u/CandyMaterial3301

I'm 30F who has survived aggressive cancer. I am doing ok, but unfortunately I am infertile, and also told it is unlikely I will be able to carry a child. I am married and always wanted to be a mom. I have some fertilized eggs from prior to treatment.

So the options come down to surrogacy or adoption. Genetics are also an open question on whether to use my eggs or donor eggs if I do surrogacy. All of this is so hard.

For those who survived an aggressive cancer and still started a family, how did it go? Were you happy you did it? How did you deal with worries about your long term health? How difficult was the process? How did you cope with it all?

Looking for some hope but also a bit of reality of the road ahead.

Anyone who survived aggressive cancer and is now infertile, did you start a family? Surrogacy or adoption? How did you deal with worries about your health? Looking for some hope.

Between these options, assuming they each own their PI firm in a VHCOL city:

(1) Solo Heavy Litigator who tries cases, with a few paralegals and one associate, Makes $1.3 million a year on $2 million of Revenue

(2) Solo PI Lawyer, who focuses heavily on pre-lit and co-counsels litigation, with one or two case managers, Makes $500k a year on $1 million of Revenue

(3) Medium Sized PI Lawyer, runs a firm with 5+ attorneys an 50+ case managers, fully runs the business (limited legal work but high stress), Makes $2 million a year on $10 million of Revenue due to high advertising costs and infrastructure

What is your best guess for the Top 10%, Median, and Bottom 10% for an Owner of a small or medium sized PI firm?

I am solo, with some VAs, and I clear 300-500k per year. Saturated California market.