’ve met her have been fine; i do think she is very polite and nice! sometimes her and my brother “play” argued in front of me and my husband, which was slightly uncomfortable, but i brushed it off as them having a different relationship dynamic. we were also all drinking that night.

my brother and i have always been close. my family has never been perfect, but from what i know he has a better relationship with them than i do.

the reason i mention this is because my brother’s pulled away recently. my mom told me she hardly sees him anymore and that he doesn’t tell her things (which is expected! he’s in a relationship and growing up). she didn’t know he was going to propose to his gf until the day it happened. he didn’t even tell me; i found out through a facebook post his fiancé made.

my baby shower is coming up soon. i offered for him and his fiancé to stay at my husband and i’s house. he eventually told me his fiancé wanted to get an airbnb so that they weren’t “intruding” and also so that she could have a place to wind down. while i understand this 100%, it took at least a month to confirm these plans with my brother, which was strange.

also, the original plan was for him, his fiancé, my mom, and my little sister to all drive up in a rental. i found out from my sister (who is 10) that my brother and his fiancé decided to rent a different car and drive up by themselves, which does not make any sense to me since they’re going to the same location.

i’m wondering if i’m overthinking. is this just a case of my brother and i getting older? do i just not know her that well? is it my place to tell my brother my concerns?

i’m also going to try and get to know her more at the baby shower, which might help!

thank you for reading if you have! any thoughts are appreciated.

My fiance has just recently gotten a promotion to sales at his job. Because of this he now needs to get new clothes. I noticed to day he had gotten a new pair of new shoes from Target (so cheap but still nice). I’m sitting on the floor by them while painting my toe nails and I’m watching a video on my phone. I leaned my phone up against his shoe so that I could watch the video better. My fiance proceeds to get mad at me and yells at me telling me I’m “disrespecting him” by using his shoe like that. Are men just touchy about their shoes? I don’t really see what I did wrong.. I didn’t scuff his shoe or bend it or get it dirty… idk. I’m just trying to figure out if I’m being disrespectful or not. Just looking for advice.

Is there anything wrong with this she’s been sleeping with him since she was 3. With her and mom and dad Her mother left when she was 12 And she is 21 now and still sleeps in the same bed should I report this and if I do who do I report it to