I’m having a hard time accepting this.
idk,, feels weird even calling her bestie now.
we’d been friends for about 10yrs, up until the beginning of this year really.
she had to move across the country after her mom passed away 6 yrs ago, we were like 16 when it happened.
I spent ~2k on plane trips to get her here and to meet her out there.
about a year and a half ago she met this guy. he seemed alright at first. then she told me he stealthed her and got her pregnant. she told him she was considering abortion and he punched her in the face.
i told her she should leave him because she asked, and said she was going to. she did not, she stayed and decided to keep said baby. it got quiet. she told me she’d miscarried, quiet again.
then, one morning before work, I’m scrolling through Facebook and see pictures of their WEDDING.
I hadn’t heard from her for couple months at this point, kind of just assumed she was ghosting me right then and there. I made some post on TikTok, didn’t name her, no specifics, just some stupid post about being ghosted by a friend. sure, it was petty on my end, but I thought that was it.
she left a couple comments, I took it down, we ended up chatting through DMs. she told me she was pressured into getting married bc he was joining the military and by her grandparents, whom she lived with, bc she was pregnant- and she knows she’s making dumb decisions.
a couple months go by, she’s telling me she’s miserable, hates how things are going, hates her life, that she didn’t even want to get married, they’re moving even further away bc of the military stuff, she doesn’t want to move.
i told her she could move in with me and we’d figure everything out after. we ended our chat, all was okay- or so I thought. I messaged her about 3 months ago, didn’t hear anything until a couple months ago- but it was just her telling me she loves me, she’s grateful for me and that she’s sorry things are weird right now.
exactly one month after that she blocked me on everything, it’s coming up on two months now. I noticed that he also blocked me on Facebook:/
i just feel so dumb, i know there’s literally nothing i can do- but i can’t help but wonder if i overstepped?? i know i can’t make decisions for someone else but what the hell man…
i know he has something to do with this, I just feel so helpless. I want so badly to be angry, to wash my hands and be done with it- but instead i am just hurt and worried.
I’ve cried so many tears when I think about it. A couple of people I’ve talked to about it say they would be pissed, call her a shite friend, but I can’t help not to think about what she’s going through.
I literally told her i was worried about him telling her to not speak to me anymore, and she told me not to worry- but look where we’re at now:(
I’m sorry for such a long post, today has just been particularly rough.
I’m going through some really stressful stuff at the moment- big decisions are to be made. I don’t have friends so I don’t have anyone to talk to about it.. I feel like I’m at my breaking point and everything is just taking its turn shoving me around lol.