u/Careful-Information3

I’ve been working in an in-house public sector role for the last year. Hasn’t been what I thought it would be, and have had some challenges with work personalities.

I received an offer for a junior solicitor role in a small and private firm. This will be my first time in a private firm, as I’ve been in-house since graduating 3 years ago.

What should I do? There will be a pay decrease, but I’ve heard it gets harder to switch to private later in your career so idk if now’s the time. Any advice?

I’ve been reporting to a narcissistic manager for the last 12 months. It has been the most stressful work environment I’ve had so far. I’m the most junior team member. There’s been excessive criticisms, moving goalposts, double standards, and feeling unsafe and gaslit. I can’t seem to do anything right, even though other senior members think otherwise. She speaks to me normally in front of others but when we are alone, all I can say is the mask comes off.

This culminated in me having a mental health crisis and taking two weeks off work for stress leave. I’ve been back on month. With a lot of inner work within myself and working with my counsellor, I am developing techniques to distance my self worth from her validation. Tbh, I am trying very hard not to care about it all. Nothings really changed culturally, but I’m trying to just focus on my work.

Then, out of nowhere, she has set aside time for us next week to ‘fix our relationship’ with an HR advisor present. I still don’t trust her and I feel like this is just a way to make herself look good and perhaps look like the victim.

At the same time, I want to give her the benefit of the doubt. The last thing I want is to be gaslit. She said I can bring a support person but I don’t have anyone free during this time.

Does anyone have any advice please????

I’ve been reporting to a narcissistic manager for the last 12 months. It has been the most stressful work environment I’ve had so far. I’m the most junior team member. There’s been excessive criticisms, moving goalposts, double standards, and feeling unsafe and gaslit. I can’t seem to do anything right, even though other senior members think otherwise. She speaks to me normally in front of others but when we are alone, all I can say is the mask comes off.

This culminated in me having a mental health crisis and taking two weeks off work for stress leave. I’ve been back on month. With a lot of inner work within myself and working with my counsellor, I am developing techniques to distance my self worth from her validation. Tbh, I am trying very hard not to care about it all. Nothings really changed culturally, but I’m trying to just focus on my work.

Then, out of nowhere, she has set aside time for us next week to ‘fix our relationship’ with an HR advisor present. I still don’t trust her and I feel like this is just a way to make herself look good and perhaps look like the victim.

At the same time, I want to give her the benefit of the doubt. The last thing I want is to be gaslit. She said I can bring a support person but I don’t have anyone free during this time.

Does anyone have any advice please????