I (27m) I'm planning to initiate a breakup with my (27m) but want to time it right.
We have been together for 8 months and are very close to each other. There are ways he is not able to meet me in this relationship and it's time for me to let go. We are very deeply bonded and just calling it quits and walking away isn't exactly the easiest thing to do. If you know anything about attachment styles, I've got an anxious preoccupied attachment style and he is fearfully avoidant. We will explore the option of remaining friends but after we have both had time to detach from each other but it will be a while. He is going on a trip to Italy in 2 weeks. Initiating this breakup will devastate him and I know it will ruin his trip. I want him to go and have a good time because this trip means a lot to him. At the same time it's very difficult for me to smile and pretend like everything is okay and I hate the thought of doing it for another two weeks+ the 2 weeks he's in Italy. If you were in his shoes, would you want your significant other to break up with you 2 weeks before your trip or after you get back?