r/Philippines_Expats

Age-gap difference/dating

Thank you so much everyone for your insights about the 22 year age gap, but unfortunately I think it is the end of our relationship. He blocked me for no reason and we haven’t talked for days now. I Thought he’s gonna be my first and last but it turns out to be a lesson for me. Waiting and expecting something might hurt me more. Time for me to move on and heal🖤

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u/Cultural_simple_22 — 24 hours ago

Honest Lawyer?

Yes I recognize the oxymoron. I have dealt with 3 lawyers in my time here with situations I would like not to explain, and the first one was literally bought off by the person I was suing, the second wanted to be paid more than what I pay per hour for a lawyer in America, think $20k USD a month, and the third wasn’t even a lawyer, but purported to be a legal consultant after much prodding.

What the heck is wrong with the legal system here? It makes American lawyers look like Sunday school.

How can I find one that will at least honor their fiduciary duty and won’t try to fleece me?

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u/DarkFaceDuck — 1 day ago

Will immigration give me any problems?

I'm an American currently in PH on the 59 day initial visa-free stay. I have plans to leave the country when my stay is up, and would like another visa-free 59 days after a two month period out of the country.

If I continue this pattern long term, where I do 59 days in PH, a month or two out of the country, etc. do you think I'll eventually run into issues with immigration or will they not care?

Edit: Yes, I did the visa waiver for the 29 day extension.

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u/lexicon_riot — 1 day ago

Why The Philippines 🇵🇭 Is Central To America’s Strategy In Asia.

The Wall Street Journal’s central argument is that the Philippines has become one of the most strategically important countries in America’s effort to deter China—arguably more important now than at any point since the U.S. bases closed in 1992.
Here’s the article boiled down:
Geography is everything. The Philippines sits along the “first island chain,” between the South China Sea and the western Pacific. Northern Luzon and the Batanes Islands are especially important because they sit just south of Taiwan. From Philippine territory, U.S. forces could potentially monitor and contest Chinese naval movements between the South China Sea and Pacific.
The U.S. is coming back—but without recreating Clark and Subic. Rather than huge permanent American bases, the strategy is to obtain access to numerous Philippine facilities, rotate forces through them and spread weapons, fuel, supplies and aircraft across many locations. The U.S. now has access to nine Philippine military sites under EDCA.
The weapons are getting much more serious. The U.S. has brought systems such as Typhon, capable of firing SM-6 and Tomahawk missiles, and is deploying sophisticated antiship and counterdrone capabilities. These aren’t simply conventional training exercises anymore; they’re rehearsing the kind of operations that could matter in a major regional war.
Subic Bay is becoming important again. The U.S. is developing logistics and pre-positioning capabilities around the former American naval hub. The goal is to have equipment and supplies already nearby rather than shipping everything across the Pacific after a crisis begins.
Taiwan is a major reason. If China attacked Taiwan, Philippine geography could give U.S. forces positions south of Taiwan while American and Japanese forces operate to the north and east. Dispersing U.S. forces among Philippine islands also gives China many more potential locations to worry about instead of a handful of giant American bases.
But the South China Sea matters just as much to Manila. President Ferdinand Marcos Jr.‘s government has moved much closer to Washington as confrontations between Philippine and Chinese vessels have intensified. For the Philippines, American military cooperation provides deterrence against China that Manila couldn’t realistically generate by itself.
There’s a significant downside for the Philippines: closer integration with U.S. forces could make Philippine military facilities targets during a U.S.-China conflict. Beijing argues that Washington is militarizing the country, and some Filipinos worry that the U.S. presence could drag the Philippines into a war.
The big takeaway: Washington increasingly sees the Philippines not simply as an ally it is obligated to defend, but as a geographic centerpiece of the U.S. military strategy for deterring China. The combination of Luzon, Batanes, Subic Bay and access to nine bases gives the U.S. something extremely difficult to replicate elsewhere.

u/AmericaninSEA — 1 day ago

Have you guys used eSIMion?

Seems legit, I'm curious if you have sent them your itinerary to get your eSIM before? I don't enjoy having to figure out which carrier or network to use, so I'm looking into this one.

u/Inevitable-Syrup8232 — 22 hours ago

Most of the women I talked to have been sexually assaulted

Over the years I would say 70% of the woman in my experience that got comf enough w me to get to the stage where they just tell u everything about their life unprompted ,eventually tell me that when they were young they were touched inappropriately or worse

Some by their own brother or father I kid u not

Dark thing about Philippines,prolly other third world countries as well but i don't know intimately

I wish I was lying btw

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u/Personal-Ad7148 — 1 day ago

Expats. How did you meet your wife/gf? Did you meet them after you had moved and settled or did you meet them online and then decide to move to PH

Also do you think it is harder to meet a woman for a genuine long term relationship in PH nowadays compared to 10-20 years ago

What advice would you give to those looking for love and possibly looking to move/retire in PH?

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u/Euphoric-Pearl — 1 day ago

Could you recommend some areas that are relatively safe and welcoming to immigrants?

I’m an 18-year-old Japanese man, and I’m hoping to live there in the future while working in the food and beverage industry.

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What's your red flags in the Phillipines?

As much as I love this country. Some people are opportunists. Here are my red flags.

Any discussion of an investment

Any discussion of a loan.

Any sudden family emergency.

Telling me thats the way it is.

Asking me to trust them.

Once these topics are discussed. I distance myself. Why? Because I never discuss politics, religion and personal finances. Especially when you just met people. Genuine relationships respect these boundaries.

What's your red flags?

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Ninja Van are a bunch of liars

Said they attempted delivery. No attempt was made. Called them, and they said the house is not on their route, so they will not deliver and just will ship back to Amazon.

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u/LessWeakness — 1 day ago

Flood Tax - "Venice with leptospirosis"

Flood tax - By Vernon Velasco (Read on the Daily Tribune)

They sell you a condo for P20 million. "Prime location." Luxury. Strategic.

Then it rained on Monday and, suddenly, "strategic" means you can see Makati from the window but you can't get to it.

You're 10 minutes from Makati CBD. On the brochure. By kayak, maybe 12 minutes.

And the developer still calls it "resort-style living." There's water everywhere. Venice with leptospirosis. That's the miracle of Metro Manila real estate. First-world prices sitting on top of fourth-world drainage.

"Exclusive community." Nobody can get in. Nobody can get out. Imagine spending P70 million on a penthouse and calling your business partner: "I can't come in today."

"Why?"

"My luxury has surrounded me."

Location, location, location. Everybody knows it. In Manila? Elevation, elevation. The truly rich guy is the bastard across the street whose driveway is eight inches higher. That guy is an oligarch.

"But, sir, technically, the flooded road is outside the property."

Outside the property? That's how I get to the property. Try selling a fancy restaurant and say, "The food is fantastic. Unfortunately, there's no door." Unless the penthouse comes with a helicopter. Then we're talking.

Everybody in Metro Manila has already solved the flood. Except the people whose job it was to solve the flood.

Raised sidewalks, entrances; elevated parking. Condo has pumps; mall, barriers. The poor raise their stuff because they can't afford to raise the floor. The commuter buys boots. People buy 4x4.

You live in Metro Manila long enough even the way you look at cars changes. You see a sedan, nice car. Then it rains.

Now you're looking at height. Tires. Ground clearance. Then you see the guy with the Ram and snorkel. A snorkel. In the city.

You used to look at the guy and say, what a lunatic. Where is he going? Africa? No. He's going to f*cking Landers. His office is in Ortigas.

People have started buying around the flood. Building around the flood. Driving around it. Living around it.

And, because people adapt, government gets away with it. You lose P800 because you can't get to work. Restaurant throws away food. A business loses a day. A delivery rider takes an P80,000 motorcycle into floodwater to deliver an order worth P39.

Thirty-nine pesos.

Who priced the motorcycle into the delivery? His factory just went underwater. Maybe P39 looked cheap because nobody charged you for the full risk of getting it to you?

We push the cost to the gutter until it reaches somebody too small to push it any farther. Nobody calls it tax. I will. The flood tax. Congress never passed it. BIR doesn't collect it. No receipt. But, every time it rains, you pay.

Unlike normal tax (which is at least supposed to build something useful), flood tax often pays to repair the thing you already paid to build.

It's like buying an umbrella then getting charged because you still got wet. Maybe that's the real flood scandal. And it's only one version of the problem.

Open a business in the Philippines and everybody tells you "You need a generator." Really? I thought I needed customers?

And nobody says this apologetically. "Generator?" Yessir. Like you're an idiot for expecting electricity from the electricity company.

Then you need backup Internet. Backup supplier. Backup route. Backup vehicle. Eventually you need a backup Philippines.

We hear the same pitch about the Philippines. Easy place to do business. English-speaking workers. Young workforce. Cheap labor. Very attractive.

But cheap labor isn't cheap if you can't reliably get the labor to the building.

You show investors Philippine wages against Singapore. Great. Now show them Monday morning when 18 percent of the shift is stranded because Magallanes tunnel disappeared.

You don't care that Filipinos are resilient. As an investor, that word might scare you. Why does everybody need to be so f*cking resilient? You want employees who arrive boringly, work boringly, go home boringly.

Resilience is what you need when reliability has already failed. | Vernon Velasco

u/Next_life_stage — 1 day ago

Will give away 30 gift bags for kids!

It's nothing for me, and maybe i can bring some happiness for some kids!

The Philippines does a lot for me, mainly giving me the freedom I need so I can give some away.

each bag has like 500 PHP value, I guess so 15K php giveaway

u/IB-TRADER — 2 days ago

Are the most expensive hotels worth it?

Most of expats i read here complain about being overcharged 50 pesos for balut or getting scammed for 200 pesos taxi.

Anyone been to most expensive 300-1k USD a night hotel in Philippines? are they worth it?

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u/AmbitiousYoutuber — 2 days ago

Left Suitcase in Laguna

My family accidentally left a medium sized suitcase at our in-laws and are about to board our flight from MNL to Seattle. Nothing vital is in the suitcase, just snacks and clothes. Anyone have advice on how my in-laws can get this back to America in a cost effective manner? I’ll give them money for shipping, but trying to avoid paying an arm and a leg.

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Age-gap difference/dating

Does anyone here have experience dating someone with a significant age difference? My partner and I have a 22-year age gap, and I’d love to hear from others who are in a similar relationship.
How is your relationship going so far? What has your experience been like, and how do you handle the challenges that come with the age difference?

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u/Cultural_simple_22 — 3 days ago

Does anyone have a theory as to what's behind the recent rise in school violence and shootings in the Philippines?

There's been two school shootings in the past two months. The latter being livestreamed by the mass shooter. There have also been other incidents I've seen including a mass stabbing.

I have a young kid with my partner and we're considering whether to put her to school here, or in the UK. Honestly, these recent events have made me reconsider whether putting her to school here (even in a private school) is a good idea.

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u/Immediate-Ad-6306 — 3 days ago