So basically, me and my ex dated from September ’23 to January’24, shortly after, I met my now boyfriend in June of ‘24, though we did not begin dating until October of that year, right when I met him, I was instantly attached, I cut off all of my options and “moved on“ from my ex. But I don’t believe I actually moved on, I just believe I filled an ex shaped hole.
Because it has been over year me and my now boyfriend have reached a complacency stage, no more being in love really on my part, but I do love him.
Either way, I still think about my ex and I honestly haven’t stopped since.
The biggest dilemma I have is the fact that me and my boyfriend live 2 and a half hours apart, and me and my ex work together…. So I see him almost every day of the week and my boyfriend only on the weekends, sometimes. And you know, people say ”absence makes the heart grow fonder“ but honestly I feel as though it’s making mine duller.
I could never cheat on my boyfriend like ever because I just don’t believe I could live with myself after, and plus it’s just wrong, and my boyfriend is really one of the best people I know and is so kind and hardworking and I know that he could give me the best life, but what if I’m missing something? What if I can never get my ex out of my head, and I just waste my life thinking about someone else?
I do like to believe that when I’m done with school and move states with my boyfriend, I won’t think about him or care anymore, but then he told me today that he would probably end up getting a job one day in Texas, which is where I’m moving….
And me and my ex do talk, however we have not talked over the phone or anything out of person since ’24.
But, say I did breakup with my boyfriend, I would be doing it for nothing because I don’t know how my ex feels about me now, and it feels wrong if I reach out I ask.
**TL;DR;** :
I cannot get my ex out of my head even though I love my now boyfriend, and I’m scared of what I might lose if I let either of them go. What should I do?