What should I do? TW: abuse
hi, I’m a 16 yr old female. I’m currently enrolled in high school as a sophomore going into my junior year. I live with my mother and my twin sister. We will refer to my mother as M and my sister as E. We live in Montana.
My mom has always been somewhat abusive to an extent, but it was always considered a “normal“ (for lack of better word) amount. Like the wooden spoon when we were little, commenting on our bodies, etc. That all changed when our dad passed away, when we were 7. since then it has gotten progressively worse. Some instances I can remember are her smashing my phone because I talked back, messaging my friends off my phone and pretending to be me, or telling them off over something small, like the language they used, etc.
The summer before my freshman year we were getting ready to move to Washington, where M wanted to move due to issues with the school here, because they were refusing to accommodate for E, who is disabled. Because of how long this move would take, and I would only actually be going to school the second semester of my freshman year, which would put me pretty far behind credit-wise. I proposed that while we were packing, I could go to school so I wouldn’t be behind. She said it was a good idea and enrolled me. It took having good people, and good friends around me to understand that the way she’s been treating me isn’t really considered normal. However, this decision for me to go to school caused my mom to spiral, she has called me countless names, and she blames me for not moving. This has made me the target of all her temper tantrums. She doesn’t treat E this way.
I should also note that I am queer, I’ve dated two women and my current partner is non-binary. We’ll call them B. M, while she says she supports this, she has attempted to cut me off from all of these people, and constantly screams at me over who I date. This also includes her talking shit about my partners to me, drawing wild conclusions like “They’re abusive” and “They’ll probably turn around and lie about you.” I did not want her to find out that I am queer, she took my phone and went through it, which since then has caused me to be very careful in how I communicate with others and how through i am with deletion.
Recently, what happened, and why I made this post, is that while I was outside, on break from doing homework, M came out screaming. She kept asking “Are you texting B?” to which I responded yes, because I was on break. She then goes ”Tell them I’m blocking them from your phone.” To which I did, which notified them something was up. She was screaming so brutally the walls of the house were shaking. B, apparently responds to this text saying “Does that mean I have the green light?” which refers to them coming to help me. M, see’s this and starts demanding to know what it means, to which I say I don’t know. She then forces me to call them, and ask what it means on speaker phone. B clearly knows something is up, and they lie. After getting off the phone they call the police and start making their way over to the house. My mom knew they were going to come, so she forced me and E into the car, and parked at the park close to our house. This entire time she was telling me to shut up, and to get it together so she didn’t get in trouble, I was hyperventilating. B drove by the park, it was then mom put her hand over my mouth and called the police on them as well. They responded to her, told B to leave the neighborhood, and that they’re being ”creepy.” despite the fact B reported abuse, the officer did not bother to get my private statement. This officer knew my dad and worked with my mom, so by default he took her side.
I can’t get emancipated unless I have clear evidence of abuse, she never leaves any marks, and someone housing me as a runaway is illegal.
What do I do? Is it possible I’m just being over dramatic?