Tips for a loving breakup?
So. I am still hurting a lot over my breakup of two months ago.
I guess I need to vent and I am curious whether any of you relate.
We had a loving relationship during 5 months. Before it was official, he was also sleeping with another girl during our dating period of almost a year.
Before him I had a 9 year relationship, but that ex was rather controlling and unsupportive.
This relationship I am hurting over was different. He was supportive, kind, warm. We would dance together in the kitchen while cooking together. We would game together and there were no irritations. I think we never had a fight.
The reason we broke up is that he doesn’t want children, and I do. He told me this made him feel like we were on a sinking ship. So in January we broke up for three weeks, we tried again, but it drove us apart, so in march we really broke it off.
However, the first four weeks we kept in contact, saying we miss eachother, love eachother and we wished good night every day. Until i slowly stopped saying good morning. That hurt him and we stopped having contact 3 weeks ago.
Also when breaking up there was so much love.
My heart is aching a lot and i still hope for him to show up at my place saying he changed his mind and wants children after all.
I notice myself checking if he’s online on discord, steam or instagram.
Almost every day I start typing messages without sending them. Saying I love him, I miss him, but also that I know there is no solution to difference in wanting children. I want contact, but it doesn’t help both of us.
Only my job offers good distraction.
Does anyone relate to these feelings? Do any of you have tips for me?