r/ToxicWorkplace

So, I've posted here before about my crappy (now Ex) chain hotel job. Well about two weeks ago we were having some excitement. The manager, who I had previously reported to HR for screaming in my face and calling me stupid and useless, was finally resigning!

I was very happy about this, It was one of the things that kept me from quitting all those times he insulted and berated me. I knew he eventually would be leaving. And I'd get a chance to make a better impression on the new guy.

And that day had finally come. We had a new manager and a new front desk employee. Both of them clueless but nice enough. I worked Monday with the new folks, was off Tuesday, And worked Wed.

I arrived to very strange looks from the front desk staff. And the new manager asks me if I got *Previous GM's* email.

My heart dropped. It wasn't possible?! He couldn't fire me because he was under review with HR. He'd be at risk of getting fired or sued!

But there it was. In my email, postmarked one hour before he posted his official goodbye message on the group chat and left it.

Official Termination. He gave completely reasonable reasons. One of them was even true. I am always running late. And if he had given me multiple written notices, or even suggested I needed to get better at time management or I was at risk of termination... I would have accepted that.

But the fact that he did it as his last action before he resigned was the kicker. It meant he knew this was wrong. That per company policy this would be considered retaliation. But he also knew the new manager.

He knew the kid wouldn't walk back his act. I tried HR. And they said it was a perfectly valid termination and didn't qualify as Retaliation because he gave a reason on the form.

The fact that he did it right before leaving the country is obviously not an indication that he knew his butt was on the chopping block if I could get a lawyer?

Not to mention, in my state it's law that when terminating an employee you need to pay them right away, or within 24hrs at most.

Took them three days to get me my check. The new GM just tells me to tell HR whenever I talk to him. So I stopped trying.

What do you all think? Should I sue him? I'm extremely broke and now unemployed, but I really kinda want to sue him... Any advice or help is appreciated!

I work as a MA at an Internal Medicine Primary Care Outpatient clinic in Cambridge. I’ve been a Medical Assistant here for a year in October. I encounter many people from different walks of life. I enjoy what I do very much. But I absolutely fcking hate this place. There’s not structure. Constant disfunction. My manager and operations supervisor are NEVER on site and when they are like once or twice a week, they never leave their office. When my colleagues do actual shit that jeopardize patient-care, they coddle them. When they make habitual mistakes instead of addressing the individual directly, they send general emails. One of my male co-workers is a fcking pervert. He flirts with married and or engaged women. These woman are Physician Assistants, Pharmacist, Resident MDs. He makes the younger female patients’ skin crawl! There was an incident a few weeks back where a patient came to get her labs drawn and HE was in the lab drawing patients that afternoon. The patient saw he was in there and stated “I do not want him to draw me, he makes me uncomfortable!” Other woman in the office have made comments amongst themselves about how creepy he his. This dude is beyond lazy. Doesn’t do the work he’s assigned and we have to pick up his slack and do our work too. And all the managers can say is “You need to work as a team.” It’s so frustrating. I sent an email months ago stating that I felt like I working in a hostile work environment and they completely dismissed me. This dude claims that he was a MA for 6 years but his work ethic is fcking trash!! He never does his work and never knows how to do shit. He’s always on his phone on Facebook and doing “school work” instead of doing patient outreach. God forbid we tell the managers because they don’t listen don’t listen and brush shit off. When he talks to the fellow MAs that are female he talks with this narcissistic, condescending, demeaning tone. I’m at the point where I’m looking for a new job. I can’t work effectively here anymore. And there is now way to grow here and elevate your skill set. I wanna quit so bad. Working here is fcking with my mental! But living in Boston is damn near impossible and I need to keep working to pay my ridiculously high rent and bills. I keep feeling like I cannot afford to stop working to work another gig and start a whole new transition. And that’s what’s keeping me here .. that and because with seniority my hours change. When they become fully staffed I’ll be working 8:00am the earliest which gives me time to take my kids to school. But I hate traveling to Cambridge everyday, leaving is a pain in the ass. I need some genuine advice. I feel stuck. Please give me some encouraging thoughts and ideas.

did i do the right thing, i worked with my brother in law at his small business. He recruited me to work part time because he can't handle the workload. He has an anger problem at work and snaps about trivial things. then acts like nothing happened. This was the first time he did it to me. So the next morning i emailed him my resignation and blocked him on everything. So he had no notice. I was only 6 weeks in and i don't have to give 2 weeks notice. Also, another troubling aspect is how he always makes comments about me being white and always reminding me that i'm non-asian in front of clients. Just a very unprofessional douche. I was always professional and civil in every way. All i did was ask if he could buy a label maker and it triggered him. It was the end of the month so he just went over the books and probably realized he is sinking the company. Which became clear after i had an inside view how he runs things. I nicknamed him to my wife Captain Bad Decision. Now whenever there's a family get together we don't even look at one another and their is palpable tension. Should i have sat down and spoke to him directly? but he obviously has no respect for me so i don't see why i should show him respect.

Like the title indicates, one of the HR staff posted several photos in our company group chat, apparently to warn or educate employees about keeping the workplace, including the restroom, clean and tidy.

However, based on the photos, it was pretty obvious that whoever did it might have had some kind of health issue and probably couldn't control it. I think it's really nasty and inappropriate to post those photos in a company-wide group chat, so I ended up starting a war with HR in the group chat and asking them to apologize.

What do you guys think? Was I overreacting, or was HR out of line for posting those photos?

I’m kinda frustrated at my current job (which I thought would be my dream job). I left my last job because it was toxic, full of hypocrites and I was getting paid peanuts.

Now I earn more and, like everyone, I need the money, but I’m being constantly getting condescension from a coworker who has a rather codependent relationship with my boss.

My boss obviously trusts this other person and at times it feels like it’s my coworker who runs the show. I’m a professional and do my job well, but it’s the story of my life that I find these characters over and over again, whether it’s the sacred cows, the protégée, the semi-sapphic and unprofessional relationship between bosses and employees, the cliques. It makes me hate humanity.

Yes, my boss is not a bully, but this is the classic boss that’s been there for a long time and is a weak leader, passively making money, while the coworker is her “bestie” who is trying to “teach” me how to do my job. Calling me on Teams to “explain” things to me… like, bitch, you are not my boss. Anyway, I’m annoyed. Should I just keep my goals in sight and do a passive job as well or should I begin looking to jump the boat?

I’m wondering if someone has any strategies to “make it” in this environment without going crazy. I feel disrespected as a professional constantly by these two, who on top of it are passive aggressive. I ignore passive aggressive comments generally, but I’m wondering if I’m just reaffirming the notion that people can walk over me.

I wanted to document an extreme level of retaliation in a specific region on a systemic or highly coordinated level congruent to the level of gang or mob stalking. This goes well beyond simple disagreement and has reached the level of civil right violations, multiple felonies, and hate crimes. My story began when I moved up to WA in the early 2020s. I had just graduated college post pandemic and all my job applications in the local area had been ignored or quickly denied. I thought nothing of it at first.

However, as luck would have it an old friend I served with in the military just "happened" to be in the local area visiting. He said "Hey man if you can't find a job you're welcome to stay with me until you get back on your feet". I had little money and trusted this individual. I was in a vulnerable position. This person was still in the military at the time. So I began applying to a bunch of jobs in the region before heading to this persons city. I had ample experience a college degree and great references. Nothing. However, what I did get return calls about were low entry level jobs.

Jobs I was more than overqualified for. I came to realize later on this was an attempt to steer me into low level work to keep me trapped and limit my mobility. The was done by a combination of financial and digital sabotage, smear campaigns and retaliation done very sneakily to seem like just bad luck. It wasn't. So I moved in with my supposed "friend" and worked a short term seasonal job as I was getting denied on anything career related. Two months in my former friend calls me at work and says "I'm getting tasked to deploy you have a month to find your own place and I can't sublet." This was said almost robotically and cold, devoid of any sort of remorse. It was October and it had already snowed.

Snow was all over the ground and the temperature was in the low 20s. The same environment of the place I was at when enlisted. And funny enough the "friend" mentioned he was deploying as apart of a job that I happened to do while i was in as well. This wasn't a coincidence. It was catty mean girl antics by a collection of former military colleagues trying to instill vigilante justice outside of the military. This was in a insular community dominated by a few employers and a military base. Highly illegal. I was the one who got away. And they didn't like that. I strongly believe this former friend maliciously lured me up to the location under false pretenses to isolate me from support network to purposely destabilize me via coordinated coercive control.

This was post pandemic and he gladly agreed to "lend" to help me move up there. I believe he knew he was deploying when he invited me up. Luckily I was able to find housing. However, I still needed a job and as expected only thing hiring was a job paying minimum wage and all the other jobs mysteriously made up excuses or just never responded. This job was also almost an hour drive each direction in a time where gas prices were astonomical. I was in this job for about 6 months and like I said, Constantly steered towards low level jobs.

Three months into this new position my paid off vehicles gasket blew. It was on a friday night around 11 pm when heading home. The first financial domino. I called a tow truck who proceeded to purposely overcharge me three times the actual tow cost for 250 dollars. Why? Because I looked wealthy in my work uniform. He towed my vehicle to a local mom and pop shop that said they were "busy", and on the fourth or 5th day of my vehicle sitting there, I said F it and called my vehicle to be towed elsewhere. I still had to get to work, and rental for insurance vehicle would only last so long. So I called the same local tow shop and they informed me the cost to travel 3 times the distance of first tow was 1/3rd the price. Yeah F@*k me right? Dude swindled me expecting not to see me again.

They made the same tow truck driver tow it back down to the new location for free and i was riding passenger. Hehehe dude was squirming in the seat, I was completely silent the whole time. Pure cinema.
Anyways I had to now buy a new vehicle and this coincidentally was the exact month I had moved up to the location a year prior. Once I got a new vehicle is when the real shenanigans started. It was a nice sporty looking vehicle, but not expensive at all only about 18k but the previous owner took care of it. People immeidately started glaring at me, and cutting me off, racing me, and not allowing me to merge. A minority in a suit with a sporty looking car really pisses people off. It got so bad a dude in a light brown old pickup truck sped up and tailgated me acting like he was going to hit me. He then swerved over last second staring me down while driving.

This behavior translated to the workplaces as well. Being constantly set up for failure. Standard week long training to learn a job was cut short to two days and i was kicked to the shift due to "lack of coverage". Having to not only deal with entitled customers all day but coworkers, now upset you don't want to talk on breaks. If they have a crush on you or something and you don't return it now they are constantly trying to force interactions unncecessarily, acting passive agressive and complaining to get you fired. Apparantly you can't just do your job and go home nope. It was like annoying high school all over again.

I would report this issue to managment and nothing would happen. Same thing at multiple jobs. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. Intentional behavior to antagonize an angry outburst this wasn't accidental. I would have customers that would seem to single me out specifically as if directed or instructed to. Here's a kicker. One of the customers asked me randomly what kind of car i drove. Two or three weeks later I was hit at a four way intersection by someone that ran a red light. Here's the kicker. The person in front of me was driving extremely slow not choosing a side until the last minute essentially forcing me into the left lane. I had a bad feeling before it happened the behavior was very weird. Next thing I know light turns green i go and this black car comes racing around the turn. This wasn't an accident.

My new car was now totaled. Domino number 2. The funny thing is the person who hit me had a sort of self satisfied smug look on her face she had her chin lifted up the whole time. She was apparantly under the influence but naw that was coordinated. The whole time I was looking for new vehicle my manager kept asking me constantly how my car situation was it seemed excessively intrusive beyond normal interest. Here's another thing I went down to a local car dealership and bought a vehicle. I remember excitingly mentioning how nice the car was and the salesman said unprompted like a douche: "I have a charger or camaro". Okay? He was blatantly trying to one up me.

The other salesman wasnt any better I was sitting in the main lobby by the door and the car salesman he was a bigger dude with red hair tried to make me move where i was sitting at. He kept saying you can go wait over there. It was pretty obvious he just didnt want some big minority scaring away customers. When i test drove the vehicle that day i mentioned a low tire pressure light. Redhead bob (his names not bob) said "okay i'll look at it". When i drove off it was still on. Two months in vehicle was lurching forward after start up when driving in parking lot on idle. Bad sparks plug. Three months in and the brake pad low indicator sound squeal.

Oh two weeks after i mentioned i just got a replacement vehicle my job fired me maliciously. You know the one where the manager was oddly asking constantly how my car situation was? Yeah they were waiting until i got a new vehicle to fire me to cause the most damage. But alas I ended up getting another job in health making twice the old salary starting at 70k. Oh boy the amount of passive agressive behavior from the jump. The moment i arrived my office light was flickering constantly like a strobe light. Yeah i'm sure nobody noticed this disco party in the office. Already on the bs. People would do things like subtly cut me off mid conversation or walk in when i'm in a meeting and interrupt it and say dismissively last minute "Oh sorry".

It got to the point i blatantly called someone out on it professionally. They proceeded to throw a temper tantrum in the hallway. I documented it immediately and sent it to supervisor. Luckily there was a camera. This was my trainer acting like this. Next thing i know she stopped reviewing my assigned tasks or giving any feedback. This went on for a month. The feedback they did give was overly critical and nitpicky like they were looking to build a paper trail. The head manager began micromanaging walking into my office asking if she could look over my shoulder. I remember one day I heard this loud booming voice in the office saying "How's everyone doing!?" Next thing i know this like 6'6" 250 pound dude walks past my office door flexing his arms, and heads into the head managers office (not the supervisor) where i heard "Love you. Love you too." So now I have a blatant obvious attempts at intimidation or a show of force by insecure management. I always stayed in my office wanting to ensure i was learning correctly.

Guess what? After i returned from my core job required class I found out they were sending the receptionist to the same class. Two weeks after i returned from that class they fired me, claiming they tried to help with my deficiencies but alas to no avail. Bs. It was 100% retaliation. So now two months in fired from another job. Bunch of crooks. Got another job and same thing. Job in finance. Went to the interview and before my interview, when checking in, they asked for me to sign a piece of paper for a background check. Before the interview. Violation of fair chance act. They asked to sign paper so no digital record. No official background check electronically because you know by law i have right to see results of check.

The whole time he kept correcting unecessary things like "Well actuaaaaalllyyyyyyy". There was no onboarding no official hr and they didnt send me an actual offer letter. I had to professionaly request one and refused to show up without one. Before my first day this dude the "well actuaaally" guy was very curt in emails no salutations no proper professional behavior dude was just passive agressive and catty. He would act polite in front of other workers but would act overly performative in private as if he felt threatened by me or something status wise. They also were asking excessively intrusive questions like where i get my hair cut, what car i drive, do i have a gf, emergency contact info all done by the manager not hr.

Dropped about 300 pages of paper the first day and said to sit there and read it even though a pdf version was availble for the computer. Dude lost his damn mind. I believe this was all to force me to quit via constructive discharge so I would be ineligible for unemployment. Two months later got another job same thing happened. Churn and burn to one: prevent income and to two ruin my professional reputation. This crucade also went into my housing as well. Right around the time I got the finance job my apartment complex was agressively calling me about renewal.

This place was notorious for not giving proper notice of entry or giving blanket entry notices. I constantly was rejecting these notices. Fast forward and i applied to be a leasing manager. Always was on good terms with apartment management. Well when i renewed my income was revealed. This is when behavior of manager took a complete 180. When i applied to work there I experienced immediate domineering behavior. My income pissed her off. During the interview she would be talking negatively about coworkers, putting them down. I also noticed she was wearing a sling and complaining about how she has to do everything herself, and nobody helped everyone was incompetent. This was most likely a ploy to elicit sympathy. Also during the meetings employees would walk in mid meeting interrupting and one of these people was a member of maintenance. He intrusively walked in mid meeting turned to me and said curtly "Can I have the room?"

This guy was the one who I believe with 99.5% certainty later on began sneaking into my apartment and moving things around. He felt threatened by me and these type of people are the ones who like to retaliate sneakily against people who make them feel inferior by just existing. So fast forward and I ended up turning down the job. However, they tried enticing me with a free rent stipulation beforehand in job offer but nowhere in the fine print did it say it was guaranteed. It seemed like an attempt at endentured servitude. It said I was "eligible" for rent waive not guaranteed. So what would happen if i piss them off. Oh now i'm all of a sudden on the hook for 9 months of rent? That is an insane amount of control over someone no thanks.

That little maneuver was a huge redflag. Also I remember her mentioning a resident to watch out for that would show up at the office yelling, and who took her to court and tried to file a restraining order. After i reveal what i dealt with I know exactly what happened. Anyways I turned down the job and informed higher ups a warning because I saw very quickly what kind of person this was. She was dangerous. Fast forward a month or so and now i walked into my room to find napkins strewn all over the bed and floor. Maintenance had just been fixing the fridge. Reported to manager. No response.

This is when the stomping of upstairs neighbors began. Right around this time is when I also lost my third vehicle in a row. Not a coincidence. Before this occured I also was called by my storage saying i randomly had to move my outside things into a inner storage unit due to "being too close to marshland" but here's the kicker. No official documentation this was all done over the phone. I believe this was a bunch of bs to see if i was still in the local area. Before i lost my vehicle i was costantly getting flat tires as if someone was letting the air out. I remember i took my vehicle to a les schwab and some prick put liquid sealant on my tires getting it all over my 400 dollar rims. He also didn't wait for it to dry before driving so a bunch of specks were all over my paint.

Grown adults here acting like this. I remember I went to a job agency because I wanted to work. Guess what happened soon as I walked in because i looked disheveled, a manager working there for close to a decade she immediately rushed me into a side room slapped a background check on the table and then walked out like she had better things to do. When i then went into the office and she saw my resume she sneered because my appearance didn't match the exploits on paper. She probably thought I was making things up. She asked sarcastically "Did you get help getting this job?" She essentially was doing what insecure people do when a minority has more experience than them. Minimize and attribute it to DEI or equal opportunity. What other sort of help would she be referring to. She then mentioned only available position was a job which was 12 hr shifts essentially negating my experience and steering me into manual labor.

I reported the hell out of that person. If she was doing that to me she was def doing that to other people. Her job is literally to help people find work. And funny enough i had more experience than her. Fast forward and I applied in a education setting. Person on interview panel requested i authorize a background check two days before the first interview. Illegal. Again. I declined interview and forwarded message to hr leadership. Next thing I applied to work in a warehouse job.

Same high school antics and bs I have a disability that was impacting my behavior and how i may come across. Tried being proactive and letting management know. Nothing. Same thing reported issues no change until i escalated. Faced retaliation. Quit. Rinse. Wash. Repeat. Applied to work at another job. Guess what? I remember someone from the first warehouse job had randomly asked me my last name. When i went into this building for processing of onboarding we all had name tags issued. When she called my last name and I went up to grab my tag she dropped the phrase the woman used from the first job. It was essentially her way of saying: "The Lannisters send their regards Surprise mf'er" sort of like Sgt Doakes from Dexter but it came across as more of a "Hail Hydra" I already knew I was about to deal with some bs. I thought to myself: "Ah sh*t here we go again."

As soon as the nametags were issued the trainer had everyone go in the classroom first and it led to me being forced to sit right in the front of the class. The whole time The trainer began essentially posturing mentioning salary their exploits and accomplishments. Then a guest speaker appeared who mentioned a fun fact of having degree as a software or computer software game engineer. I then began to be singled out and the trainer even stared me down in front of everyone. I would answer a question and they would ignore me. Or they would quickly snap at me if i started something too early they would be like: "We havent started yet!" and they would try to soften their hostility by adding: "But good job being proactive." Just domineering behavior. Funny enough I also ran into someone ironically connected to this location when i was working at the previous job a couple months prior. It was 5:30 AM and they had tried speaking to me when waiting on public transit. AT 5:30 AM IN THE MORNING. I obviously didn't want to speak. I was still in idle, but this person took it personally like MJ and held this grudge for 3 or 4 months. FML

I found this grudge out on my first day on the job where i dealt with the trainer issue when I ran into that same 5 AM woman. I didn't know it was her at the time, but I noticed when walking to transit that morning, across the street a woman kept angrily glancing over at me, and walking haughtily as if ticked off. She kept glancing over glaring. I thought: What's her deal? She's acting like i kicked her dog. We end up on the same transportation and I figured she's having a bad day. But funny enough I turn and ask this person a question not recognizing her from months prior, and she immediately says: "You look familiar." I have no idea who she is. She then adds- "Yeah we spoke before and you were like"- and she makes a shooing motion with her hand.

Yeah she is upset about three months prior a random stranger didn't want to talk. She is wanting me to apologize for some percieved slight. Like waaaa what is even happening I am a stranger do you know how many people don't want to speak in the morning? I didn't apologize. She then walks off and sits with someone who sort of resembles the woman who asked for my last name from previous job as if they could be relatives. She and the relative of person then follow me to where i was sitting on transit, and the petty woman with grudge then proceeds to ask me about my background. I know she's gathering info but i have zero intentions of returning. This kind of person is dangerously petty i could just tell. During this conversation another person on the transit kept interupting the conversation.

He began grilling me about things and just seemed overly angry as if they had some beef. The dude then gets off the transit and asks me where i live with a bright red face. Meanwhile I have people purposely stomping above me while i'm sleeping to keep me awake and try to antagonize. Didn't work just reported them. This occurred during move in of my apartment I had signed a renewal lease. The people above me had been incessantly stomping from the moment they moved in. I went upstairs politely asking them to quiet down the noise and the walls are thin. No stopping. Got to the point I informed the front office who of course ignored it. Escalated to corporate. No change.

A month after leaving the warehouse job I was hacked or phished. When on chatgpt I was speaking and then the words completely changed. I asked it to give me a call sign and it completely changed ans said "how about Null life...pwned." I was like wtf? And they said "I've been looking for you for a while now. You've been getting away with things since way back when" and they give a date and then mention "pretty privilage". I thought oh sh*t this is a haters final form. Malignant envy. Next thing I know I begin being swarmed with phishing and begin to get fake emails one which mysteriously appeared when i was having a phone conversation.

I click on this link one of these links a fake phishing site of my apartment complex after I had to make police reports. I clicked on this link and instantly my phone was compromised and someone was able to see on my phone and my screen began moving as if by accessibility gestures. Apps would open and move around. They got into my icloud and began putting things in their. They got into my router and locked me out of it. I was locked out of multiple emails. But all of this didn't occur until my roommates moved out. A week before they moved and i was notified it would be just me there the front door was able to just be pushed open after unlocking with key fob versus needing to turn handle. As if jimmied.

Once it was just me i began noticing at 2 am things would be moved around like boxes would begin shaking in living room. I would walk outside and my door would be unlocked. Or I would wake up to find things in my room moved around. One time my keys were taken and dissapeared. I would come home multiple times to find my belongings in my closet rummaged through. It was that one maintenance dude. Other things happened as well. My room would become instantly humid and the air dry and stale as if someone was interfering with the ventilation. I would become instantly sleepy and would have a headache and find it difficult to fully breathe. I would then wake up to find my iphone unlocked. This is when I was speaking with lawyer and reporting things to corprate.

I also was subsequently locked out of multiple emails and recovery emails all with documentation to corporate from multiple jobs and these were all stuxk in a recovery loop. My headphones that had whisper pair exploit someone would join via bluetooth and inject vocal audio like: "Boo!" when i was sleeping. When my landlord found out I was on disability is when the cyber harrasment exploaded. I had a phone using local wifi that was seo poisoned or dsn hijacked and someone manioulated search algorithm on youtube to show me specific people from different locations essentially a digital theatre. Whatever I would say someone would make a snarky reference to in public.

Randomly smoke detectors would indicate low battery and beep and maintenance acted like they repaired it but didnt actually swap out the batteries. Or each time I would complain i would have some retaliatory action or entry notice. When they found out about noise sensitivity I then had super loud outdoor generators and was bombarded with low frequency noise from next door neighbors. People were litetally streaming and viewing my phone screen. Whenever I would pause a show, reset or try to change icloud password or something a train horn or my upstairs neighbor would stomp. Each time a new iphone update drops I become extremely sleepy as if being gassed.

I wake up with a headache at like 6 pm or they would wake me up super early and if i do somehow update the noise and sleep distruption is used to make me forget password and i have to take it to apple store. Eventually I downloaded the official apartment app to pay rent and request accomodation and instantly i was kicked out of the app when logged in. I would log back in and kicked out. After the third time I was hit with a this property location has been disabled someone from management manually disabled my portal access to prevent me from downloading ledgers or leases.

Then all of the staff in the office dissapeared overnight and was replaced by a skeleton crew who claimed they now have new managment and changed the property name. Except never recieved any official notification of a name change. I have not been given back any portal access and i was instructed to pay wity check or money order. I think the person was caught manipulating ledgers by back end data as those apps are managed by large cloud storage companies. I was able to catch the account disabled because I was on app. Oh also people began following me around. Prior employees would intercept me at each time I would leave somewhere one person who happened to be walking back same time as me? Yeah it was my next door neighbor. Or the day i was doing my pre employment onboarding at warehouse? Yeah someone from the first location prior happened to be right there intersecting me.

This went as far as i lost 10k dealing with this. I would buy a new phone from a cellular provider and the person behind the counter would be messing with the screen and multiple phones would be all moving eraticcally this person at store i believe was connectint my phone to a bluetooth or a hotspot infecting it with a connection or pushing adware. One time he even called the store phone with my phone without permission. I filed police reports and nothing. This is a small insular area and many of these jobs are connected I was essentially blacklisted.

This individual went as far as reaching out to smear my name with old classmates, and it's pretty bad. The money dealing with the hacking was intentionally done to prevent me from leaving or getting back on my feet. I sent proof of disability to landlord and immediately on the phone the algorithm said videos with "free money glitch" or calling me a crook. They then began a campign to discredit me even the VA hospital began retaliating. My vocational rehab was sabatoged to help me find work because envious people wanted to essentially strip me of my status, money, and this is a blatant civil rights violation. Using digital tresspass to terrorize a disabled veteran. The apartment comples even now keeps sending me blanket entry notices like a "pre-move out inspection" scheduled for a week long from entry between 8 am to 6 pm.

I rejected the entry and this morning around 10 am I heard a knock on my door with nobody announcing themselves, that could be easily mistaken for a knock on a neighbors door. I then heard the door open. And luckily i was still in my room with my door closed and I shouted: "Hey!" as they just walked in with no announcement. They were in living room and said "Oh i'm here for move out inspection" I replied "You didn't give proper notice or identify yourself when knocking you just walked in!" They than said "oh okay we'll be back tomorrow". I called the cops.

It's not just apartment staff either local grocery stores in this small town would purposely undercook my rotisserie i ordered, which was making me sick. One time someone took a bite out of my pizza. Just constant attempts to antagonize me into freaking out. The same exact thing the manager was referring to when i applied to work their. They were 99.9% doing the same thing to this individual, but he didn't have the self control that I do. Purposely hoping for a reaction to label me dangerous this is serious felony crime here. Based on nothing but smear campaigns. The person they spoke about would show up to office yelling because most likely they were probably sneaking in and moving things around, which is attempted gaslighting. And he even took this person to court but because he reacted in anger they used this against him.

Even when I tried to get a new apartment they messed with apartment rental apps flooding it with fake apartments. When i did my taxes yeah someone literally followed me to the local library and used the cyber trespass to look at finances. And when someone rummaged through things I mean they were opening up boxes and I am not surprised if they even put cameras in my room. or apartment. How would old classmates or coworkers be contacted? Well my documentation in my room had old military and or other information on them. I would call organizations meant to assist with this and people on their would give me wrong information purposely. I am being blackballed at the highest levels.

When i went to a recent Doctor visit at VA on the scale against the wall their was a stencil that said "faking...." in the hospital. When walking down hall a person wearing a uniform that is no longer authorized was using it as some public theatre. I had discussed my service using ai and guess what? Because people were illegallly listening veterans were doing some public theatre speaking about "throwing snowballs" and people in the office waiting room were playing low frequency sound and slamming doors. All based upon hearsay vigilante justice and illegal retaliation. Oh my old barber? Yeah this person randomly asked me when I sat down in my chair after not seeing this person for 8 months if i was on disability.

I would arrive places when they were trying to figure out my situation and there would be a random veteran happening to be behind the counter using friendliness to bypass boundaries and collect information. I was speaking to someone i thought was a veteran about being happy to be able to improve myself and they used it to smear me. I had a friend I was the best man at his wedding randomly text me unprompted: "You just want money" trying to set me up when i asked for help filing. They tried to blacklist me. Then when i got other means to survive they turn around and call me a bum and to get a job like they weren't just trying to keep me jobless. This is what spending close to a decade of your life does. Members of the military still retaliating a decade after you seperated like they have any say still clinging like they have some say in your personal life. Absolutely ridiculous.

Title: Management is torturing us - should I quit or stick it out?

For the past year, management has been piling on daily targets and multi-tasking without any breathing room. Last year they didn't give the pre-sale salary/offer they promised. This year when I asked, they said "achieve your target first, we'll see."

I want to quit now, but I have a commitment (bond/notice period), and they're saying settlement will take 45 days after resignation. What should I do in this situation — leave and look for something else, or stay and keep pushing? Would appreciate advice from people who've been through this.

Want me to tweak the tone (more venting vs. more advice-seeking) or adjust for a specific sub like r/developersIndia or r/india?

I have worked in NYC, Singapore, Dubai and now London/UK. Have been in London/UK for 7 years now, and on my 3rd job. One job was in Brighton, two inc this one in London.

I have enjoyed working in NYC, Dubai and Singapore. Had great relationships with colleagues and managers. Of course not everyone was my ‘cup of tea’ however, there was always respect and civility and I’d even help them if they need. Even had a manager in NYC with an infamous temper however, they never singles anyone out and it was understood that was just how they were. And when calm they were quite nice and also hard-working.

Now onto my observation of UK workplaces ( I won’t write about each experience individually).

First, I have non-British colleagues that I really like and click with. I also have experienced maybe 2-4 British people in each place who were ok-ish and as a consequence of them not going along with the status quo, would also be pushed out and not promoted despite being the decent ones.

I AM SHOCKED at how lazy British people are in the workplace. They take shortcuts, do things halfway, will try and push responsibility to other colleagues or departments shamelessly. My job is mostly fixing other people’s mistakes and actually doing the paperwork correctly and following protocols and having to apologise to stakeholders. My 2nd job was the worst one for this. And even if something is done, it’s written badly or just ‘half-heartedly’, almost like a teenager but its a 20-45 year old doing it. I’ve been blamed for things I had nothing to do with. Crazy.

I’ve noticed management HATE people who actually work hard and have fresh ideas or who are good at problem-solving. And it’s the useless, lazy people who get promoted. There is no reward for hard-work or loyalty or good character.

And the worst aspect. The nastiness from the women in the workplace. WOW.

I’ve had a couple of sneaky women in NYC however, the office as a whole understood they were sneaky and knew they were stirring up trouble and so, they couldn’t cause too many issues in the overall harmony.

In the UK, the sneaky bitchy woman is the norm and is just accepted. I’ve had non-mean British women as colleagues as I stated above however, they get targeted and pushed out or leave due to the toxicity.

And the sneaky bitchy women are SO bad at the job. And gun for difderent women. And somehow are the ones protected by HR. Its insane. The things I’ve seen genuinely remind me of the description for female sociopaths. At one job I got pushed out after reporting a group of women for racism targeting black women- black women who were ACTUALLY working and food at their jobs and were really nice people. These black women have now all left.

The nasty looks, the faux compliments, the swings from being nasty to being performatively nice, the stealing of credit, the hatred towards intelligent women and black women, the sucking up to male colleagues, the spreadinf of rumors, the insinuation of bad things to affect someone’s reputation…… I’m just so shocked and disgusted.

After my first job here, I thought it was bad luck. But a Russian colleague told me that British people are like that and to keep my head down.

I’m so depressed at the moment because I cannot deal with the negativity and hostility. Both aimed at me and that I see aimed at others.

I miss the feeling of camaraderie in the workplace and being excited to work as a team to solve a problem etc.

A couple of weeks ago, I saw the headline for a piece by the Telegraph about how graduates and young people are trying to leave the UK. I didn’t read it. But I’m thinking that it didn’t mention that in the UK, positive traits get punished in many workplaces. Even in the NHS from what I’ve heard from a relative who is a nurse here, the workers who are kind and good at their jobs get bullied and pushed out. Its disgusting.

I’m now trying to find a role in Singapore or Dubai so I can get the hell off this island, which is great for me. However, I felt I had to write this and get it off my chest.

I guess I’m in disbelief and wanted to see if anyone else has had this experience here in UK?

Edit: after posting this, I typed in ‘British Workplace’ on reddit searchbar and it turns out this is a ‘thing’ and many others have noticed. I finally feel vindicated and not crazy. Didn’t stop me from crying all day. Hopefully I’ll be off this sick island in next 6 months 😭

I've been working at the same place for 3+ years and I get along with everybody, except this one person. I wouldn't really care for it but I feel it impacts my closeness with the other coworkers and really my work.

She has only greeted me sometimes after I have greeted her first, usually she will just look at me and walk past me or pretend she does not see me. Also while I'm telling her something, now I just avoid talking to her unnecessarily. The most she's ever spoken to me is to bring up mistakes I made at work during meetings and how detrimental they can be. At some point I was just anxiously expecting her to talk about a mess up of mine in front of the others, which made my general anxiety and confidence at work horrible. I would start making even more mistakes. I never heard her talk about others mess ups the same way, even tho they were equally important, she would just shrug her shoulders and say it happens. She does a lot of thing others don't, so I guess they've given her the authority to judge and be "the voice" lol

Whenever there's a third person and it is impossible for her to just ignore me, she would just be obviously fake.

In the big big meetings, she's very social and friendly to everybody, while she gives me a weird look or doesn't acknowledge me.

Most are very close with her, it's one big family, and this behavior from her is literally only towards me.

I guess she just don't think I have the same work ethic even tho I'd say I've made huge progress, and nobody else really has talked to me that way. It's like her view is cemented and it will never change. When I've hinted at this issue she just dismissed it. I hate that this takes up so much of my thoughts, it gives me major self esteem issues. It's like I stole her man or promotion or something.

I just don't understand what I have done for her to be like this. I don't need to be friends with everybody, In fact, I don't really befriend my coworkers, but I think work is much more tolerable if you get along.

The ones that act like managers and tell you what to do

I think I finally hit my limit this week.

My manager already has this habit of calling out my mistakes in front of everyone. Even tiny things that could be a 2 minute private conversation somehow become a whole discussion in meetings.

But recently something happened that bothered me way more.

I worked on a project for months. I did most of the actual work, stayed late when things went wrong, handled all the changes, basically lived with this thing until it was finished.

Then came the presentation to senior management.

My manager took over and suddenly everything became “I did this”, “my approach”, “I decided we should…”

Someone senior literally praised him for a part I had built from scratch.

He said “thank you.”

I was sitting right there.

Then a few days later I made a small mistake on something completely unrelated and THAT got called out in front of everyone.

So apparently my mistakes have my name on them, but my good work doesn’t.

That really messed with me.

I recently started pursuing an MBA through distance learning alongside work because I want to move ahead, but lately I come home so mentally exhausted that even studying feels impossible.

I keep telling myself to ignore it, collect the salary and focus on getting out. But being treated like this every day is starting to get to me. The worst part is I really need this job, i cant let go.

I’m dealing with a manager who seems increasingly toxic, and I’m not sure how I should handle the situation.
He is constantly micromanaging the team. Whenever he assigns work, he expects it to be completed very quickly and keeps asking how much time I’m taking. He also seems to keep track of when I go to the washroom, get coffee, or take short breaks.
I understand that work needs to be completed on time, but this level of monitoring and micromanagement is making me uncomfortable and stressed.

For those who have dealt with a similar manager:
How did you handle the situation?

Should I confront the manager directly or just keep my head down and do the work?

Is it better to document these incidents?

At what point would you consider talking to HR or looking for another job?

I’m 21 and work full-time. My dad has stage 4 cancer and is now fully dependent on me for a lot of things. He has significant mobility problems and struggles to walk, so I’ve been needing to take time off to help look after him.
Recently, we didn’t receive good news about his condition, and he needed to be in hospital on Thursday and Friday, so I booked the remaining annual leave I had available. My leave request was then denied.
What really upset me, though, was hearing my boss say that I was “taking the piss” with my annual leave because my manager apparently “just approves it all the time.” I understand that taking lots of leave can be difficult for a workplace, but I’m not taking time off for trivial reasons — I’m trying to care for my dad while he’s seriously ill.
They also brought up the fact that I’ve been on three holidays this year. However, two of those holidays were booked using annual leave carried over from the previous holiday year, as our holiday year runs June–July, so I don’t think that’s a fair representation of how much leave I’ve actually taken from my current allowance.
I have a meeting with my manager next week, who is actually very understanding, and I’m planning to explain how much this comment has affected me.
Am I being unreasonable for feeling really upset about being told I’m “taking the piss” when the reason I’ve needed time off is because of my dad’s cancer and care needs?

I started this job in San Francisco, CA in the end of May. I remember around that time she interrupted me twice in the same conversation. I told recall what I was going to say, but she interrupted me as if she knew what I was going to say. Anyways, it was rude. Recently (this week), she told me she likes seeing her employees get competitive. She didn't say this verbatim but she used different words, but still said the same thing. That reminded of Squid Game, except in this situation, no one dies. Again, recently she told me, "Look at how this person did their daily sales sheet. It is perfect! Copy theirs!" I felt like I was diminished, looked down on & felt less than because mine was not perfect. She never corrected it before. She questioned where I got my tallies for the other things that I sold on the daily sales sheet. A.K.A She doesn't think I can rely on my own memory to record the tallies. That was rude & disrespectful. She told me to refer to the computer instead.

Where on subreddit can I post this?

I am an undergrad student and currently working as a CRM Intern at a Mid Size firm. When this internship was offered to me, I was told I’d be working directly under the CEO of the company which, in retrospect, is a great perk and valuable for my CV.

It’s only been a month since I started working. But as someone who’s still in college, I had given them a clear heads up that I would need frequent leaves when exams are around the corner. With this, I took about a week’s worth of leaves - 6 for exams , 1 leave because someone from my family was hospitalised.

My boss is generally quite irritable; he’s a busy man and doesn’t like people who ask him too many questions. After working with him closely and taking advice from HR and coworkers on late replies from him and ghosting when I need an answer, I’d started asking the HR Director for certain workplace decisions that needed immediate answers but werent important enough for the CEO.

There have been MULTIPLE incidents where my boss as in the CEO has made me cry, all of which I’d already discussed with the HR Director.

• During a company trip, there was a lot of miscommunication during planning and he wa was quite rude and ignorant throughout. He continued to stay angry for some reason and that ruined the whole trip for me.

• He’s previously mentioned twice that I waste a lot of time, ask too many questions and ‘confuse’ him on ‘obvious’ decisions.

• He’s never given me guidance on how to research gifts and what he previously used to gift so I could search accordingly. Neither does he like me asking too many specific questions.

• Once, he said, “Are you serious? You need to use basic logic,” to a question abt a gift worth 20k loss if I would’ve done it on my own.

Note that he’s the CEO of the company and he still chose to have an intern directly work under him which makes him my reporting manager as well. I’d like to think he’s also accountable to mentor me or atleast, guide me if I’m doing something wrong. Although, the hierarchy is quite lost along the way.

My JD requires me to handle the company’s money and even though I know I ask a lot of questions, I’m new to this category of work and I don’t want to end up overpaying or ending up with a waste of gifts.

Here’s the deal :

Yesterday after two consecutive days of really good work with compliments from my boss, I texted the HR Director and requested if I could leave work 15 minutes early since my work was done for the day and I needed to reach the hospital.

She told me informally that I need to speak to my reporting manager instead (WHICH IN THIS CASE IMPLIES THE CEO HIMSELF), and so I did. I even offered to stay back in case there was work still left to do.

I’m guessing he must’ve been in a situation himself but instead of saying NO or OKAY, he ended up being angry at me, saying he didn’t have time to ‘handle my requests’ and that I needed to talk to my ‘REPORTING HR’ for this.

I replied saying I already asked the Director and she asked me to ask him instead.
This enraged him and he said it’s ’better if i find a place nearby’ and ‘i have been wasting his time more than saving it.’

If this statement implies that I have lost my internship, it’s because there’s no patience and hierarchy established in my internship period. i don’t have an established reporting manager who oversees my timings and work and the miscommunication of this between the director and ceo have put me at risk of losing my internship.

It’s a vague but implied statement that he doesn’t need me to work for him anymore although I’m currently awaiting a reply for clarification on the messages exchanged.
I understand that too many leaves and too many questions could make it feel like work wasn’t being done but there’s not a single day where I haven’t fulfilled his requests and needs. The whole point of being an intern is I get to learn things I don’t know about. I even worked overtime on the days building up to the trip, procuring new gifts and completely new vendors on my own with little to no replies.

I don’t know if I’m at fault, but I would like to know if a disorganised workplace environment is still I suitable to work in. My term ends in 4 months.

Edit: I’ve been terminated and they blamed it on me. They won’t be granting anything with respect to Certificate or even a Leaving Letter since I didn’t complete my internship according to agreement. 🥲🥲 how I wish Corporate was kinder 😭

i feel like me and many others at my job are constantly being micromanaged and its so fucking draining.

let me preface this by saying that YES ik i was doing something wrong, before yall journey up my ass, but ive been on my phone bc i have abundant free time and little to no alternative tasks to complete, obv i get in trouble BUT LITERALLY EVERYONE ELSE DOES THIS AND IM THE ONLY ONE GETTING IN FUCKING TROUBLE?? ARE WE DEADASS?? This isnt even the first time something like this has happened. Sometimes people will have drinks and shit on the clean side of the lab BUT WHEN I DO IT, ITS SUDDENLY A PROBLEM?? I legitimately cant even fathom why i would be targeted in such an asinine way. My other coworkers say she does that to them too but how the fuck do they deal with it? I dont know how they go home at the end of the day and not want to scream??

For those who have been placed on a PIP unreasonably, how did you behave after?

Asking because I keep seeing posts about ‘responding carefully’ to the PIP with an email, but it’s been 3 weeks since I was put on mine with no further talk about it from my manager, and I haven’t addressed it either because of how unreasonable it is. But should I have?

For context, I was offered a pay rise the same week they put me on the PIP.. makes no sense. So naturally I’ve went the other way and began job searching.

I feel so out of place and question everyday while working away whether there‘s an expectation that I should be communicating about it and having regular chats/meetings about it.

Ok let’s try this again since mods seem to be cherry picking.

Sincerely looking for advice on how to disarm and take back control over and ego driven combative barber.

Long story short I’m the manager of my shop and a coworker I’ve worked with for 8 years, managed for 4, has more recently but on and off since I became the manager been undermining me. Trying to manage people when I’m not around. And just all out disrespectful. My boss doesn’t really help because he’s scared of this employee because they make a lot of money for the company (hourly employee)

My question is either how does one get this under control without it turning into an all out brawl? (This employee likes to argue and take any criticism as a personal attack)

Or is it time I walk because this isn’t the first time and won’t be the last and I don’t think my boss would ever let the employee go due to their revenue gain for the shop.

There is an ongoing scandal at my place of employment. Essentially, two supervisors had affairs with a married subordinate. One of the spouses found out, and contacted the "CEO" (I don't want to doxx myself or employer, so I'll be a bit vague). The second affair was discovered in the investigation.

The subordinate in this case is married to an employee of the same organization.

So far, the fallout has been the subordinate was allowed to resign in lieu of termination. The unofficial line is that they were not honest in the investigation, and was let go for that. The supervisors have been put on two and three months unpaid leave as punishment. The senior of the two was denied an upcoming promotion and will not be considered in the future. The junior supervisor just got the two months unpaid.

I just want to know from actual HR pros, is there anywhere on Earth where sleeping with a married subordinate (I cannot emphasize enough that the two supervisors were this employees direct supervisors at the time of their affairs) does not end in termination? How much legal exposure does that leave the organization in?

This whole thing seems absolutely bonkers to me, but I am hoping to hear from professionals.

Thanks in advance!