AITA for not subsidising my SILs out of pocket non medical Ozempic?
Quick background- my husband and I have been supporting his alcoholic brother and wife and kids while his brother struggles to get sober. We have helped with housing and paying bills and finding them jobs and even paying for multiple rehab stays for him. It’s not just finance. We also emotionally support the kids and take them on vacation with our family and try to get them away from the fighting and volatility when brother is actively drinking. Basically we love the kids and tolerate the adults even though they are totally fu$* ups who honestly have taken advantage of our generosity repeatedly. We are working with Alanon and a therapist to try to set stronger boundaries and stop enabling beca nothing we do seems to help. Right now he’s out of rehab but still drinking and we are trying to get him into an outpatient facility. His wife, my SIL, is in total denial about his serious issues and is no help. She has addiction issues too. She doesn’t work steadily and she doesn’t contribute financially to anything. So recently she came to my husband and said she wants to try Ozempic because she hears it helps with cravings and it might help her quit and lose weight and gain some self esteem. But she’s not medically eligible so it will cost $1500 a month out of pocket and she wants my husband to cover the cost. He is feeling weak because the kids are struggling with their dad and his visible drunken behavior. He wants to do everything he can and hes inclined to say yes. I said no way!! This woman should get herself a job!! Pay her own bills and rent and take care of her own kids and husband and stop expecting us to subsidize her life! Now my husband says I’m an asshole and I’m being a b*tch. Yes or no?