r/OvereatersAnonymous

Hi all-- I'm just starting step one work with my sponsor, after about 10 days of working on my food plan, red and green food lists, etc. I'm feeling really down at the length of my "red" (ie abstinent) food list-- which includes everything I would have enjoyed eating...even cheese, butter , flours, sugar. I'm going through this very angry phase where I don't even want to go forward. I'm meeting friends at a restaurant tonight and I'm annoyed that I can only have a f'ing salad while they eat whatever, they will probably get cocktails and I won't...will these feelings pass? is it worth it to continue? I don't want food to rule my life but I also don't want to live like a monk in the middle of my busy (and fun) city. I'm posting this in hopes to hear other people's experiences ... I'd love to hear your relationships with abstinence. Thanks !

I hope this isnt triggering but I will put a tag

I struggle alot with disordered eating and its very common for the binge restrict cycle, but after learning proper nutrion and being in a sustainable caloire deficit, I could see results. I was at a 400 deficit then I still binged so I dropped to 250, still binged so I dropped to a 200 deficit. Im still overeating. Im exhuasted

I feel addicted to junk food and I hate it so much I spend so much money on DoorDash impulsively and I always regret it right after it’s gotten to the point where I’ve ordered multiple times a day and basically force feed myself I hate it so much it feels like borderline self harm at some times I hate losing the money I hate getting fat I hate feeling bloated heavy and groggy it makes me sick but I just can’t fucking stop idk what to do

today my mom and my friend forced me to eat and suddenly i feel so fat and disgusting, so gross and filthy. I fear that even tomorrow they will force me.
I don’t know what to do. If they keep forcing me I will gain weight and I will feel like a pig again .
Please can somone help me and tell me what should I do?

Hi guys. I started the 12 step program a week and a half ago. I really try hard to delve in all the main principles of this program and i do feel that it can be my salvation. Still, while i’m currently doing the step 4, I keep overeating a lot and it happens in this same compulsive way :(
It would be really helpful if you could share your so to say “recovery timelines”, and especially cool, if you could share the milestones of your healing journey.
Thank you in advance and I wish you to have a good day!

PS. sorry for my broken English, it’s not
my mother tongue

I’ve had the flu the last week and a half. I’ve been lying in bed recovering, and I’ve stopped going to CrossFit, which has really been helping me with cravings (and at least burn some calories when I’m not eating great). I’ve been eating like crazy while I’ve been sick. I need some help, just a chat or suggestion would be great

We're getting to that point where im ooooing and aaaaing at my discipline, excited for the progress thats to come and i think crucial (to my downfall), thinking like ive already succeeded.

For 2/3 years, I haven't nurtured a habit that got to a full month. In fact, I struggle to think when I passed 20 days. Dieting, exercising, no drinking. They all start pretty much like how the last 5 days have gone. Lofty ambitions, strong start. But very quickly, I regress. And sometimes I cant even realise it until I look around and there i am ordering macdonals.

And why I think its because I feel like im winning the moment I cross the first few hurdles. I fill my mind up with this FALSE sense of achievement. 5 days is nothing, nothing compared to the marathon I have left to go. 5 DAYS IS NOTHING IF IT GOES BACK DOWN TO ZERO EACH TIME. Am I being too harsh? I think considering how kind ive been to myself, and how that kindness has turned to sabotage, I should.

I have a long way to go, and i haven't achieved anything yet.

I started using wegovy end of november. I did loose some kilos.

But the addiction of food is still there. I'm conscious of it and I would like something that replaces it.

Whether it be the short 5 min breaks at work (I go to the cafeteria to get a snack out of boredom or any feeling really) or the longer moments ( specifically at home whether it is to fill the void or to do something or to give me "love").

Did anybody conquered that and has tips for short and long periods?

I am on day 4 of a vicious binge… with no signs of stopping.
I’ve tried it all in OA. A sponsor who said eat 3MAD and nothing in between, I ended up relapsing after over a year with no trigger foods. Then I had the weighed and measured strict sponsors where you submit a meal plan daily. That worked for a while until it didn’t work either.

Now I have a sponsor who doesn’t get involved with my food at all… she believes in focusing on the spiritual part of the program. I started tracking on MyFitnessPal to give me some sort of structure and help me lose a bit of weight… and I ended up on this last binge.
My sponsor says I can’t recover because I haven’t surrendered what my body looks like but I don’t think it’s possible for me to surrender something that’s always meant so much to me. Especially when none of my clothes fit and I’ve gained 33lb in the last year of binging. I hate what I see in the mirror, I’m horrified by my appearance, I’m feeling lost. I want to quit 12 step as I feel like maybe this is not going to help me… maybe counting abstinence by days has become another manifestation of the disease…but I also have nowhere else to go and now I’m on an aggressive binge that just won’t stop.
I usually wake up with a high resolve and a sense of “let me try again, but this time I just don’t even care if I live or die..

To keep getting my hopes up, then get to 2,3, maximum 5 weeks then blow it has been devastating and soul crushing. It’s almost like I’d rather stay in it than get my hopes up again.

My last year has been an endless cycle of bad vs good diet and exercise habits. If being "good" was Alt1 and "bad" was Alt2, we can go from Alt1 and Alt2 WITHIN a day. Everyday starts with well how is it gonna go food wise. And im so tired. Im so sick of knowing one day ill be thin, almost fooling myself at this stage. Because the day to day doesn't reflect this future I want for myself. And once I decide oh today we're in Alt2, I can have fun with food and I just eat FOR THE SAKE OF EATING. I feel so sick with myself. I haven't worn any jeans in months because I know they are tight and I wear jeans almost everyday.

Yesterday for the first time I wore jeans out and they were so so tight the whole night I was so conscious of them and I just wanted to go home. I dont wanna meet my friends until ive started getting into a groove of weight loss. Also, I love fashion and dressing up and Everyday now I just approach it with dread. Cause so many of my things dont fit and then I dont feel motivated to do much accessorising.

So ive decided, maybe I need to be accountable to someone other than myself. And in that very cliche way, maybe I need community and support. I wanna understand what food is to me, why its so hard to detach myself from thoughts around food.