I feel VINDICATED!
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I feel so vindicated!
My dad who is 63 finally stood up to my older sister!!!
Back story
After years of dealing with my incredibly toxic sibling, I went no contact. I've been no contact for three years and it was difficult at first.
I missed the good moments we had, but because it was a continuous cycle of being close, her treating me like I did something wrong and not telling me. Me confronting her on bad behavior and how it impacted me. Then her getting mad about that. Silence treatment
.... Me apologizing.... Repeat...
I have had a very bad relationship with my sister since the beginning. She's always been vindictive and would break my things, steal things. As we got older she did more stupid shit
She borrowed money from me and then I didn't hear from her for months and she pretended that it never happened.
she paid me back with an e-transfer three years later and said happy birthday.
Once she admitted to gifting me things for Christmas that she intended for herself.
One Christmas she said my present was under the bed. It wasnt wrapped just a bunch of scattered Hotel shampoo and soaps under the bed and yeah....that was my Christmas present.
Shit like that.
Since our mom died she has been extra.
Ok now.
My mom has been gone for ten years. My dad has dated a little and my sister is not subtle about her hatred for any other woman in my dad's life.
My dad has always been caring towards her and sensitive of her feelings to the point where I had to pretend she was the first one to learned about dads new girlfriend because it would hurt her feelings of she knew I found out first...
We are all adults... It's ridiculous.
Once my sister broke my dad's dishes over the fact that he bought a college student working a summer job a backpack because hers was ripping. He's just that guy and my sister tried to make my dad sound like a predator... I was pissed.
Since birth I had to deal with my dad telling me that I'm misinterpretating my sister's actions because she would never be so devious or as awful as I'm making her sound
...well...
My dad started dating someone new. He broke up with his last girlfriend, and told her when she was ready she needed to get her Christmas decorations out of his garage that he's been personally storing for her.
New girlfriend comes over a few days later. My sister shows up unannounced apparently.
My tells my sister that he has a lady friend coming over and if she wanted to have lunch with them that was fine.
My sister says she'd loved to meet her... Well...
My sister had a few glasses of wine and interrupted the conversation to say to my dads new girlfriend, "hey, what do you think of my dad's girlfriend's stuff still in his garage."
She made it sound like he was still dating the previous woman and my dad hasn't even mentioned it. He figured he was done with the last relationship so she didn't need to know.
New girlfriend gets pissed and leaves. My dad yells at my sister and she leaves.
When my dad told me this story, he said "she did that on purpose."
Anyways. My dad is still seeing this woman and is absolutely not letting my sister ruin it.
He even refused to take her out on her birthday because she told him that his girlfriend couldn't come.
And I think that's fucking amazing. My dad finally understands that she is in fact an asshole and immature. I noticed he texts me a lot more and every time I call he says he's with his new girlfriend or tells me about their last encounter.
I love that he has someone to share things with. I love that she even helps him with renovations he's doing which is unheard of.