(29F) think I just got friendzoned by my situationship (28M)
I met a guy at work last year and he asked me out for drinks. We had really good chemistry and eventually I started staying over at his place fairly regularly, although nothing physical happened for a while. Around November we finally slept together — nothing dramatic, just the usual “figuring each other out” phase.
Since then we’ve become very emotionally close. He sends me photos of his family, calls me almost every day when he’s away/on holiday, and generally makes me feel very important in his life.
The thing that confuses me is that we don’t really *date*. We rarely see each other on weekends, don’t go out much as a couple, etc. It’s made me question whether he actually sees me romantically or if this is more emotional convenience/companionship for him.
I brought it up with him recently and he said his instinct says yes, he does like me romantically. He said he misses me a lot when I’m away, thinks I’m amazing, and that he’s never had this kind of connection with someone before.
But he also said he’s always had a very fixed “life plan” and didn’t intend to seriously prioritise relationships until his 30s because he’s extremely career-focused. He’s also originally from another state/coast and isn’t sure whether he’ll eventually move back, so he doesn’t want to feel tied down by anything.
At first that conversation reassured me, but the more time passes the more I wonder if I’m being naive and reading too much into this. Has anyone been in a similar situation?