u/Canyouhelpmeottawa

What is the likelihood of this surviving?

They planted 112 trees.

We never got to have our babies and it has burned a hole in my heart that will never heal.

Like with many other child free not by choice individuals, I haved turned other things into my baby. For me that is my cats. When I stopping trying the first time, I adopted two kittens, Marilyn and Monroe and with my at the time existing cat, Seishou they brought me so much joy. These days it is just Marilyn and I and while I love her deeply, I need more in my life and I want to adopt another cat.

I have an opportunity to adopt 2 Maine Coon adults. Owning a Maine Coon has always been a bucket list item for me. But l have multiple dilemmas.

Firstly, I have always been an “Adopt. Don’t Shop” for pets person, I know there are a ton of cats that need to be rescued but they aren’t Maine coons. If I don’t adopt these cats someone will.

Secondly, I don’t think I want to become a three cat household again. Three cats are a lot of work, food and money. The owner of the cats says they are not a bonded pair although they were littermates and have lived together since being born. The breeder says that they are bonded. I really just want to take one cat, but I am wondering if that is cruel.

The third dilemma is knowing that Marilyn (present cat) will find it hard to have another cat in the house, she has definitely bloomed since becoming my only cat. She can be timid and would be physically smaller than the new cat. But I’m lonely and I need more in my life. I am single, and I don’t see that changing.

The reason I’m coming to you guys with this dilemma is because you understand the pain of never having had your baby. Never getting to build the family you wanted.

A big part of me feels I should just say fuck it, put myself first and get this cat maybe even both of them.

Another part of me is struggling, feeling that going forward with this adoption is irresponsible.

I am wondering if you have ever being in the same
situation?
Where you choose to do (or not do) something because you didn’t get to have children, and the action in some way fills that hole?

What would you do if you were me?