M37 and F36 bearing the brunt of vaginismus and things that come along with it
We’ve(I M37 and my wife 36) been married for almost a decade now! It was a love marriage, i married an amazing person with heart full of happiness. Years passed and things started cracking majorly because we weren’t intimate, we didn’t have sex, we were and still are virgins. We went to the gyno, she diagnosed that my wife had vaginismus. She proposed some exercises but after encouraging signs early on, the will faded and eventually died. We had several talks, fights, consolations but all in vain. Now at crossroads of ageing and not having kids prompted us to go for an IVF which failed.
I still love my wife like anything, i have never cheated despite she asking me to go out(out of despair), I have no plans to leave / divorce but daily nagging and unnecessary tantrum is leaving me puzzled. We will try again for IVF.
Yesterday during a fight i cried and i told her that’s it’s becoming difficult to live in this situation. We haven’t talked since, if anyone in the similar situation, how do you deal with it.
We’ve tried counselling, therapy but nothing seems to work.