u/BuyEvening8361

I’ve been having this question. Is it really sexual attraction if you get aroused from just reading a smut or just watch a hot kiss scene or any kiss scene for that matter. If so, then when it’s actually sex and it’s the female on the receiving end and gets all the foreplay and you get more aroused by that when reading or watching that more than the actual sex? In reality, ive had thoughts of kissing or being kissed all over by someone who I desire but haven’t had any thoughts of actual sex, which confuses me. Read so much online and it’s all confusing. Little help if anyone can.