r/ToxicWorkplace

long paragraphs, apologies!

i’ve worked as a server for a family owned restaurant for about 2 months. every single day i clock in i feel like something is always happening, and not in a good way. i’m the newest employee there and i’ve already been frequently tasked with opening the restaurant entirely by myself. i either have no customers or 5+ parties at a time. i’m usually given my hours for the next day at 11pm the day before, i’m not automatically given 30 minute breaks for 7+ hour shifts, and when i do i feel rushed/have to end it early because a bunch of people come in. i’ve been chastised for sitting down when i need to. i worked an 8 hour shift yesterday entirely on my feet with no breaks because i was the only one working in the place aside from the cooks; and had more than 8 tables at the same time.

the boss of the restaurant has insinuated that i’ve done sketch things. more recently, a coworker and i had separate shifts and one of us miscounted the register. the boss pulled us both aside and called us out in front of customers, and said we both would have to take a cut from our paychecks to make up the loss. just today, i came into work and the boss took up one of the blenders, insinuated that i broke it due to the fact she saw me make several drinks and warned me about the blender breaking, and said i would need to pay for it. in general, she does not communicate with me; she does not reply to my messages or calls, and always comes to talk to me in-person when she’s upset, right before i’m about to leave to catch the bus (well after i clock out), or when i come to collect my paycheck, which is often because she never remembers to pay it on time.

while sending out the schedule the day before is legal in my state; the rare breaks, late paychecks, and taking out money from my check for register error/equipment are all illegal. on top of that, i’m fortunate enough to be from a state that requires employers to compensate the difference for service workers if the hourly wage + tips does not meet the state minimum wage requirement. however, she does not do that and i end up coming home well below what i need to pay the bills. i want to report this to someone, but feel hesitant because 1.) she NEVER puts anything in writing and holds me accountable for remembering things, even meetings and different consequences, and 2.) i know this is probably dumb, but i’m unsure of the legal status of some of my coworkers. the majority of the establishment is latino, including myself; but due to the political climate, i don’t want to cause a governmental issue of this caliber, especially knowing that it has a decent chance to escalate and that i have no written proof of anything.

i like my coworkers, i like the family that runs it; the food is good; but i can’t keep living like this. i don’t know what to do and would appreciate some advice about how to go forward if there is any besides just finding a new job.

TLDR: i’m a server not allotted proper breaks and get chastised for a lot of various things. my boss does not communicate and has accused me of breaking equipment and takes money out of my paychecks to compensate them; and does not give paychecks on time. i want to report but i don’t know if i even should due to having no written documentation and the fact that i don’t know the legal status of some of my coworkers. seeking advice on how to proceed.

I’m a physician doing fellowship training right now. This is the final step in training for all doctors before they “make it” and finally become full practicing doctors. This also means that I don’t have a single “boss” but rather I work with an entire panel of physicians so my “boss” for the day (called a supervising attending physician) changes every day.

Anyways so I went into the clinic with a motorcycle jacket on and carrying a helmet. I went through the back entrance where patients don’t have access too. And as soon as I come in, my attending physician tells me “Do you know where you are right now? Do you think it’s appropriate? Do you think a patient who saw you come in will trust you now?”

I have no idea why my mode of transportation makes me any worse or better as a physician.

Long story short, I was given a warning from HR for "poor performance" after I reported my boss's behavior for yelling at me over the phone for the 3rd time.

After given this warning, I noticed my boss isnt really helping me and has increased their demands and complaints and constantly ccing HR on every little thing. Im not surprised by this at all and I have been documenting on my end to protect myself.

At the end of the day, I recieved an email from my boss complaining that I didnt delete a document that I was going to delete before the day ended. I was in the middle of updating my personal notes and wanted to slow down, thats it!

I thought that was absolutely ridiculous. I think I hurt my boss's feelings when I reported them to HR lol.

Edit. Wow, I didnt realize this post was going to get alot of attention lol. Look guys, Im just venting into the internet void about a shitty situation and thats it.

For those who are curious, I forgot to mention that the HR person is ALSO my other reporting manager that I worked closely with since starting at this company. She was promoted into HR shortly after I started working this current position. I was suspicious about this werid HR/manager combo.

Between my two managers, I didnt have any outside resources other than these two managers and only one of them offered some sort of assistance to my growing workload. I dont regret what I did at all, I have especially seen this happen with past coworkers who asked for help and its just straight up time for me to leave. I look forward to being fired from this job because you need to sell your soul if you want to stay

I (32F) work at a small insurance firm. Team of 8. I‘ve been here 4 years. My boss has never been warm, but she’s always been technically “professional.” Until now.

I had surgery 11 days ago. Planned, documented, approved by her in January. She said “take all the time you need.” I‘m still recovering. I can’t drive yet.

This morning at 7:42am she sent a team-wide email. Subject: “Attendance patterns.” Body: “I’ve noticed some team members are taking more unplanned time off than usual. Just a gentle reminder that we all need to be mindful of our commitments. Please keep me updated on your return dates.”

I have been on approved medical leave for 11 days. Approved. By her.

I checked the team chat. Three other people got the same email. One is on bereavement leave. One has a child in the hospital. One just had a baby two weeks ago. None of us are “unplanned.” All of us followed protocol.

She sent this to everyone. As a “reminder.”

I have the screenshots. The email. Her January approval. The chat messages from the others. I haven‘t replied. I don’t know if I should.

Part of me wants to forward everything to HR with the subject line “attendance patterns.” Another part wants to forward it to her boss. A third part wants to reply-all so everyone knows this wasn‘t just them.

I’m supposed to return Monday. I don‘t know how to walk in there and pretend this didn’t happen.

What do I actually do here?

What happens when the function that is supposed to protect the employee experience becomes one of the reasons people stop trusting the organization? Yes, that is the ER team of this f*cking organization led by J*FF M*N*W*T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Totoo ba? Wala na ba talagang iba pa???????????????

I heard from sources DOLE cases are mounting high because of the practices of this TEAM. They will carelessly handle the cases as if the concerns are their playground LIKE YOU'RE A F*CKING FBI TEAM WITH CLOWN HEADS. I really wonder why this is not being looked at. Shows to prove employees are just mere robots in this organization. They don't f*cking listen and they don't f*cking CARE! You come to work at your early morning shift, receive an NTE you know nothing about, how do you expect us to work productively with this kind of approach?????????? Investigations are done without thought, how can you trust them to protect? HOW? PWC AC MANILA mancomm, why are you NOOOTTTTT LOOKING INTO YOUR IMBECILE EMPLOYEE RELATIONS TEAM????

I have a supervisor that was not previously my supervisor. He asked me out and I had turned him down, fast forward he is now my supervisor and I feel like he is trying to get rid of me. I don't know what to do. I do have the text messages and I do have an audio clip. Also there was an incident that happened at work where for adults were all talking and having fun and joking around and one person went and told on just me. Not anyone else even though there was four of us I was the only one in HR and I asked them why I didn't understand the fact that there was four of us talking but I was the only one getting in trouble and supposedly I took it too far. Which I did not... Now there's rumors going around. I tried to talk to him my supervisor because of what they're saying about me but he's like it's the same thing just like he said she said stuff you can't really do anything. They're not going to take anybody else and HR though.. he also said he wasn't trying to get rid of me which makes me feel like he is. I left that conversation feeling more disheartened and feeling like I have to watch my back everywhere and that I can't even speak to anybody at work.

Basically to sum it up. I was put on a written warning for “toggling”. I had a few times where my computer system would crash and even though I would notify my manager, I have had some experiences where I forgot time stamps on when my system would crash. Mostly due to me needing to jump back on the phone so I wouldn’t get in trouble… well those occurrences caused me to be place directly on a final since “toggling” is considered work avoidance and does not need any 1st or second warnings. I have been with my company 10 years and gave blood sweat and tears, I came back a few months ago after maternity leave and through out dealing with post partum and other stresses I still managed to make sure my numbers where above the required. However they now have said screw all that. You have been “toggling” you are out of here. I am considering going on leave because of the stress! Anyone have any advice or experience on what I should do?