Do men you date sexualize you early on?
Hello,
Im a girl in my mid 20s and Ive been dealing with an issue for quite some time that puts me off from dating and I need input.
I’m a natural ginger and I love my hair colour but the thing is that the guys I meet quickly sexualize me because of it.
Note: I’ve talked to my blond and brunette friends about this but they couldn’t relate, which makes me think that either it’s something I do wrong or it’s a ginger fetisch.
For example: Last week I was on a casual date with a guy I met from hinge. It was nice and we decided that we should meet again. Almost directly after, he started to mention sex a lot… He says things ”jokingly” like how he would like to see my arms behind my back, which is clearly not a joke, or when I’m going out he sends me his adress…When he says this things (mostly on the phone) I’m either responding ”huh?” or I don’t respond to it at all.
Hes not getting a second date.
Another guy that I met at an event, never went on a date with because he kept on mentioning how bad he wanted to sleep with me, like it would be flattering? I ended up ghosting him.
These “jokes” or early mentions of intimacy makes me feel objectified and it really shifts focus from the internal me to the external, and when that shift happens it’s impossible to go back.
Even the sweetest guys that I’ve known before dating start mentioning sex or makes lustful jokes around the first date or even earlier and it completely turns me off.
Is this a common occurrence for you others?
Im at my wits end with this…