u/CaMaL590

I’ve had this pain on forward hinging for 7 years, just got an MRI showing gluteal tendonitis and a partial longitudinal gluteal medius tendon tear. Xray also shows an impingement. All of this is consistent with symptoms.

I’m in PT and getting dry needling - improvement is slow to none. It’s pretty constant pain.

Anyone had a similar diagnosis? Any benefit of an ortho surgeon over sports medicine?

Edit: I should say I only have impingement pain if my glute pain has gotten beyond belief. Impingement pain almost gone if glute pain is under control. Only issue is I don’t have enough strength for long walks, stairs or picking things up off of the floor

I guess I “look the part” of someone who’d be a good room mom or PTA organizer. I’ve always looked sort of young and nice. I make about 2/3 of our income and have a high growth potential still, so I see myself as the breadwinner.

I also get asked to help by my friends whose husbands are the breadwinners (and they are very well off) to help. My job is definitely more laid back than others in my profession, but I still bill hours. I go to all the school events. But creating more bandwidth to volunteer would take away from my work.

Do you just decline? Why does it make me feel so guilty?

VENT about Maycember and working moms!

I started a new job (from salaried, no hourly billing) to billing hours. This was a part of a move that depends on my salary (2/3 of our income) to pay for our HCOL mortgage (with good public schools). Also better job for my mental health.

We tried to switch some mental load tasks to my husband, who is diagnosed as severely ADHD (like 90th percentile) because of the hourly billing requirement. (Note that he is getting therapy and is medicated). I thought it would be okay since he says he’s bored at his new job. I was also spoon feeding him the tasks. Anyway, it did not work out. I was mad at everything he missed (ie: establishing care for our kids at doctor, he said it was scheduled 2 months out and it was not - unbeknownst to me). He was taking out his overwhelm on everyone and it was miserable.

I took most of the mental load back to repair things. It’s been mostly fine, but Maycemebr has kicked my ass. This week, I have to TELL him I that there is a conference, I signed up for it, and it’s at 8:30 in the morning. It’s on the shared calendar he doesn’t check. And the sign up is on a shared Google document the whole class can see. Or today I told him, remember I’m wfh for the class party. He’s like, oh yeah class party.

Mostly a vent - If I miss something, I have no backup! I am so paranoid. I don’t have a friend backup like I used to! So either I am work extra hours or working at night to makeup the time.

And yes, I’m letting nonessentials go, and I’m giving him all the physical labor tasks, but I still feel like Atlas for this family.