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I’m 15f next month and i experience verbal abuse from my mom all the time that it made me think i am worthless and made me also think of worst things ever that could ruin me during inconvenient times. I never had freedon from this house, never got to learn and do chores because she would get mad at me for pretending even tho i want to learn, calls me a slut and no future despite all of my academic achievements and told us we’re just a mistake, never meant to be born. Recently, she told me that she wished she never had given me life and was never alive, i think that says about how she sees me as her daughter. I know that she doesn’t love me like i do, all i wanted was to make her proud and give her a better future but i guess i’m just gonna do it for myself. She made me feel so worthless and i became su1cid4al wanting to disappear these last few months but i’m si tired of it, i want to live for myself without her. I mean she helps me get ready for school, cooks for us but it’s useless if she won’t let me be independent, be on my own because i want to learn for myself. I appreciate her but she’s never there when i needed her.

Anyways

I have my things packed on my bag including my school stuffs. The only thing i need is my important documents or my birth certificate. I have a bf whom i can stay, his mom is aware and knows me fyi. I only have a limited budget but he said he would help me out. Now i am worried that if i leave house tomorrow, yes tmrw asap, she would find me and send me back home but fyi, she’s the one who said that she wants me out of the house so she doesn’t have a responsibility, learn chores etc. she would repeatedly tell me that i should leave becauze she doesnt need me anymore but yk im just afraid that she would find me. Question is, how do i leave the house, I’m planning to leave tmrw at 3pm smth, when no one is home. My brother snd dad is out by 2pm and my mom would probably be busy to wash the clothes every 45 mins. I’m planning to leave while she is in the bathroom, and try making her mad more so that it’s pushed to the limit. Do i have to leave a note or at least send a message to my dad that “i would not be coming back because i am very useless in this house, my mom wants me out of the house. i have money and will find a way to make money, please dont ever find me again because i am done” smth like that. Also there is cctvs in every street so i would probably go somewhere else to hangout like mall and commute to my bf’s, he is like 1km away from home. Any tips?? Also yes i’m still going to school. I can give further information. I need advice asap.

Ever since, i always have a bad relationship with my mom. For context, she’s a definition of a narcissist. She calls me useless, slut, dumb stupid ass, and the worst thing i heard from her is she wished i wasnt alive. I realized that she didnt really loved me as her daughter, she only do the responsibility.

Last night, we have a huge argument just because i went outside for a while. She said that my academic achievements are very useless and i should not continue my upcoming competition for a spoken poetry this week. She said i should leave the house so that she’d be happy. When she sees my face, she gets irritated. She threatens to hit me, “the only way for me to calm down is to hit you so bad”.

I really want to leave becauze i am so sick of this household, i have no one here. She was the reason why i felt so worthless and why i wanted to commit. I just self harmed myself because i hate myself so much and wished i didnt exist so she would have a happy life. But there was a time when i loved her, i wanted a good future for her and is the reason of my achievements but she dont see me that way.

I will leave tomorrow but idk what important things to bring. I am afraid that she would be mad at me more if i leave this house and will find me, but shes actually the one who wants me out of the house. I have a home to stay but it’s my bf’s. Please help. I really want to leave but scared of my mom or the future, though i have high trust on my bf’s family and him. But i am scared of what mom would do, she would either do nothing or do smth to ruin my life.

Ever since, i always have a bad relationship with my mom. For context, she’s a definition of a narcissist. She calls me useless, slut, dumb stupid ass, and the worst thing i heard from her is she wished i wasnt alive. I realized that she didnt really loved me as her daughter, she only do the responsibility.

Last night, we have a huge argument just because i went outside for a while. She said that my academic achievements are very useless and i should not continue my upcoming competition for a spoken poetry this week. She said i should leave the house so that she’d be happy. When she sees my face, she gets irritated. She threatens to hit me, “the only way for me to calm down is to hit you so bad”.

I really want to leave becauze i am so sick of this household, i have no one here. She was the reason why i felt so worthless and why i wanted to commit. I just self harmed myself because i hate myself so much and wished i didnt exist so she would have a happy life. But there was a time when i loved her, i wanted a good future for her and is the reason of my achievements but she dont see me that way.

I will leave tomorrow but idk what important things to bring. I am afraid that she would be mad at me more if i leave this house and will find me, but shes actually the one who wants me out of the house. I have a home to stay but it’s my bf’s. Please help.

Ever since, i always have a bad relationship with my mom. For context, she’s a definition of a narcissist. She calls me useless, slut, dumb stupid ass, and the worst thing i heard from her is she wished i wasnt alive. I realized that she didnt really loved me as her daughter, she only do the responsibility.

Last night, we have a huge argument just because i went outside for a while. She said that my academic achievements are very useless and i should not continue my upcoming competition for a spoken poetry this week. She said i should leave the house so that she’d be happy. When she sees my face, she gets irritated. She threatens to hit me, “the only way for me to calm down is to hit you so bad”.

I really want to leave becauze i am so sick of this household, i have no one here. She was the reason why i felt so worthless and why i wanted to commit. I just self harmed myself because i hate myself so much and wished i didnt exist so she would have a happy life. But there was a time when i loved her, i wanted a good future for her and is the reason of my achievements but she dont see me that way.

I will leave tomorrow but idk what important things to bring. I am afraid that she would be mad at me more if i leave this house and will find me, but shes actually the one who wants me out of the house. I have a home to stay but it’s my bf’s. Please help.

Ever since, i always have a bad relationship with my mom. For context, she’s a definition of a narcissist. She calls me useless, slut, dumb stupid ass, and the worst thing i heard from her is she wished i wasnt alive. I realized that she didnt really loved me as her daughter, she only do the responsibility.

Last night, we have a huge argument just because i went outside for a while. She said that my academic achievements are very useless and i should not continue my upcoming competition for a spoken poetry this week. She said i should leave the house so that she’d be happy. When she sees my face, she gets irritated. She threatens to hit me, “the only way for me to calm down is to hit you so bad”.

I really want to leave becauze i am so sick of this household, i have no one here. She was the reason why i felt so worthless and why i wanted to commit. I just self harmed myself because i hate myself so much and wished i didnt exist so she would have a happy life. But there was a time when i loved her, i wanted a good future for her and is the reason of my achievements but she dont see me that way.

I will leave tomorrow but idk what important things to bring. I am afraid that she would be mad at me more if i leave this house and will find me, but shes actually the one who wants me out of the house. I have a home to stay but it’s my bf’s. Please help.

Ever since, i always have a bad relationship with my mom. For context, she’s a definition of a narcissist. She calls me useless, slut, dumb stupid ass, and the worst thing i heard from her is she wished i wasnt alive. I realized that she didnt really loved me as her daughter, she only do the responsibility.

Last night, we have a huge argument just because i went outside for a while. She said that my academic achievements are very useless and i should not continue my upcoming competition for a spoken poetry this week. She said i should leave the house so that she’d be happy. When she sees my face, she gets irritated. She threatens to hit me, “the only way for me to calm down is to hit you so bad”.

I really want to leave becauze i am so sick of this household, i have no one here. She was the reason why i felt so worthless and why i wanted to commit. I just self harmed myself because i hate myself so much and wished i didnt exist so she would have a happy life. But there was a time when i loved her, i wanted a good future for her and is the reason of my achievements but she dont see me that way.

I will leave tomorrow but idk what important things to bring. I am afraid that she would be mad at me more if i leave this house and will find me, but shes actually the one who wants me out of the house. I have a home to stay but it’s my bf’s. Please help.

Ever since, i always have a bad relationship with my mom. For context, she’s a definition of a narcissist. She calls me useless, slut, dumb stupid ass, and the worst thing i heard from her is she wished i wasnt alive. I realized that she didnt really loved me as her daughter, she only do the responsibility.

Last night, we have a huge argument just because i went outside for a while. She said that my academic achievements are very useless and i should not continue my upcoming competition for a spoken poetry this week. She said i should leave the house so that she’d be happy. When she sees my face, she gets irritated. She threatens to hit me, “the only way for me to calm down is to hit you so bad”.

I really want to leave becauze i am so sick of this household, i have no one here. She was the reason why i felt so worthless and why i wanted to commit. I just self harmed myself because i hate myself so much and wished i didnt exist so she would have a happy life. But there was a time when i loved her, i wanted a good future for her and is the reason of my achievements but she dont see me that way.

I will leave tomorrow but idk what important things to bring. I am afraid that she would be mad at me more if i leave this house and will find me, but shes actually the one who wants me out of the house. I have a home to stay but it’s my bf’s. Please help.

I was just making my own drink which is matcha but she interferes and she does it on her own instead of me without knowing the measurements. She does all the task and says i am lazy but never let me do something independently likee?? I am so frustrated right now.

I have a thick hair that is puffy straight sometimes and is pin straight sometimes. It becomes puffy everytime i sweat. I also have baby hairs cuz my hair falls especially while doing my shampoo. My ends are also dry. I need help cause i really want at least smooth, silky and soft hair. I need student friendly products but it’s fine if i have to invest in haircare products.

I’m still a minor and honestly I’m exhausted. Earlier, a really small inconvenience happened between my parents and my mom suddenly started saying things like:

“If I ever lose my mind, I’ll make sure to come after all of you.”
“You don’t really go to jail if a mentally unstable person kills someone, right?”

My dad even responded with “murder?” and she said yes.

This isn’t the first time she’s said violent things when angry, but hearing it so casually is terrifying. I didn’t record it this time, but I probably will if it happens again because I genuinely don’t feel safe sometimes.

I don’t know if she actually means it or if she just says things out of anger, but living in an environment like this is mentally draining, especially as a minor. I just want advice from people who’ve experienced something similar. How do you cope with this? And when do threats become something you should seriously act on?

My mom casually threatens to kill us during arguments and I don’t know what to do anymore

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I’m still a minor and honestly I’m exhausted. Earlier, a really small inconvenience happened between my parents and my mom suddenly started saying things like:

“If I ever lose my mind, I’ll make sure to come after all of you.”
“You don’t really go to jail if a mentally unstable person kills someone, right?”

My dad even responded with “murder?” and she said yes.

This isn’t the first time she’s said violent things when angry, but hearing it so casually is terrifying. I didn’t record it this time, but I probably will if it happens again because I genuinely don’t feel safe sometimes.

I don’t know if she actually means it or if she just says things out of anger, but living in an environment like this is mentally draining, especially as a minor. I just want advice from people who’ve experienced something similar. How do you cope with this? And when do threats become something you should seriously act on?

Hi! I’m a student and interested sana matuto maging VA/social media assistant. Marunong naman ako mag Canva, captions, and basic editing pero beginner palang 😭
Ask ko lang sana:
ano magandang skills aralin first?
ano pwede ilagay sa portfolio?
saan usually nakakahanap ng beginner-friendly experience/jobs?
Any tips po sa mga nagstart din without experience 🥹

Hi! I’m a student and interested sana matuto maging VA/social media assistant. Marunong naman ako mag Canva, captions, and basic editing pero beginner palang 😭
Ask ko lang sana:
ano magandang skills aralin first?
ano pwede ilagay sa portfolio?
saan usually nakakahanap ng beginner-friendly experience/jobs?
Any tips po sa mga nagstart din without experience 🥹

Hey guys, sorry for ranting again but I’m honestly really anxious right now. I recently reached out to a private organization that helps minors/children experiencing abuse or unsafe situations at home because my situation at home has been seriously affecting my mental health.

They replied kindly and offered to let one of their social workers talk to me, but I’m scared because they’re asking for my age and location. I know that’s probably normal for assessment purposes, but I’m terrified that somehow someone might come to our house or my mom might find out, and it would make everything worse.

Right now my mom and I aren’t even talking because she’s really angry at me, and she’s been saying a lot of hurtful things to me lately. It’s honestly affecting the way I think and how I see myself.

My mom is also the type of parent who sometimes gets angry even when you try to do something good for yourself. So I’m scared that if she finds out I reached out for help, she’ll think I don’t care about my family anymore or that I’m being rebellious and “hard-headed.”

Ironically, I actually learned about this organization from her. My dad was telling a story before, and my mom brought me up saying she could “send me away” there because I was “worthless” and things like that.

I know this might sound easy to overcome for some people, but it’s really difficult for me because I feel like I’ve absorbed all the hurtful things she’s said to me over time.

It’s a really long story honestly, but I genuinely need advice or opinions right now.

Hey guys, sorry for ranting again but I’m honestly really anxious right now. I recently reached out to a private organization that helps minors/children experiencing abuse or unsafe situations at home because my situation at home has been seriously affecting my mental health.

They replied kindly and offered to let one of their social workers talk to me, but I’m scared because they’re asking for my age and location. I know that’s probably normal for assessment purposes, but I’m terrified that somehow someone might come to our house or my mom might find out, and it would make everything worse.

Right now my mom and I aren’t even talking because she’s really angry at me, and she’s been saying a lot of hurtful things to me lately. It’s honestly affecting the way I think and how I see myself.

My mom is also the type of parent who sometimes gets angry even when you try to do something good for yourself. So I’m scared that if she finds out I reached out for help, she’ll think I don’t care about my family anymore or that I’m being rebellious and “hard-headed.”

Ironically, I actually learned about this organization from her. My dad was telling a story before, and my mom brought me up saying she could “send me away” there because I was “worthless” and things like that.

I know this might sound easy to overcome for some people, but it’s really difficult for me because I feel like I’ve absorbed all the hurtful things she’s said to me over time.

It’s a really long story honestly, but I genuinely need advice or opinions right now.

Hey guys, sorry for ranting again but I’m honestly really anxious right now. I recently reached out to a private organization that helps minors/children experiencing abuse or unsafe situations at home because my situation at home has been seriously affecting my mental health.

They replied kindly and offered to let one of their social workers talk to me, but I’m scared because they’re asking for my age and location. I know that’s probably normal for assessment purposes, but I’m terrified that somehow someone might come to our house or my mom might find out, and it would make everything worse.

Right now my mom and I aren’t even talking because she’s really angry at me, and she’s been saying a lot of hurtful things to me lately. It’s honestly affecting the way I think and how I see myself.

My mom is also the type of parent who sometimes gets angry even when you try to do something good for yourself. So I’m scared that if she finds out I reached out for help, she’ll think I don’t care about my family anymore or that I’m being rebellious and “hard-headed.”

Ironically, I actually learned about this organization from her. My dad was telling a story before, and my mom brought me up saying she could “send me away” there because I was “worthless” and things like that.

I know this might sound easy to overcome for some people, but it’s really difficult for me because I feel like I’ve absorbed all the hurtful things she’s said to me over time.

It’s a really long story honestly, but I genuinely need advice or opinions right now.

Hey guys sorry rant ulit medyo kinakabahan kasi ako. I reached out to a private organization that helps minors/children experiencing abuse or unsafe situations at home because sobrang affected na talaga mental health ko sa situation namin sa bahay.

They replied kindly naman and offered na may social worker na kumausap sakin, pero kinakabahan ako kasi they’re asking for my age and location. Natatakot ako baka may pumunta sa bahay or malaman ni mama, and mas lalo siyang magalit. Hindi pa naman kami nagpapansinan ngayon kasi may sama talaga siya ng loob sakin, and she’s been saying really hurtful things to me lately. Umaabot na talaga sa mental health ko and the way I think about myself.

My mom is also the type na minsan nagagalit kapag may ginawa kang tingin niyang “sumosobra” or “matigas ulo,” kahit mabuti naman intention mo 😭 Kaya ineexpect ko na baka magalit siya if malaman niyang nagreach out ako kasi baka isipin niya ayaw ko na sa bahay or wala na akong pake sa family namin.

Ironically, sakanya ko pa nga nalaman tong organization na to. May kinekwento kasi si papa before tapos nabrought up ako ni mama saying na “ipapatapon” daw ako doon kasi wala daw akong kwenta and stuff like that.

I know baka for some people madaling sabihin na “wag mo isipin” or “hayaan mo lang,” pero sobrang hirap sakin kasi parang naabsorb ko na lahat ng masasakit na sinasabi niya tungkol sakin over time.

Sobrang long story nito honestly, pero I really need opinions or advice right now 😭

Hello, 14F and nagreach out ako sa mga org or foundations na tumatanggap ng mga minor who experiences verbal abuse at home like me. May isang helpline na nagreply sakin, kaso they asked my details to send to a social worker kaso i am afraid na baka magpadala sila ng someone here to talk to me personally huhu oa ba.. i’m scared kasi na malalaman ng mom or family ko na nagrereport ako or reach out, sila din naman nagsabi na they would send me to dswd kasi i was “disrespectful” to them. It’s very long story pero na mimisunderstood ako for everything. Nakikita na lang nila ako bilang isang masamang anak, kumbaga mabait sa iba pero masama talaga which is not true:,(. Sobrang lala ng mga sinasabi ng mom ko sakin which makes me think I’m unworthy though i am very ambitious and good at school. It really affects my mental health to the point na nag attempt ako last month:(. Nag reach out ako sa iba pang org near my city, isa pa lang nagreply kaso hindi pa sila nag accept ng referral cuz of renewal ng dswd license. Yung isang org naman, i think private siya and dun ata yung foundation na sinasabi ng tito ko, kinuha siya ng foundation na yun kasi he got kicked out very long time ago. Actually sa tingin ko maganda dun kaso i’m not yet sure if they accept someone like me, though gusto ko naman magstay dun kasi this environment is destroying my mental health and i want to prioritize my health and studies. Kahit napprovide naman mga needs ko sa bahay, yung mental health ko talaga kasi.. i personally think na this is a toxic household for me. Sinabi talaga ng mama ko nung nakaraan na hindi talaga niya gusto magkaanak ng “asungot” na kagaya namin. Sabi niya din kaya niyang saktan ang sarili niya tapos sisihin niya ang papa ko if ever someone notice or report. Now okay lang ba na magreach out sa ganto? Baka kasi magalit nanaman kasi si mama kapag nalaman niyang may bisita kaming social worker or what huhu.