u/CamsHands

I was a marathon runner in my 20’s and 30’s. Then life got “lifey”. Inactivity followed for some time. My fitness and my health declined.

Covid happened. I leveled up my weight and my inertia during that time. My all-time highest weight was achieved. Menopause happened.

I’m now 56. In the past year, I’ve changed the entire trajectory of my nutrition and fitness, I’ve released 40 lbs quite easily, and created a new fitness routine for myself.

I’ve been walking about 3 miles every morning regularly, as well as 2-4 days per week in the gym for strength training. Nothing like I did in my younger years. More focused today on health, and longevity over stats or time.

Discoveries I’ve had just from walking:
-My flexibility has improved!
-My sleep has improved in both quality and quantity.
-My cortisol level seems to have self adjusted.
- My blood pressure has lowered itself organically.
-My emotions have regulated.
-My general outlook seems to be more positive.
-I am no longer punishing my body, rather just making sure movement is part of daily routine.
-Weight is melting off with little effort.
-I feel strong, vibrant, and alive.
-I have energy to spare.
-I’m feeling good in my own skin.

I’m not interested in being ripped or being fast anymore. In this season of my life, I’m more interested in strength as I age, flexibility, looking alright in a bikini, and being able to kick a$s if I need to. And I feel like I’m crushing it.

My (56f) sponsee (62f) writes out her food plan diligently every day. But by the end of the day, she’s changed her food significantly. We’ve discussed committing to her food plan, but she just doesn’t. This is happening every single day.

She’s frustrated that she’s not seeing progress with “her efforts”, and she does not believe it’s related to the food changes she makes daily, sometimes multiple times a day. I believe it’s directly related, but she just won’t see it.

When she changes her food plan, she says it’s because she “went out to eat unexpectedly” or she “didn’t feel like having that”. We have discussed one day at a time, one meal at a time mindset, to no avail.

She does the step work and journaling very consistently, but she just won’t stop making significant pivots each day with her food. While her choices are mostly in the realm of abstinence, I’m at a loss as to how to drive home the importance of sticking with her food plan.

How would you go forward with this person? I have never had a sponsee do this repetitively and consistently. I believe really she needs the help and I can also see why past sponsors have let her go. Yet, I feel like my HP is guiding me to really work with her on this.

Any advice or suggestions?