What can I (31F) do to accept my friends (31M/28F) dont want to be my friends anymore?
Sorry for the grammar but similar to what the title says, how do you accept your friends want to stop being friends?
My Husband (32M) and I (31F) are friends with another couple (31M/28F), we've been friends for about 10 years now. They're going through a tough time right now so we wanted to be supportive and helpful but we dont want to force it. They did send us a "sorry we're alittle distant rn" text when I sent them an edible bouquet to cheer them up. We told them not to worry and that we're here always.
Except the guy virtually stopped responding to our group chat and everytime we've asked them to hangout they either have an excuse, or blow us off or respond to a different part of the text. Theyre also depending on 1 income right now and they say theyre too broke to hang out so we totally get it. The thing is the girl still posts on her stories, hanging out with other friends and going to restaurants and getting little treats with her friends.
This past thursday, we asked them to hangout during the weekend but they ignored it and the girl responded to a different part of the text. Today we found out they went to a restaurant with a mutual friend of ours. Then they texted my husband and I saying they're having a fire at their house later, unfortunately we had dinner plans but we told them we can go after. Basically, she was like "oh well we'll let you know if we're still having one" so I said "okie". Dinner ended & we went home cause we never got a text but as soon as we got home I saw on her story that they were still having a fire with our friend. I debated texting them but ultimately my husband said "they said they'll let us know" so I left it.
My husband and I are pretty hurt about it and we're trying not to over think but if it goes on like this, I dont want to feel more hurt than I do now so how do you accept your friends dont want to be friends anymore?
If im overthinking it, great - we'll still be here whenever theyre ready to hangout and be friends again but I dont really wanna feel rejected and cry about it every time.