r/runaway

Im growing more antsy by the day i plan to just get up and go leave everything behind and live. Live for once i have no plan no anything but i dont think i can take the monotony of live anymore. Say what you want call me stupid or crazy i fucking know. I just want to start living again i wanna be free i wanna be uncomfortable take chances all of it. I just dont know where to start, or where to go. I only have about 7 grand to my name but i just plan on leaving and never coming back and seeing how long i can survive on my own. If you have any ideas or advice please let me know much love

I’m 16F. I’m planning on running away tonight. My household is very toxic. Ive been wanting to runaway since i was 11. Tonight was my last straw with my mom. She got home for lunch from work and i grew up learning how to read her energy, read her face, etc whatever. And i just knew she was having a bad day and i asked if she was ok and stuff nd she said she was but idek. So first listen.. i gave up my entire last 2 summers for her to work and for me to watch her 3 kids. Who are 15, 13 and 10. They should all be able to take care of themselves right?. I was 9 taking care of all of them. Ive came to realize that my mom doesnt love me she just loves me as a resource and she loves that she can control and micromanage my life. She doesn’t care for me either she’ll be sitting there screaming her head off at me and i’ll just shut down crying and she’ll keep on going not gaf ab my feelings. I think she wishes i was my sister she had at 14 and got adopted by her friend. No clue tho. My mom’s never really been my mom. She says all the time that she didn’t know how to be a mom and that me and her grew up together.

There’s a lot that has happened but the main reason i want to get out of here is because i can’t have a life of my own. I clean the whole house everyday or i get screamed at nd shi. Take care of the kids. Have so many responsibilities that shouldn’t be mine. Give up so much for her that i don’t want just to make her happy but i’m still not enough in the end.

The ofher main reason is because she makes my mental health so shit. I’ve struggled with self harm since i was 11 and she’s known this and never has gotten me help or tried to help herself. And she yells and screams and punishes me if she finds out i did and threatens to send me away.
And honestly she is the reason.
And i feel like if i don’t get out of this house i’ll end up doing sum even more selfish shi.

Also -
I live in Cbus OH. Idk if i should stay and hide in the city or if i should go to a different state or what.
I do have multiple plans either way.
I don’t have any money but i have a bike. I already don’t eat a lot bc we don’t really have food in the house anyways.

Hello everyone, this is my first time using Reddit and I honestly would just like some opinions or advice on this, thank you.

I am a 21 diagnosed autistic woman and for my entire life I’ve been held back severely by my conservative MAGA southern family. I’m not allowed to have a job, drive, have anything to do with my finances or banking, or my own medical history. My family are Extremely sexist, Racist, Homophobic, really the whole shebang. And I don’t feel comfortable being around any of that since I’m a Bi woman myself as well. They often use slurs around me when talking about Autism even though they know it makes me terribly upset and uncomfortable but they just say “you’re the only person offended, stop being so sensitive” they’ve pushed Christianity onto me since I was really really young and have pushed the “role of a woman” onto me as well, I’ve masked all of this for years and years but I’ve finally had enough and I plan to secretly move out while they’re away on the weekend with one of my friends from Idaho. My friends are very supportive of my decision and are here for me but they’re not here with me physically. It’s now 6 more days til I leave, I’ve written letters for all my family members, am I doing the right thing?

i posted this in r/movingout, didn't get much help. so i'm 20f. before I start everything's fine, I'm safe. long story short my parents love me but are homophobic. and I've honestly put up with it for way too long. they've both used conversion therapy talking points, my mom recommended a book a couple times. i have very little freedom, at 20 I don't have a phone and I can't leave the house, I don't have money that I control. I'm not "supposed" to have social media or be writing this to you.

they do love me very much, and they do want me to move out and be independent one day. we've been traveling for years trying to find a home, we left the US. but everything is decided for me. and some days I get a lot of anxiety that my safe havens will get discovered or I'll no longer feel safe at home, and I'll have to leave prematurely. I need to prepare, just in case.

my plan is to move out safely and have my parents' support. but if I have to go, my plan is to

A) find an organization who can help me get a phone, a bank, emergency food and shelter

B) have a shop in place (I make art) that I can activate once I get my phone and bank

C) apply for student funding so I can go to school (preferably in Australia since it's lgbtq friendly), not so much for the curriculum but to be able to make friends and use student support programs

D) get a job/work remotely

E) get a dorm/my own place to stay

F) finally be me

is this a good plan? what should I do differently? and you can take a look at some of my other posts in other subs, do you think my parents are abusive? should I go asap or wait for a safer opportunity, since they're not trying to trap me forever (but that doesn't excuse their prejudice and the disrespect of who I am)?

I'd really appreciate your replies <333

I see a lot of people on her asking for advise on what to bring and what to do in certain situations. So I am going to leave a couple of tips from someone who ran away successfully. These are ment mostly for people under 18 but can work for those over 18 as well.

1. There are many people in this community that will help but beware of too helpful of people. When I first planned on running away I got a lot of messages from people willing to house me for free or give me rides where ever I needed to go. One even said it was his job to drive runaways around to wherever they wanted. These are not people looking to help they are probably looking for other things like kidnapping or trafficking or looking for a place to stay in exchange for sleeping with them. Don't fall for it! Find ways yourself like get a car (that's what I did) or take public transport or get an Uber or Lyft something or anything just don't except rides from strangers.

2. Have an end point in mind. If your goal or end point is living in the woods or being homeless don't run. You will be caught eventually or you will be found by a predator or worse. Have a destination in mind if you want to get out of your state or town look at shelters. Big cities have the most. Or if you have family that can take you on or a family friend at the least but you have to trust them enough not to hurt you. Trust me even in my car winter was brutal being outside by yourself is not good or safe. I was lucky and found a landlord who took under the table money but I had three others who would let me live for "free". (Tip 1)

3. Take your important documents with you when you go. Take your birth certificate and social security card and an ID so when you turn 18 you can start your life free from your old troubles. I see a lot of people on here run away without them and it's a hassle to get them a new or you will have to go through people you don't want to talk to like your old family so bring it.

4. You need a cell phone. DO NOT bring your current phone. That is the #1 way to get caught but get a burner. Gas stations and Walmart have plans where you can buy a card and a phone and get free talk text and data relatively cheaply. Always have your phone on you Incase you get into trouble. There are even some apps you can get that have a timer and if you don't put in the code before the time it's dials 911 for you. I know most won't want to call 911 but it's better than being trafficked. You can always try again. Safety is always #1.

5. Money being an adult requires a lot of money so you need a job. I had to get 3 online jobs and I barely make my rent, gas, bills, phone, and food. It's good to have some money stashed away but you will need to keep making money as bills like I said come every month.

6. Last but not least. Packing. Travel light nothing draws attention like a 16 year old walking down the street with a suitcase. Use a backpack or duffle or if you have a car then you can use suitcases. Bring clothes hygiene (normal and feminine) your new phone and anything else you would need if you were to travel for any trip for like 2 weeks

If you read all this and still want to runaway then do it but be safe. Again it's better to go home and try again then to get trafficked. I know this info is more for those under 18 but I am and this is from personal experience. If you are 18 and older then a lot of this doesn't apply because you can leave legally. But anyways I hope this helps someone in there time of need. If you have any questions comment and I will try to answer. Special thanks to the mods of this community for keeping us safe! Keep up the good work!

Every time I've looked through different resources or on quora, it always just says don't do it. But my mom's house is crumbling and full of rotting food, I'd rather die than live with my dad, and I wont be safe in foster care. I'm staying with my sister right now, but when school starts up again I'm going back with my mom. For the past couple years my instincts have been screaming to run away. I've seen people complain about homeless teens, saying it's taking up too much space and kindness. I don't have a criminal record. I can send for myself. I know how to forage and prepare said forage, I can make my own clothes. I will survive on my own and I won't take up resources. I just want to know if there is any city that's safe for runaways, especially since I am FTM and visibly queer. Other stops on the way to said cities would be helpful as well. I'm in the twin cities, but I'd rather leave Minnesota. Any help?

I’m a 15f (I’m turning 16 in Dec). My Dad has an incurable cancer (he’s also 64). My mother is emotionally abusive, and she doesn’t have a job. If and when my Dad dies, I will be homeless with my Mom who will get tipped over the edge and go crazy. My siblings are all moved out, and no, I’m not going to live with them. I’m also in recovery for anorexia, and I want to get away from my treatment team who I have to see every week and is saying if I lose ANY weight or I start slipping, I’m going back to the hospital/to residential.

My Mom won’t let me get a job to support myself, I can’t stand to watch my Dad die, and I can’t do this treatment anymore.

I want to run away from home. Any tips?? And no, you can’t talk me out of this.

So I'm stuck in an everlasting cycle of generational curses and I need to runaway... For my own sanity. I've thought about it many times already and the best I can come up with is buying a one-way ticket to another country, getting a job and figuring stuff out from there.

For a little context, I can't live with my family and yes, the guilt haunts me but I need to get away if I have any chance of getting over my depression and actually living life. I don't know if I'll keep in contact or not, I might be a horrible person for considering this but I don't have anyone to speak to...

I need to know from anyone who may have done this before, or knows of anyone that has, what are some steps or safety precautions I should take? Any advise on places that would be a good start, or things I should know beforehand? I can't find much when I research so I'd like opinions from people with similar experiences please.

Sorry for the mini rant, and thanks in advance for any responses...

I thought things will be better, I thought maybe If I could stay longer things will better, I was 17 when I wanted to run away. But now 19 I should run away. I can't take it anymore I am exhausted and I am tired and scared. My parents are disappointed in me and I might be in forced marriage. I don't Want this I don't Want this at all. I am artist I want to draw I want to create things not this,

Can anybody help me please?? I live in Baghdad, basmaya- as much as I Want to go to new York I don't have the money for it rn

Can my friend legally leave her family and start a new life in India?

I'm posting this on behalf of a friend because she's scared and doesn't know what to do.

She lives in Odisha, India, in a very toxic and abusive household. She's an adult (born in 2005), but her family somehow changed her date of birth to 2007 on some of her documents. She's worried this might cause legal issues if she leaves home...She wasn't allowed to have a normal life growing up. Her mother rarely let her go outside, she barely attended school or college in person, and she has almost no friends or support system because of how isolated she's been...Her family wants to marry her off as soon as possible, but she doesn't want to get married. She has also experienced physical abuse and emotional abuse at home. I don't want to go into the details because it's painful to even write about...She's currently pursuing her degree (3+ year) and has an online job that allows her to earn her own money. She also has a safe place to stay in another city if she's able to leave. Her goal is simply to move out, live independently, and cut contact with her family.

The problem is that her family won't let her leave. She's afraid they'll try to stop her, file a missing person complaint, or involve the police. She doesn't want to get anyone into trouble...she just wants to live her own life in peace...If she's legally an adult, what are her rights in India? Can she leave home without her family's permission? What should she do if her family tries to force her back or force her into marriage? And how can she handle the birth date discrepancy if her actual birth year is 2005 but some documents say 2007?

Any legal advice or guidance would be greatly appreciated. Thank you...

i probably need a better bag to leave with, something comfortable and easy to carry. i only really want to keep one bag on my at all times, and maybe a sling of sorts, if it's not too bulky. what are the absolute essentials that i should be packing?

i already know to bring hygiene stuff, my identification, money, something for self defense, water bottle(s), a burner phone, and maybe some extra clothes. there are some things that i really want to bring, like my journal, a small sketchbook, a few pictures, and my music stuff (it shouldn't take up too much space)

still not sure where to go, but if anyone wants to leave w me feel free to reach out

I'm (17 f) soon to be 18, I've been abused since childhood mainly by a narcissistic immature mother, I'm her first child and I've seen it all from her, i grew up not taken care off just always under pressure, even now that I'm almost an adult I still get beat and degraded daily, I can't remember the last day we haven't fought she genuinely hates me no matter what I do. Dad is mostly out of the picture especially right now but he will be back and he's a strict man for sure.

We recently came to syria without my dad, just 4 younger siblings, the fighting got worse and I'm not allowed to tell him, I can't do anything we are in a small town in syria I'd be doomed if I asked for help. I'm trying to finish high-school and college then think I can make an escape plan with the help of more knowledge, because I truly don't know where or how to go, I'll save up money and get a job when done with college since i have no choice but to study here. With the ice situation I'm pretty sure I shouldn't be going to America right? And I'm not sure if I'm welcomed in Canada either.

I'm preferring western countries because I'm forced to suppress myself in arab countries like syria, for example I'm an agnostic athiest but if people around found out I'd seriously be killed especially since I'm in a religious area, they have killed for less.

All I'm asking for is serious advice I'm not asking for a Knight to come and save me I know it won't happen I just need to know where I could go, or if I even could with the shitty syrian passport.

Me 17 m and my gf 17 f have been together for a while, she has been through a lot cuz her parents a very violent… We live in different countries, she in france me in Austria.

We plan for her to move in with me when she is 18
To escape her family. But I don’t know where I can find out about the infos for this. Or what she has to do, she would most likely transfer schools, but she is not sure yet. Does anybody know how to help us or guide me somewhere with some professionals

Thank you so much even if you dont know how to help us thats okay, you can help us with an up vote, thank you very much🙏🙏🙏

Hi everyone,
I’m reaching out because I'm in a toxic house environment with no money because my parent are controlling, I'm 17 about to turn 18.
They won't allow me to get a job and when I do they expect me to help pay bills. I wouldn't care to help if they didn't abuse and belittle me everyday.
I'm scared for my life yesterday my mother threaten my life, today she tried to chock me. My father also put his hands on me today while I was trying to make sure my little brother was okay because they were fighting physical and verbally. Please help me get out. anything will help. I'm scared and shaking, I can barely breathe, every time I'm around them my body goes into flight or fight. If I can't get out I'm scared of what's gonna happen to me in a few weeks. I’m in a really tough spot and need some advice or resources. I’m looking for ways to leave or at least find some temporary safety.
I’m currently live in the Midwest. I don’t have a lot of money or support, so I’m open to any advice—whether it’s about shelters, legal aid, job resources, or just emotional support.

I’m 15f and live with 23y and 21y brothers. my parents got divorced when I was 4 and lived with my dad till y. my other brother died at 7 when I was 5 and a few momoths later I was sexually molested by the 23yo brother (he was 14 turning 15). I’m only living with them again because my mom, stepdad and younger brothers moved to Poland and I can’t keep up with the education. ever since I’m back I’ve been belittled, isolated, went through all my messages even the ones with my mom, threatened to kick me out when I confronted them about the sexual abuse and then told me kids do it and I overreacted. Told me how excited for the day they would finally give me a bad beating. Had pictures taken when I was on the treadmill and sweaty by the 23yo, when I told my step mom she took his side, screamed at me because my mom has a savings account for me that they have no access to, Finds small reasons to give out to me, Made me cut friends off and recently been slapped, pinche’d and had my hair pulled by my step mom for little things. I told my mom about everything and the confronted them to never touch me again but she still does little things. I told my aunt about everything and she told me to ask them if I could move in with her at 16 since that’s Irish law. However I can’t take it anymore and I know they won’t say yes and I can’t move back with my mom. I need advice on running away. I’ll stay with my aunt but scared child services get called

I’m 16F, and i need help on what to do. I want to runaway for a week or two just to clear my mind and have a bit of freedom before i get older and can’t just runaway like this. I have money cashed out and a place to stay. I was planning on messaging my parents letting them know that i’m safe and i’ll be home in a week or two. I have run away before but was caught within the day, once i was home i didn’t get in trouble and my only punishment was that i couldn’t sleep until the night (because i hadn’t slept since i was out walking that night). I need help, i don’t know if i should do it or not. I really want to and i think i might but the thing is i truly don’t have any “good” reason, i have an reasonably good life currently but i just feel so sad in my own thoughts and ive struggled with mental health my whole life and i wanted to runaway to show myself there is a whole other world out there rather than this and to just keep holding on. Help me i don’t know what i should do!!!

A close friend that I have a complicated relationship with recently ran away from home because her parents started going through everything on her phone after they found out she had been seeing her boyfriend for a long time behind their back. I won't give too much detail but basically she has been going through a phase where she has been very promiscuous and engaged in a lot of risky behavior.

I am not judging her, but I know that she is not mentally in a good place right now, and although she is safe for the short term, all she has is her phone, she has blocked all contact with her parents, and she does not know whether she will return to university in the fall.

She lives in a large city, and although she is currently financially okay, I don't trust her boyfriend (I don't know him), and I am worried that something bad will happen. Is there something I can do to help her? I reached out a couple days ago checking in but she hasn't responded, although she posted on her story so I guess she isn't too desperate. Still, I am super concerned.

I know its a really stupid reason to wanna run away, but I hate where I live.

I used to live in the northern areas of my state. But almost 2 years ago, my mom divorced her husband (my then step-dad) because they were fighting and not agreeing on anything. She couldn't afford any place up where we used to live. I loved it there.

It was quiet, peaceful, barely any kind of crime. I saw deer all the time, I had a girlfriend, I was so close with my friends, I was happier. We lived in a valley between some mountains. It was amazing. I could go on a 5-7 minute walk and go to a lake. I could go on a 10--15 minute one to a friend's house. Even better, on the same road, 2 minutes away another 2 of my friends lived on opposite sides of the street.

But because my mom couldn't afford to live up there, we moved 2 and a half hours south to where a lot of family live. We moved in with my papa, her father, because he's been lonely since my Nana passed. He was so much happier when we moved down here. But he passed in November after getting in a crash in October of last year.

We live basically in a small city. My mom lived down here from birth to her twenties. She was almost kidnapped at least 3 times as a teen. I carry mace on me wherever I go because Im afraid of getting kidnapped myself. I'm afraid of where I live, quite frankly. Just a few nights ago, I heard a woman screaming like she was being murdered. Just a few streets down I assume. It was only the kind of a scream you would hear in a horror movie. ​I've heard screams living here, but that was just the worst one.

I can't go in walks by myself around the block because of shitty people in the world. There has been rapists and pedophiles reported just towns over. Luckily my friend lives just a few minutes away, and we can go on walks in her neighborhood because it's nicer and safer and not near the main part of town.

I wouldn't wanna be running away from my mom, because I love her wholeheartedly. She misses it up where we used to live too. I opened up to her about this, and she told me how she's always trying to find a way back up north in a cheap place. But she cant find anything affordable up there. She has to work two jobs just to keep this roof over our heads.

I feel kike im a burden to her because I'm iver weight and I can't lose the weight. So I eat more (and were already trying to go to doctors appointments for possible eating disorders because of other stuff that I won't get into). So I cost more. And i feel like I ask for a lot, and I'm just a burden to her. And she'd be better off if I ran away to up north.

If I can get the money out of my account, I can probably afford some kind of transportation back up. Turn all kind of location off. Stay with a friend ​that I dont think would tell for at least a few days, then try the forest outside their house. It doesn't hold animals other than squirrels and rabbits that close to where people live. I could try finding a job. Forge signatures.

Anything to live there again. And like I said earlier, I know it's a really stupid reason to want to run away. But I truly, truly loved jt there. And I can't get that feeling down here. It's cities all around me, barely any forests, and I can't get to them by myself. I don't have a car, I can't just ask my mom if I can take a trip to a forest where there's hiking spots m, because she'd have to drive me. And she doesn't have time dueing thr week, and I don't like taking up her weekends with my stuff to do that.

So please, I know it probably isn't, but would it be a good idea to leave? And if so, though I doubt it, do you have any tips? Please ​​

I'm almost 16 and live in a very abusive household in Nebraska. Hypothetically, if i ran away and left a note saying that i did in fact run away, would they look for me? I'm not giving any more info, so please dont ask. I have a job and can support myself.

Everyday i live in this house and family i drown in misery. Im at mcdonalds writing this because my mom turns off the wifi to my devices through her phone she just learned how to do this shit. I got everything taked away and now the fuckin wifi i have to walk 30 mins to mcdonalds just to get to do shit online and get out of this boredom. last night she took off my whole door and i didnt gat anymore i put it back on and took nails from her door and we argued for a good 20 mins and i told her i dont want to stay at this shitty hellhole anymore. I keep telling her to put me in foster care or something and she even tells me to get out of the house and go ltry to survive myself. i dont have any money and spent it all on w33d and i really need to get out this toxic ass family. Any tips? I dont know if she can track this device or not i only have this one tablet and a broken iphone. please let me know if i can be tracked from those or not. I sit everyday with disgust and hatred towards my mom and family their so controlling and manipulative its insane.