r/runaway

The title is basically all that there is to it not much of a story behind it.

For further context:

I am a [almost] 23 year old woman, who has no education (because I am planning to dropout out of university because of my abusive parents just becoming too much and making me feel extremely unsafe and the constant need to go against what I feel is important to me all in the name of obtaining a degree- ultimately they are extremely financially abusive and abusive in other ways so much so that I am aware that if I get this degree because of them I will have to protect abusers (not sexual abusers by the way) by staying silent, and I don’t want to downplay abuse and protect abusers-I never did)

In addition, I would plan to work full-time for 1 year then apply to a new university and a different program (accounting and finance program).

I would like some suggestions and tips about how to move out on my own in Toronto, Ontario?

Please provide suggestions outside of Ontario social service, low-income housing, homeless shelters, “don’t drop-out”, and “finish your degree”…

I really want to know what other useful tips can make my transition from forced dependency into fully independent possible for me like apps that make things or roommates easier to find, quality stores with respect to low-income etc etc.

Hi. I made this account under a fake name because I don't want anything coming back to who I am. I am 16, and I live in a house with my two parents and my brother. Two years ago, I was SA'd by my brother. I told my parents, and they refused to report him or take any legal action. I was then threatened extremely in fear of ever telling anyone. Also, my brother sexually harasses me by stealing my undergarments (like underwear and bras) and my stuffed animals and cutting holes in their asses to do nasty stuff with them. My parents found out he was doing this and told me that if I ever reported him for this they would disown me and kick me out onto the streets. I was terrified of being kicked out with nothing, so I have been slowly collecting money and stuff by asking friends for money and stealing cash from my parents' wallets when they leave them unattended. I tried to run away twice, and both times my parents caught me... I need help getting out. How do I not get caught? How do I stop the police from finding me? Because the second they find out I am gone, they will call the police. I can't access any of my personal identification documents, like SSN, passport, birth certificate, etc., because they are locked away. I have about 270 dollars in cash (all saved up from the methods mentioned), 95 dollars in amazon gift cards, 55 dollars in prepaid, some random sephora gift cards like 75 dollars worth (idk how usefull those will be) and like 20 dollars in starbucks gift cards... I don't know what burner I should get and when or what to bring. My family isn't a canned food family... we're a frozen food fam but its hard to lug around frozen food that will melt and where would I even put that? Should I go to a youth shelter? I've researched and they legally have to call your parents within 24-72 hours of you arriving there, but I feel like thats the most stable enviroment, but also I could get kicked out if I have my vape with me... How do i escape without my parents calling the police??

Chat we need help, me and my friend are thinking about running away and leaving the country (we are both m! nors) please don't be mean to us we just need to leave this country for personal reasons and we don't know how or where, like we want to go to any country but arabic ones because we are atheist, we don't even know how we gonna finish high school school so pls be kind or don't answer this.

im sorry if this doesnt make sense im typing this out while crying my eyes out. im 15F turning 16 soon, i am an athiest and a lesbian but i live in england with my super religious, toxic and homophobic muslim parents who will keel me if they find out im a lesbian or that i dont believe in god. For context, they dont let me do ANYTHING. im not allowed to leave my house alone, cant go over to friends' houses or have them over at mine, i have to go to mosque for 3 ish hours everyday after school, i have to wear a hijab and cover my entire body all the time even in 30 degree weather, they also abuse me physically sometimes but not that often, im not even allowed to have a bank account/card bcs they think women should not have financial freedom, they also have access to my email its so suffocating i js wanna be a normal teenage girl and live my life but they make everything feel like a battle while my younger brother gets to do anything he wants to do bcs hes a boy. i have had enough of them ive planned on running away when i turn 18 since i was 11 or smth. running away is all i think about these days i have had enough of them, they ridicule me everyday.

i plan on running away the week i get my a level results bcs if im still living with them by the time im 19 ill kms there wont be any point in living. although i dont have a job rn i plan on getting one the summer after my gcses which will be next year. ill get a job save up prob get a car by the time im in year 13 and run away.

if u guys can offer any advice or helpfor running away pls do bcs i cannot get caught, if i do get caught they WILL drag me back home and kill me. you might think im exaggerating but im really not ive known them all my life and ik what theyll do if they find out about any of this.

i wanna do a DA bcs its prob the only way ill be financially independent and not end up homeless after running away. if anyone from the UK whos done/is doing a degree apprenticeship pls lmk if theres any way i can do the interview process without my parents knowing. also if anyone from the uk w a toxic muslim family has ran away before PLS give me advice tysm for reading.

basically the way I was planning to runaway was get a ride from someone I’ve talked to online for about a year. obviously that itself is risky, getting into a car with someone you only know online. but unfortunately its the only option I have to get as far away as quickly as I can and lessen the chances of being caught. he told me he was 19 (which I believed he looks and acts 19) but a lil while ago I was like shit I should look him up make sure he’s not some crazy sex offender. I look him up full name and his state, see him on like white pages and a bunch of other sites like so. everything about him is accurate besides his age. so I’m like wtf this has to be a different dude with the same name. but nope I found multiple things on him including one that traces back to his current account that I talk to him on. so this guy is actually 10 years older than he told me he was. obviously raises some red flags, why would he lie? so I was thinking, since he’s still my only option as of right now and he seems to be a decent person, good steady career, no prior criminal records, etc. do I just leave it alone? never mention it? he’s obvi expecting me to sleep with him and stuff, and I really don’t want to. once we get to our destination do I tell him I know he lied? that I’m not gonna do things with him and if he tries anything I know like everything about him and his family, friends ect? he genuinely does not give off rapist/kidnapped vibes. you think if I take the threatening him approach he’ll back off? or get pissed and do smt to me? what do I do??

hi people I'm 17 from India . i have a very toxic strict family , lots of emotional abuse , no privacy , no bond in the family , parents who really should be divorced but are still living together, no sense of trust etc . I'm planning to run away from next year when I turn 18 , around June or July . the main problem is I don't an income source and I'm not even allowed to go out of the house so if anybody has ANY tips to help me , please write them in the comments

I live with my mom, im not getting abused or anything its actually the exact opposite. My mom has done so much for me especially as of recently. She constantly has to put up with my poor mental health and she doesn't like to say it but i know im a stressor for her. Even with her own baggage she manages to get me support and tries her best to push me to be better. But in return all i ever do is push back, she wastes so many resources on me and i use her money for weed. I thank her and i tell her i love her but i havent actually done anything for her in years not for her birthday, mother's day, christmas nothing and its like i plan to sometimes but i never follow through and she hasnt even complained. I don't have a job, i dont clean up around the house even though shes disabled, im failing my art classes for no fucking reason and its ART, shes wanted to move to Georgia for YEARS but shes staying for my 1st year of college because if my deteriorating mental health. There are so many examples of me being a horrible daughter, so im running away. Then she wont have to waste stuff on me, then she could finally live her life.

I know the dangers, even with them ive convinced myself to leave so dont try telling me to stay, i just need some advise. I live in NJ, extremely close to nyc its like an hr bus ride. I also dont know much about the laws surrounding run aways in the tristate area especially those about to be legally an adult. I don't plan on taking anything from home since everything that's "mine" my mom bought. Id like to find a way to make money fast since id need an inhaler n those r usually behind a security measure. I plan to leave around mid june. Any guidance helps‼️😋

my plan: planning to runaway: May 2027 AT THE EARLIEST. I’ll be 18 and hopefully will have had my license and should have graduated by then. I’m not a bad student, I’ll probably end HS with a 4.0, and NHS, NAHS, humane society club, and a lot of volunteer hours but my competition is pretty competitive for scholarships around me so I don’t stick out all that much even w that, I can try community college to get costs lower but my area still has high costs even for that, which is actually why I want to travel to (placeholder possibly: Cali) I hear a lot of people saying it’s better for the costs of college (even tho it’s high living cost) and better for people like me (FTM)

honestly my plan isn’t the best, and I’ve posted in another subreddit abt this and I didn’t get the most helpful advice besides stick with my living situation til I can get out w/o being houseless but I am very mentally unstable when I’m
Subjected to this kinda life (trying not to get too specific but while I would love to do that, realistically I’m not strong enough to stay subjected to my living situation for a lot more years which is sucky

This week I’ve talked w a girl whos wanting the same thing, to leave, she has no plan really or no idea what she’s doing but she wants to get out, ik her irl and were not persay close but she’s not a stranger, i really wanted a roaddog for safety and just to make things easier and ect wise but I don’t want to bring her along if it’s gonna drag me down

concerns:

1. she’ll still be a minor when we leave (I won’t) that it might cause more problems (jobs or ect while on the road) (she’ll stay a minor for 1-2 years After my earliest leave date? Honest don’t know her that well to tell)
2. she doesn’t have any plan really and would just follow me (could be good because while I do have a varying plan, I know I want to end up in a certain place
3. I don’t know her that well, we still have a year til we “might go” so I can get to know her but it’s a uncomfortable/not close relation atm
4. I wanted a roaddog but I feel as though two afab people look more enticing? To predators so might not be safe? But also idk might be better than being alone?

I want advice on a few things: location I go to (looking for cheap CC/college, (trying to get into forensics) What I should bring, car while traveling or wait til I get to my destination?, bring the girl and if not then someone else or no, and anything else that would help!

I am a m!n0r and running away has been on my mind for quite a while and I think im being emotionally abused for context is am a therian and my parents make death threats to furrys (they spuld have never gotten rid of the lethal shot) ect ect, and or emotionally neglected (refusal to get me tested for ADHD/Depression despite me begging AND THEM THINKING I HAVE ADHD and guilt trip into thinking CPS will come for me. Among a few other things, am I insane or is this abuse?

Edit: yall im 14 goodness---

Minor is censored bc I saw someone else do it and I thought I had to idk sry-

So im not going to share where im from or anything but these past few days ive really considered running away and going to live with my partner, things at home are not the best but their definitely not terrible either, im mostly thinking about running away to go be with my partner who lives pretty far, and I really want to see them, also if I go live with them I would have a lot more freedom, at home I just feel as though I dont have as much freedom as I would like to have and I know thats probably how every teen feels but im just really tired of it, my relationship with my mom is rocky so I dont care much about it. At the same time I know I would eventually start to miss my family and thats really the only thing stopping me from leaving right now, I know all of this isn't the best idea but at the same time it feels like the only option I have to finally feel happy and free. Im just really stuck, if anyone has any advice I'd really like to hear it.

Edit: Yes my partner is older, not illegally older, and just to say its not even their idea its mine they wasn't the one who brought it up i did. Despite everything, I know i am young but for the most part when I go about things I think maturely, im not sure if this matters but I do look older like extremely older tbh everytime I go out people always mistake me for 18 and older not bragging abt it, if anything it sucks. So over the years ive always been treated older and it is rlly hard and it sucks. The only reason im putting this in here is so people get an idea that its not my partners idea.

idk what to do because child protection wouldn't believe me and closed the case. Everyone thinks that my mum is so sweet but she's evil. My bff betrayed me, she and I spoke about getting a place together all serious plans with confirmation and all a sudden no she's going to live with her boyfriend and his friends and I am not welcome. When I ran away I got taken back home by my dad. I have no place to go, no family members would take me in and the only family members who offered to under some "conditions" are abusive horrible people. I got a housing worker but he can't get me anything and is such an idiot who makes everything foggy and unclear. I think he just confuses me on purpose, like my mum.

I’m 17f and seriously considering running away. I don’t turn 18 until may 19 2027

I got kicked out and am being forced to stay with family. I’ve been told I’m permanently not allowed back at my house, and it feels like my entire life has been uprooted overnight. I have a job, but none of my friends are able to let me stay with them. I still have to finish my senior year of hs but my moms saying I can’t even come back home to do that I’m having a really hard time with it because I’d have to leave behind my friends, my car, and basically everything that’s familiar to me. My mom is also saying she’s getting rid of my rabbit, and the only way I’d be able to keep him is if I left with him. For people who have run away or know someone who did, what realistically happened afterward? Did it help at all, or did it just make things worse? I’m looking for honest answers because I feel completely stuck right now. This happened because I reported her throwing me on the ground to police.

As a 20 year old syrian female resident of Saudi Arabia (my father is my sponsor) how can i run away i need help please #runaway #help

hi, I’m a 17yo female and I turn 18 this year. I currently stay in Georgia (I will not specify where) and I want to know what legal trouble I could get in if I ran away. I need to know because if it’s too much then I won’t run, if its not so bad and I know I can stay hidden then I think I will. any and all help or advice would be great.

I am from India btw.

I just can't live at home . Every single night i cry myself to sleep. I have no privacy ( so if I am changing my dress I tell my brother who is 7 YEARS older than me to go out of the room. He always says that he will not look but he looks at me i tell this to my mom she scolds me for thinking that my brother can have these thoughts, so the next time my brother is changing i said i will stay here but i will not look. To make him taste his own medicine. He scolds me and tells my mom to tell me to go out of the room. Without a word my mom brages into the room and hits me so badly i couldn't move my hand) she only beats me when my brother faces smth and if I am in the room.this is only one scenario

I want your advice to know how to apply for a scholarship abroad,for visa, how to earn money as a teen, how to prepare myself to move out, what bank account i can apply as a teenager, how to apply for college abroad.and, literally any advice u have for me.I can take care of myself. But, i can't live here anymore

Edit

* He is a medical student fyi.

I am planning to move out after i turn 18 not now.

If u don't have advice it's alright. Please don't hate me for planning to move out

my cousin is running away from home after years of being emotionally abused in an unsafe environment (their house). I am happy to welcome them in my home and even help them, as I have been doing this past few weeks. The problem is their father is a lawyer, and I live pretty close to their house. Like pretty close. They're planning to go to my house first, before going to a protection center in our city. there was an article i checked that stated that under our country (PH)'s law, it is "unlawful for a child to leave under their guardian's care". Are there any tips on how I can help them or what they should do first? They have a few thousand pesos (3.5k).

So, for the quick synopsis, my Dad has been grooming me for a while now, and I'm just tired of it. The attention is nice, it's addicting really, but it makes me feel like an object, and even worse, I've been starting to have homicidal ideations. I asked my Mom for help, TWICE, and all she ever said was, "Just stop going into the attic." Which also translates to, "Don't go into any room where it's private and it's just the two of you." Which would be fair, BUT MY FUCKING COMPUTER IS THERE. AND THE WHOLE REASON I CAN'T PUT IT IN MY ROOM, IS SO I DON'T DO ANYTHING WEIRD ON MY COMPUTER.

Which is really counterintuitive if you think about it for even a second. She also lied to me about not telling my dad she was looking for a job, so she could help me. And then, she panicked for two days, then acted like nothing happened. Honestly, I've come to hate her more than my father. I've only liked him because he has something to offer, is actually really fun to hang out with, and pays for literally EVERYTHING.

And to make matters worse I'm too young for like 90% of youth opportunities, and I have no evidence that I'm being sexually groomed. 😃 Honestly, I'm so distraught atp, that I'd genuinely rather tell this to my local gym's employees just so it won't connect to my phone.

Now, for some good news I did ask my cousin for help, since he's really the only family member I actually like and trust, and I could temporarily stay with him, his siblings, and his mom. So that's good. All I really have planned out right now however, is just a list of stuff from wikihow and the first shelter I'll be heading to. I'm saying first because I want to cross state borders and go somewhere more north. Right now my list is just this. I'll add checks for the stuff I've gathered so far, I'm postponing some of them tho, just because I don't want to get some stuff too early.

• Cash
• Change for laundromat
• First aid kit ✔️
• Coat
• Sleeping bag (I need to figure out how to zip it back up soon)
• Socks ✔️
• Change of clothes (x2)
• Changes of underwear/bra (x4)
• Toothbrush/paste
• Pads ✔️
• Hairbrush
• Water bottle
• Non-perishable foods
• Pepper spray (I don't know how I'm going to get this)
• Deodorant
• Lighter ✔️
• Flashlight + extra batteries (I don't have a flashlight in my home 🫠)
• Shampoo and conditioner in one ( This one's going to be hard)
• Washcloth
• Razor/shaver/Nair
• Notebook and pencils/pens
• Umbrella (I don't know how I'll get this I haven't been able to find one)

Anyway, any advice on running away, or how to gather evidence against my Dad would be extremely helpful.

hi I’m 14 I turn 15 in 3 months and feel like kms soo I just decided to runaway for the 5th time but I need some tips because I don’t wanna come back

Logically it's not very sound but It's the only window Im aware I can find.

I tend to go for walks for an hour or so and my family knows this. The plan was to pack a bag, leave it on the door and take it on the way and run a hail mary basically.

The situation is desperate... Realistically, How much Distance I can cover in this time?? Ideally I leave the country and cross north but Considering im a minor that won't be easy.

Other than the first path how easy is it to be tracked by bus tickets, train etc?? Is it legal for a minor to ride alone??

I’m 17. my parents found out that my (now ex) boyfriend and I almost slept together. since then, they have made my life hell. I sont know what to do. I don’t have any money. they won’t let me get a job. I’m stuck taking care of my 3 sisters. Does anyone have any tips on how to get somewhere safe? I live in the south.