I guess I am back where I belong (this subreddit)..?
Two months ago I (41M) started dating a girl (32) who actually approached me first through a mutual friend. From the beginning she showed interest, but also a very inconsistent communication pattern.
We had some genuinely great dates: strong connection, kissing, deep talks, a beach day together, intimacy, etc. Whenever we were together she seemed very involved and caring. When I recently had a really bad anxiety/stress episode in front of her... never had something similar in my life... she was incredibly empathetic and even checked on me a couple of times during the following days (she is suffering from anxiety so she knows how to deal with that type of situation).
The issue is that between dates she would often disappear for days. One time she vanished for almost an entire weekend, then apologised saying she was stressed because of work and personal problems.
Last week after our last date where I had that anxiety/stress episode, she asked how I was feeling, we talked normally, I suggested meeting again and thanked her for being there for me. Since then: complete silence. No reply for 4 days now, even after I sent a worried “are you okay?” text this morning.
I’m honestly confused because her behavior in person and her behavior through communication feel like two completely different people.
Did I become too emotionally available after opening up about my anxiety? Is this avoidant behavior / emotional unavailability? Or is this simply someone who just does not like me and it's better for me to just leave?
PS I know I'm 41, I know I should have experience but women have never been a priority in my life. Hence, I may sound like a 20yo guy so please just try to understand me if I sound too naive.
Thanks in advance for your help.