u/Calm-Fun-2737

Im a teenager and a lot of the alternative bands I love dont sell the same merch they used to, or some dont sell any merch at all anymore. Everytime I ask my mom to let me thrift or to buy me something from the thrift, she goes on about how "thift stores stink, used clothes are dirty, sweat stains are hard to remove, thats gross." My sister agrees with her so that doesn't help either. I dont know if I can convince her, any tips??

This might sound stupid to some people, but it's been bothering me for the past year, almost 2 years now so I wanted to make a post talking about it.

Over a year ago, I was harrassed and kicked from a scene group that id hang out with. The owner said it was because "nobody liked me." It started when I posted one of my outfits there and people bullied me for it and two people specifically harassed me and said a lot of disrespectful things to me. Some of them said sorry but the things they said still stick with me.

Ever since then, I've had such a hard time expressing myself through fashion. I constantly compare myself to other scene girls and everytime i'm shopping for clothes I overthink whether or not its scene enough for me to wear. I always feel like I need someone elses approval to enjoy a certain band, a certain clothing brand, or just have any interests at all.

Another thing thats been bothering me is my hair. Back then when the stuff I mentioned earlier had happend, I was not a fan of the idea of straightening my hair because I've always loved my natural hair texture and I didn't want to change it. I recieved a lot of hate for that as well. I did end up straightening my hair for school because my mom would force me to slick back my hair everytime I went out which I hated for many reasons. All the straightening and teasing damaged and broke my hair off to the point where I had to stop and now I style my natural hair the best I can

I know that its stupid to let these things bother me after its been so long but I struggle fitting into places and making friends and I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. I just wanted to get this off my chest since I dont have anyone to talk to about it.