Broke up with my 2 year LDR/ Fiancé
I'm not sure how to make this short, but 2 years ago I met a Filipina through her family member at work. She pursued me first, and there were green flags at least at the beginning: 6 years age gap, we're both college educated, have successful jobs, etc. I've been with her in Philippines but we also met up in nearby countries. However, looking back it just didn't seem like a good fit, and can't help but feeling like a travel ATM. I guess what I'm looking for here is reassurance that I made the right choice?
What truly compelled me to break things off was the last few months. For context, she has always asked me to send her money. Less than a month after meeting in person, she called me crying stating that her mother needed $400 for hospitalization. I suppose this should have set up red flags from the beginning. Money requests were small and spread out over time as first, but became much more frequent. She's a single mother of 1, but also the breadwinner to her provincial parents who cannot work due to health conditions. She changed her role to a sales rep during our LDR, and so money requests were usually related to travel costs for training, food, etc. This also escalated as she told me her first job stopped paying her, and last summer I was paying her rent/ utilities, etc. while she found a new job. After her new job, this continued into other problems as she constantly needed to travel (for sales) but her company wouldn't pay her for it. Keep it mind, I always tried asking her why her company wouldn't pay her for travel, for food, transport, and setting boundaries, but she would tell me she didn't know and would get angry, stating that I should "naturally know and feel" when she needs support, needs me to send money.
During the last few months, her requests were extremely frequent and large, also for work but mostly related to her child. Within a month, her child had apparently sustained an outdoor injury, but later on also had to have surgery and hospitalization for something else. She did send me photos of account statements, but a few details didn't seem right. For example, the "Phil health" discount wasn't really applied towards the total, or the account number was "0-123456." At this point, I put my boundaries into action and refused to send anything. Small requests continued. Yearly work conferences in Manila, where she posts FB photos of herself with other men in professional attire. One evening, we started exchanging long paragraphed WhatsApp messages which she initiated, and decided to end things over video chat. The basic summary of her texts boiled down to the same argument she told before, that I should "naturally" be able to provide for her, read her mind or whatever thoughts she had in her own head, stating I wasn't there for her or her child even though she rarely, if ever shared her child's life with me.
Thanks for your input