r/ToxicWorkplace

I (22F) am looking for a new job with better pay and benefits, but my current workplace found out and is now giving me an ultimatum. I can either put in my two weeks by the beginning of June, or I have to commit to stay for the foreseeable future. I have put in multiple applications and am still looking, but I haven't heard back from any of them.

But before we go too much further let's talk about why I want to leave this job. First, the managers there treat many of their employees with disrespect and will pull them of their assigned job to do a job that is in a completely different section of the business. The male manager and a few of the other male workers there can also tend to be inappropriate with the younger female workers and make us uncomfortable. Third, the pay is not good and we receive no benefits. And lastly, they are constantly changing our schedules up to the day of, so you can never really feel comfortable making plans.

I have many people in my life pressuring me to stay, but I am not even sure the job can sustain me long term. I really want to move on from this job but if I leave and never hear from the other jobs I will be unemployed. (I do have enough savings that could sustain me for 5-6 months though if I was unemployed for a while.) So what's your advice? Should I stay at the job and suck it up, or should I put in my two weeks and risk being unemployed temporarily?

A girl in my PG died by suicide on 19th May.

She was 28. Worked at Swiss Re.

And I’m posting this because I genuinely don’t think this should be buried and forgotten like just another “incident.”

She was one of the kindest people in the building.

The type who would sit in the common area and talk to everyone. Offer food she cooked. Check on people casually. Make strangers feel included.

You would NEVER look at her and think she was struggling internally.

On the morning of the 19th of May, the cleaning staff found her hanging in her room.

Police came. Forensics came. Everyone in the PG was questioned.

They found a 3-page suicide note.

And from what people in the building heard, most of it wasn’t blame or anger.

It was gratitude.

She wrote about people who had been kind to her. She even made sure to mention that the PG owner was a good person — almost like she wanted to protect innocent people from trouble even in her final moments.

That part honestly broke me.

But what stood out even more:

Not a single colleague from work was mentioned by name.

According to her roommate and conversations she had with her parents, she had been facing workplace harassment for a long time. Mocking. Isolation. Mental pressure. Being treated badly by colleagues.

Her parents had apparently asked her to leave the job multiple times. They told her they would support her no matter what.

Financially, she was doing extremely well. Around ₹1.7L/month salary plus additional freelance income.

So no — this wasn’t about money.

This was about what a toxic environment can slowly do to a person mentally.

And what disturbs me is how invisible this kind of suffering still is.

People only take harassment seriously when it’s loud and dramatic.

But sometimes it’s subtle humiliation every single day.

Being excluded.

Being mocked.

Being made to feel small repeatedly until your mind breaks silently.

And then suddenly everyone says:

“Why didn’t they speak up?”

Maybe because people are scared nothing will happen.

Maybe because they think nobody will believe them.

Maybe because corporate environments are very good at protecting systems instead of people.

I’m posting this because a human being is gone.

And if workplace harassment truly played a role in pushing her to this point, then this should not be brushed aside quietly.

No HR presentation or mental health webinar means anything if employees are suffering silently inside the same building.

If you work somewhere toxic:

Please speak up.

Please document things.

Please tell people.

Please leave if you can.

No paycheck is worth losing yourself over.

And if companies genuinely care about mental health, then they need to stop treating emotional harassment as “normal office culture.”

Because sometimes the damage doesn’t leave bruises.

Sometimes it leaves a suicide note.

Given the current market situation it's probably going to take some time for me to switch from my toxic work environment. Also it has just been 5 months and I don't want my CV to scream lack of commitment, so I have decided to face my fears and take one day at a time. I have started talking very less so that the bullies have less content to use against me and I have started slowly shifting my focus to the life outside of work. I hope this works.

One day in, the distant future, there will come a time

When a hero will rise and be called to action

When the numbers from studies can't hide

What the fallen carry

From neuromuscular disorders

Such as Fibromyalgia to autoimmune disease to heart troubles, gut issues,

And everything that can be linked to Fight-or-Flight traumas

This hero will put two and two together

And form the biggest class action lawsuit

Against all companies and it won't just be a payout they will seek

But a lifelong indenture to the care of the former employees

When it comes out that these workplaces were all psychologically abusive

Even though all internal findings would suggest otherwise

I’ve been a Middle School teacher for a while now. There is another teacher that has hated me for a few years now. I worked next to them my second year teaching. Let’s call them Pineapple. Pineapple made my life miserable and even screamed that they hated me so loud I could hear them through the wall one day. This happened while my students were elsewhere but they could hear Pineapple down the hall. My students would constantly tell me the things Pineapple and another teacher would say about me. I wouldn’t say negative things back and I always tried to get my students to not talk about others. I always figured they would get tired of being mean to me and do something else. It was so bad that my students would tell the principal and the hall leader what the other teachers were doing to me. Pineapple and the other teacher would check my trash and tell the principal I was having parties when it was really just my lunch in the trash. Many of their accusations were false or exaggerated against me. It put me in a dark place where I thought I was a bad teacher, but my students loved me. I’m AuDHD and some social things I don’t always get, so I thought I had done something to them without realizing it. I replayed every conversation I ever had with them in my head, and every interaction I had with them I tried to be completely cordial. Anyway, fast forward to two years after all of that and I’m working on a different hall and I feel like I’ve made a few friends around me. The teacher across the hall, let’s call them Sunflower, is nice to me but they are best friends with Pineapple. Sunflower tells me how I annoy Pineapple for existing and how Pineapple is jealous of our friendship. I limit my time with Sunflower when Pineapple is near so she doesn’t have to choose sides. I didn’t want Pineapple to feel threatened by me. I also do some craft work for another teacher on another hall and free work for the school for this teacher. Let’s call her Pink. Then, there is a guidance counselor who seems not to care for me. We can call her Green. Other than me being clueless sometimes about things, I have no idea why she dislikes me. I also work with two other ladies in this story. One of these teachers we can call Sea Turtle and the other is Cool Ocean. Both of them are awesome. The main event that occurs happens today, the last day of school, at the faculty lunch when the kids are gone. I message Sunflower to see if she is at the event when I was in my classroom, she says she is there in the cafeteria. I make my way to the event. Sunflower is next to Pineapple who is seated awkwardly with her feet in a chair. To the left of Pineapple’s feet is Pink. Then Sea Turtle is seated next to her kids and there are no more seats at this table. I ask Sea Turtle if I can pull up a chair and she says sure hunny. I sit down. Not even 2 minutes pass before Green comes up and says let’s sit over here to Pineapple and Sunflower. They move and Pink moves over there, too. Pink tells Sea Turtle to move over there and she acts like she didn’t hear her. Then, Pink messages and calls Sea Turtle to move over to the new table but she declines because she felt it wasn’t right to leave me at the table alone. Cool Ocean shows up and sits across from me and Sea Turtle for a while with her kid. All the kids are awesome during this. Everyone is released to get food and we get in line. It’s only after I go sit that Pineapple and everyone who was sitting with their group get up. I realize as they go up to get food that they moved to the other table to slight me. I say out loud kind of in a daze “I think they moved because of me.” I am hurt by this and I learn from Sea Turtle that Pink was trying to get her to move over to their table for a while. They wanted me to sit there alone. I realize they wanted me humiliated and friendless. I don’t really know what to do now. I’m heartbroken and hurt. I’m dealing with so much at home that work was my refuge. I can count on Sea Turtle and Cool Ocean but wow this hurts. The problem I have now is what do I do? I have some craft work that Pink wanted me to do, should I bag it up and put it at her door with a note saying how wrong that was and for her to find another person who can do what I do to fix the items? I’ve done work for Pink in the past and I don’t even charge for my time, just for materials. I know that my friendship with Sunflower and Pink is gone. I don’t really know what else to do other than hide and hope the issue goes away. I don’t want to be seen as a problem by admin.

We have a new manager in the office and he’s been going around saying the phrase “don’t make me pull out my Roger rabbit out”. Am I crazy to think that the statement is not wholesome? There was absolutely no context to it and I’m so confused. He said it to a group full of women, and they didn’t take too kindly to it. What are your thoughts? Would that be inappropriate? Is there something I’m missing?

Hi, I’m not a regular Reddit user at all—I created this account just to share the many strange things that have happened at my job. I’ll try to be as concise as possible; English isn’t my first language.

To start with, I’ve been working for a year at a company that handles immigration procedures. At first, things were going well. There were three leaders at this company, whom I’ll refer to as A, B, and C. We maintained constant communication with two of them, while the company’s founder was the least consistent in keeping in touch.

Things took a strange turn when, on May 14, none of my colleagues received their paychecks. The following day, Friday, May 15, the offices closed unexpectedly (keep in mind that even on holidays, during snowstorms, or tornadoes, the founder, A, never agrees to close). We were left in the dark about what had happened, The next thing we hear is that his two partners, B and C, were fired along with one of the secretaries. The first news we received was that the offices would remain closed indefinitely, but we were told to continue working remotely. Clients kept calling and coming to the office. We tried unsuccessfully to contact A to at least arrange for our pay, since none of the nine employees had been paid. On Saturday, we worked for a couple of hours until we stopped working due to the lack of payment.

Finally, on Saturday afternoon, the accountant managed to get in touch with A, who said he would pay us but didn’t give a date or time for the payment.

On Saturday night, A replied to one of the many messages I sent him demanding my payment, saying there had been an emergency and that he would update us on Tuesday or Wednesday of the following week. On Sunday afternoon, he tells us to come back to work on Monday as if nothing had happened. Monday arrives, and the employees are present, but A hasn’t paid the wages owed, much less shown up at the office. Messages are sent and calls are made to him without success to find out what the situation is.

Finally, in the afternoon, A shows signs of life. He says there was an identity theft issue and that work is on hold for now; he won’t accept paperwork or payments, and the pending work can’t be done either. When asked about the payment, he either pretends not to understand or gives vague answers.

That same day, one of the women resigns due to the way A treated her—he insulted her and acted very erratically. The wages owed to all the workers were paid that same Monday evening.

Tuesday arrives, and we have a meeting where A interrogates us about what we do at work, questions why one of the offices (where the girl who resigned worked) is closed, and asks where she is, even though she had submitted her formal resignation.

Outside of the meeting, things went smoothly. It was on Wednesday when another one of the girls quit after seeing how unstable A was and how she couldn't handle the cases we're working on. That day, the offices closed for good—supposedly until today—with the excuse that renovations are underway.

Today, none of the offices are open, but those of us who remain are still working since we haven’t been fired. We still don’t know if work will resume at any point. we’ve tried to reach out to A for more clarity, but at best, he’s not seeing our messages or they’re not getting through to him. As of today, what concerns my colleagues and me most is knowing if the company even still exists and, if so, whether our salaries will be paid, and if we’re laid off, whether we’ll receive severance pay (as required by law in my country), since, given how the situation is being handled (or not), we are certain that our boss will not be able to pay us our biweekly pay and severance and will play dumb, just as he has done from the very beginning.

Any comments or advice are welcome.

Hey!

I've been at my job for almost 2 years now, after being fired from my previous one.

My previous job was the same workfield and they've hyperfixated me, resulted in getting insulted, threatened and eventually fired. A colleague recommended me to apply at my current job ASAP where I was taken in.

After, my mental health was messed up, and I was on sick leave for the last days as at these I only got " silent treatment ". I didn't want to deal with that company anymore.

The first day at my now job, the boss from my previous company was there, oddly. Honestly no clue why. He knew this would be my new place. He then was slandering me to my new boss, putting a bad image onto me I can't get out of.

Just today, a day where I was particularly proud of myself finishing up all work, I was told many things that pulled me down from that mindset. Just as I said " I feel like I'm getting better at what I do " he returned me a " you're actually getting worse. "

Every time my boss tells my colleagues " take care of him that he doesn't mess up ", it feels like I'm incapable. Which I am truly not..

This has been an ongoing pattern and it has caused me sleeplessness.

Surely there's been some good days, but the recent happenings really outweigh these.

I'm trying to pull myself to write a CV and get myself out of this environment and field I used to like working in.

Did anyone have similar experiences?

everyone reads the email and moves on

i'm still on line one

what helps you get through the day?

and... is there a tool you wish existed?

OK to give context to the story, before I even exchange numbers with this 29-year-old we both work in the same Amazon delivery station. He is a dispatcher. I am an associate. We kept things very professionally whenever we were on the launchpad helping drivers load up their truck.

In the beginning, I wasn’t paying attention to him. I didn’t really care for him until one day, while on the launchpad, I got super bored and decided to go up to him and ask him if he had a girlfriend. He said no why do you ask and I said I was just wondering, and then I walked away. Two minutes later, I see him again on the launchpad and he asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no, and walked away again a few minutes go by and he walks up to me with his phone in his hand, and he puts his phone in my hands and says put your number in my phone so I do so.

At first, I was shocked because I didn’t think that he would do that but that’s what happens when you get bored right? So we started talking and getting to know each other and I found out that he’s 29 turning 30 and I’m 23. Personally, I felt like if he really didn’t want to talk to a 23-year-old he could’ve stopped talking to me right then and there. But he continue to talk to me for a one month.

In that timeframe , he did inform me that he was just chilling and eventually wanting a relationship . I essentially was doing the same thing so I didn’t really see any point in pressuring someone into a relationship . I just went with the vibe of the relationship that we established .

We FaceTimed regularly , saw each other outside of work twice. We’ve kissed a few times , and would give each other side hugs at the job when nobody was looking. Sometimes he would even call me cute nicknames, like sweetheart or sunshine, and one time he accidentally called me “Bae”

The very first time we hung out we literally were just talking in the car for hours. We even watched a crime documentary together. He got food even though I wasn’t really hungry, but he still got food and that’s when we started kissing. One thing I will say is I never let anything get to physical. The only thing I allowed was kisses and hugs.

Throughout the month, we build a chemistry naturally we build a connection naturally we had similarities. I thought he was genuinely a cool person to talk to you. We got familiar with each other basically. One time we had them all day and he took me to see his child at home and I thought that was so nice to see.

One time he took me home from the job so I wouldn’t have to spend money on a Lyft ride and I thought that was really nice of him. During the ride, he even offered to get something to eat with me, but I truly wasn’t hungry and I did have food at home. I should’ve said yes but it’s OK. Once he took me home, I said OK I’m going now, Give me a kiss and he gave me a kiss.

How this all ended within one month :
One day we were FaceTiming and I had asked him how much dispatchers make , and he said it’s salary and I made a joke and said oh that explains why you’re so rich and he said I’m not rich yet, and then he mentioned his cologne collection and I was slightly teasing him and said why do you have a cologne collection lol, he took offense to that and got triggered and asked me. Why are you always asking questions like that? Then he said you have to take a shower. I’ll kick it with you later.

The next day, I expected him to call me or FaceTime me he didn’t do that. Half the day had went by and he didn’t message me at all. I started preparing to protect myself so I blocked him on TikTok and I accidentally had called him when I was deleting the call log and he called me right back, but I didn’t answer the phone.

A few days passed by and he hasn’t texted me at all , so I took the initiative and I texted him. Are we not speaking anymore? What’s going on? I’m confused by the sudden distance. He explained that he saw that I called and saw that he was blocked, and I explained that I felt ghosted by him and he didn’t text me at all, so I thought he was really angry at me and I decided to give him space and he told me that it wasn’t about space, he felt as though that I was gaslighting him. Which I wasn’t I was just playfully teasing. He explained to me that he’s been around narcissistic people half his life and he understands that I may not know what triggers him , and he explained that he hates being unheard and unseen . So, I took the initiative to apologize. It was all just a huge misunderstanding a day goes by and he has not responded back to my apology text. The next day he goes into work and he’s sitting at his desk on his phone so it’s very clear that he’s ignoring me.

So I texted him again and said I wish him the best. It’s very clear that you’re not interested in me anymore. I hope you’re OK and it was essentially a goodbye text. I was very emotionally mature. I made sure to watch my words and he didn’t even reply to that sincere goodbye text . A week goes by and I’m still thinking about the situation. I’m getting emotional. My cycle is coming up. I know I shouldn’t have texted him, but I texted him again and asked him if he wants to continue speaking to me or not, which it was very clear he didn’t, and he said, I thought that we were done already. That’s when he explained to me that we could be cool but not anything towards a relationship. He says that I’m a great person. I’m young and I’m beautiful, but he doesn’t want to rush me growing up. So then I offered friendship and he explained that he just wants to be in a good place and feel emotionally safe in all situations. He says that I am an amazing woman, but he doesn’t see himself risking himself in a situation that would cause issues with his peace.

I respected his decision and moved on . I’m slightly over this situation, but it is really hurtful to be rejected. I think the age possibly was a problem or he really didn’t like me. Still kinda confused.

Edit : Reading the comments gives me a good insight and reflection on myself. Parts of me wants to reach out and call and make things right but I’ll probably end up being rejected rightfully so. I appreciate all the comments truly, it helps me grow and become better with my emotions , as well as my maturity truly❤️.

Does anyone else have constant low grade background dread all the time even when nothing is happening at work or when you aren't at work? Do you feel unsafe all the time? Do you feel like your sense of self outside of work is being destroyed by your job? I am going thru this now. Ive become very sensitive and have low grade fear all the time.

I’ve been at this job for a few years (longer than most of my coworkers) and I’ve had my fair share of issues to resolve with coworkers, but usually it’s a quick conversation & we’re all good. I am visibly younger, so I’m used to people overstepping boundaries at first. I was hired because of my experience & expertise (and constantly receive praise from my bosses, help my coworkers, etc., so I have no worries about my performance. However, this new coworker is very different.

Let’s call her Jodie.

Jodie transferred from a to my department as a cost consultant (this actually has very little to do with my job & we almost never have to communicate). She’s been in my meetings while I’m presenting asking questions about things that were already covered minutes prior. She treats me as though I don’t understand my work by criticizing issues that are contractor mistakes (not approved by me), and after I decide to make a specific adjustment, she’ll ask “do you mean [blank] instead?”. All pf this in front of our bosses.

There have also been occasions where she butted into conversations I was having with other coworkers about work or non work topics just to derail those conversations as well. At this point I’ve stopped talking to her.

Until I walked in on her & a coworker who does a similar job as me discussing my work with a contractor. This was very off putting, because neither of these people know processes & they didn’t mention meeting on any of these changes at all.

I don’t know what to do here. I’ve mentioned to my boss that this has been going on, but I guess now I have to worry about secret meetings to change my work?

I have only one close friend in my office, a male coworker. We genuinely get along well and talk a lot during work. Somehow our HR got weirdly obsessed with it.

First she complained to higher management that we talk too much. Then she started manipulating both of us separately by saying things like “he talks behind your back” and vice versa.

Now I’m leaving the company in 10 days, and suddenly she made him shift seats far away from me because apparently “too many people were sitting together.” Funny how it was never an issue before.

And now she’s trying to push him toward my replacement/new joinee every single day like she’s directing some office love triangle 😭

The funniest part? There was never anything romantic between us. But HR has somehow created an entire storyline in her head.

Office politics really gets weirder when people can’t stand seeing genuine friendships at work.

We dont have to get along but at least respect and work together. Honestly no reason to be nice to one another and then just talk shit about other coworkers to the manager. Ive been working for this job, a cleaning company for factories/dr clinics for 2 months. If they had a problem just be an adult and talk to me, we not in kindergarten where we whine about the smallest things to our mommas.

"Ivan" complained to the manager that he had to clean out my cleaning cart at 9:45, tho he clocks in at 11 and I leave at 11:30. I'm still using it, he could've had the decency to talk to me and asked politely for me to clean my cart and I would've been fine. Or at least let me know if he coming early and I would've gotten the cart ready for him. Manager made a group chat as well so there's no excuse that he cant find my number.

Manager took his side so I'm just like, do i just do nothing for an hr and a half? There's literally no extra buckets lying around. Like they want people cause they are very shortstaffed but also want to fire people for being too smart.

I work at a corporate car dealership in the grand ole USA. I have been here 3 years. My boss is biased, and I feel like he singles me out A LOT. I'd like to add that my immediate co worker is my boss's best friend and they go to lunch together, a lot. When they do, I'm always 30-45 mins + late getting to take mine because they are gone for longer than the 1 hour everyone gets. (There have been times it was over 2 hours)

Side note - I've ALWAYS been the type of employee to communicate, even to the point of "overshare", neglecting myself and people pleasing, especially when it came to my mental and physical health and wellbeing.

it first started when I had a family emergency in April 2025 which resulted in me calling out of work. (A suicide attempt of a close family member is all I will say, and should be enough to understand the true urgency of that situation) The following day I pushed through the emotional and mental devastation of the emergency I was dealing with at home, despite not being in a focused mental state for work and crying hysterically ALL DAY, I tried to put on the best game face I had, and made an appearance. To say my boss was pissed at me, was an sad understatement. I found time between customer calls to go into his office and talk to him and openly communicate more details of the situation and the plan of action to follow (i.e. my presence at therapy sessions for f.m. and dr appointment). His response was "you really need to think about the people you're screwing over when you call in! Especially me! I had it planned to take the day off so I could mow my grass but I had to come in because YOU called in!" Also, he never told any of us he was taking that day off. I had no clue. Despite knowing the details of the situation, and clearly seeing my mental state, he had the audacity to say that his grass was more important than the life of my family member. I wanted to quit and walk out that day. But I live in grand ol america so I have to waste my life away to survive. Since then, it's ALWAYS touch and go. ESPECIALLY when I request PTO day(s). There are other small incidents in between that add to why I feel like this but I'll spare the continuous novel. My vacation for the year has reset, and I requested one day, one singular day, for a little over 3½ weeks from now so I can go to an important appintment with my husband, and be able to spend time with him after. Since I'm at work 65+ hours a week. Denied. His response?

"Inventory is the day before. I won't be here, I will be in a meeting all day. You need to take into consideration of everyone else when you request to take days off because they won't get to take lunch breaks if you're gone"

When in the last 3 years, I have literally worked through my lunch breaks numerous times when no one else did, offered to work the holidays because no one else wanted to, stayed late many times, and got screwed out of family time because of it, lol.

Yet......the last two days of the week I requested my day off, his bff, my immediate co worker, has vacation days scheduled..... lmao.

What. Do. I. Do.

I want out of here but my husband and I cannot survive on one income.

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I joined a consulting firm straight out of engineering college as a fresher. ADuring my first couple of years, I generally tried to work hard and maintain good relationships, although I had started noticing some favoritism and passive-aggressive behavior from certain seniors.

A recent incident really affected me.

During a work discussion about a report, a senior colleague said something along the lines of:

“If you don’t update me properly again, you’re dead.”

It was said aggressively in front of others during a tense meeting. This wasn’t the first uncomfortable interaction either — in earlier meetings, this person had often been dismissive and passive-aggressive toward me.

After the meeting, I emailed my manager explaining the incident and clearly stated that even if something is said “as a joke,” such comments are not acceptable in a professional environment. My manager apologized and said she had escalated it to senior leadership.

I later had multiple meetings with leadership where, instead of focusing only on the behavior, the discussion kept shifting toward:

how hardworking this senior employee was,

how much responsibility he handled,

and concerns about my own work/performance.

I repeatedly said that performance feedback and workplace behavior should be treated as separate discussions.

Eventually, leadership said the comment was made “in the heat of the moment” and “not meant literally.” I asked that the employee apologize directly and also requested written confirmation that such behavior would not be tolerated going forward.

What I eventually received instead was a carefully worded email from my manager saying the comment was “not directed only at me,” along with reminders about taking feedback seriously.

After this incident, I also started receiving unusually detailed feedback/documentation emails about my work — something I had never experienced in my entire time there before raising this concern.

Over time, I felt the trust between me and management had broken down. I finally resigned recently.

The strange part is:

even after resigning and moving on to a better opportunity, I still replay the situation in my head. A part of me feels angry that the behavior was minimized and that people in leadership seemed more focused on protecting the senior employee than addressing the issue itself.

Has anyone else experienced something similar in corporate environments? How did you make peace with it and move on mentally?

How do I make peace with the fact that people got away after doing this with me?

TL;DR: A senior colleague made an aggressive/threatening comment toward me during a work meeting. I reported it to management expecting support, but the situation gradually shifted into discussions about my own performance instead. Leadership minimized the incident as something said “in the heat of the moment,” and after things became uncomfortable, I eventually resigned. I’ve moved on professionally, but mentally I still struggle with the feeling that the behavior was brushed aside.

Since January, I have been consistently handling a very high workload and have made every effort to deliver beyond expectations. During the time I requested an increment, I was informed that my performance was not satisfactory, and thereafter I was continuously assigned additional responsibilities and pressured heavily regarding deliveries.

Despite the challenging environment, I remained committed to the project, tolerated the workload and pressure, and gave my full effort to complete all assigned tasks. However, today I was informed that the company has decided to discontinue my employment, citing that the project is no longer continuing and that my deliverables were not aligned with expectations.

I believe this decision is unfair considering the amount of work and dedication I have contributed over the past several months. I was asked to either resign or face termination, which has been extremely difficult and disappointing for me after all the effort I invested in the organization.

I shouldve put this post here orginally but after waking up at 1AM replaying this in my head and listening to everyones stories here even in the past 7 days, i think this is the place to talk about this absolute POOP show this new boss has made a once peaceful work enviorment (ill try not to curse since every other place Ive tried to post this has had SUCH an issue with that) I work in corporate and ive been at this job for about 2 years and honestly when i first started it I loved it. Im a manager and my team was SO chill and really valued and respected my thoughts and creative and i felt like it was really a place that i could stay and grow with the team considering multiple people on my team had been there for YEARS. i had been in good/honestly great standing with my boss, my coworkers, even the head of the company and everyone was so excited about my fresh ideas that seemed to be bringing the company some direction. ALL OF A SUDDEN, a new manager gets added to our team (Lets call her a**hole, no just kidding, lets call her Jennifer) so Jennifer gets here and I can see management is just CHARMED by her but IMMEDIATELY all i hear is "word salad word salad chat gpt" (keep in mind, im a young black woman in corporate but ive been doing what i do since i started my own business in highschool, went to college, freelanced, and then started getting signed on for long term roles at companies in management positions and this is an older white woman who feels like shes just THE BEST EVER because shes old and white...it matters) anyways, she literally comes in and first tries to seem like "she wants to work closely with me" and really "learn the ropes of the company" and i QUICKLY realized her "amazingly wonderful idea" was to replace me and my coworker with agencies... And as im showing her ALL the projects i had in the works she essentially halts ALL of them to start pushing her ideas and the manager above me just LETS IT HAPPEN. Her ideas are so clearly half baked, CHATGPT BULLCRAP with no clear direction but again they are just so enamored by her "charm" which at this point had ran out in the first week to me.

Shes only been here for 60 days and has already caused so much haywire and is ADMIMENT that its because of "me and my attitude" and that ive "lost my spark and engagement" because ANYTIME IVE BROUGHT UP ANYTHING THAT OTHERS HAVE LIKED she'll go to the boss above me and rip it apart and make them change their mind ITS CRAZY! When she first got there and i saw she was making an already inefficient process EVEN WORSE i tried to work even harder to make something everybody liked, creating a whole new strategy, explaining my reasoning, like FULLY THOUGHT OUT ready to be started. The IMMEDIATE hour after my meeting she schedules a meeting the next day for HER strategy she had been working on so tirelessly (WHY EVEN HAVE ME PRESENT THEN?!?!) that ended up being, AGAIN, chat gpt BS that I had to completely rework even though at first i was meant to "follow it exactly" but when i showed them what that actually looked like and it FAILED all of a sudden it was a "loose framework that I ws supposed to take creative iniative on". Worst part is she had me ON CALL with these agencies she was trying to replace me with AND EVERY SINGLE ONE JUST SAID THE SAME THING THAT I SAID (which i PROMISE im not saying for no reason, everything boiled to a head this week).

She said she was looking for agencies because "it must be so hard for me to do such a big role by myself and she wants to get me the help i need so i dont feel overwhelmed" when ive NEVER once showed or expressed that...i asked her for ONE thing ONCE when she ASKED WHAT I NEEDED and that was just to optimize our approvals...which she claims "she did so what else has she not done because she feels like now im telling her she cant do her job".

So she recently launches this plan to reorder the group, essentially removing the manager who actually used to be helpful at one point but quickly became a yes man to Jennifer within 60 freaking days and wanted to schedule PERSONAL hour+ long meetings with me and my coworker 1:1, TWICE A WEEK. (So i already KNOW its about to be some BS.) And she kept talking about a "need to be respectful" and how "respect is her first priority" and if "anyone feels disrespected they should be able to let her know", like ummm okay?

So i get inro this meeting with her and shes like "so i looked at your original job description and i noticed there was ALOT going on, tell me about what youre wanting to do and if the new adjusted role ive created for you is better" and "wanted to clear the air about tension she felt between us because she noticed that i lost my spark and drive" so im honestly as professionally as i can telling her "honestly since youve gotten here, goal posts have changed, i dont have an issue with my job, you just assumed i was struggling when there was no reason to think that and my specific requests were pushed to the wayside and ive been working to complete requests that were half baked, and as others have liked the work, youve switched from liking it one day to hating it the next" all in the name of "transparency" right? Because i noticed age AND being the only BW on the team is a REAL factor in her narritive. Throughout the WHOLE TIME shes constantly switching her thoughts of me first im "not doing enough, all of my work has been bad" then its "my work has been amazing she just wants to hone it in" then its "ive not been putting enough personality into the work" and then its "too much personality you need to hone it in" .Then she had the AUDACITY to tell me "im not trying hard enough to advocate for myself and my projects and that "im a manager and she doesnt want to micromanage me and shouldnt have to tell me to take initiative" but in the next breath says "im pushing back on her too much and shes been doing this for many years and i should give her that, and my commentary back to her has been disrespectful". MIND YOU she even ADMITTED shees not familiar with the wheelhouse of work i do AT ALL.....

Anyways i could go on and on about her inconsistent flip flopping but once i realized she was going to be a problem. I started recording meetings where she pulled me alone/and me with my coworkers and keeping a paper trail of evidence which im glad i did because in the middle of this CRAZY ramble and back and forth she straight up LIES and says i didnt send her anything for almost 4 WEEKS after she requested it (I HAVE NEVER HAD MORE THAN A 72 HOUR TURN AROUND ON PROJECT FOR ANYONE) I checked her IN THAT MOMENT and said "um are you sure youre talking about me/the right project because ive never taken 3 qeeks to return anything to you (I MEAN THE LITERAL LONGEST IVE taken is 5 business days to produce almost a calendar QUARTER of work) she quickly tried to dismiss it and told me i need to be accountable.

Im thinking of leaving and have been quietly applying to new jobs, optimizing my linkedin and resume and counting down the days till i can let it be known. I dont know if i have enough to take to HR or if i even should. But i feel like its a matter of time before the microaggressive comments become full blown discrimination, either about my age or race. Idk its just been SO frustrating and im so sick of bringing this energy home to my spouse. But im gonna keep documenting (and i do have someone on the inside thats on my side and is also seeing first hand this womans INSANE "management")