u/Careless_Squirrel728

I’m 10 weeks and don’t look pregnant yet but definitely have put on a bit of weight around my middle - I currently just look like I have let myself go a bit but it’s got me freaking out about how being pregnant means being pregnant and having a baby bump.

I have a history of poor body image and a bit of disordered eating and I am terrified of looking pregnant, particularly being a “big” pregnant, I feel like I wouldn’t mind if I was one of those women who don’t look pregnant from behind but I also know you mostly can’t control it!

I think pregnant bodies kind of give me the ick and that is where I am struggling, I’m worried about not losing the baby weight post partum and not being attractive to my husband anymore.

All I ever see from people is how they can’t wait for their baby bump to “pop” but I want mine to stay unpopped for as long as possible!

Is anyone else struggling with the reality of having a pregnant body?

I’m going to an event at the weekend - a castle with jousting and the usual falconry etc. Imagine my delight when I look at their website and I see this! People are wising up to their nonsense - emotional support animals are not real!

Dogs, including emotional support dogs, are NOT permitted due to the presence of horses and birds of prey.

Although I suppose it is a bit sad that it needs saying!

I’m the higher earner unfortunately and we need to buy a bigger house. This means that at least until we have moved and are settled I’m probably going to have to go back to work full time after only taking 9 months SPL. I’m struggling a lot with not being able to do 3 days like most people seem to and grieving the extra time with my baby and worried about being able to cope with everything and keep the house together and not feel utterly broken.

There is a tiny chance I could make 4 days work but it would only be worth it financially if I could compress them into 3 otherwise I may as well work a 9 day fortnight and work almost the same hours to get paid a lot more!

Anyone else going to have to go back to work full time? How you feeling about it?

I’m very early pregnant (7 weeks) and my husband and I decided we wanted to tell our immediate families straight away but no one else until 12 weeks. We felt that we would benefit from the support of our parents and siblings if we’re having a rough time or if anything went wrong and for the most part that has been the right decision - MIL came over to take me to the doctors the other day because I was so dizzy and couldn’t drive/walk myself.

My BIL has a partner that I don’t get on with. She has done some horrible things to me in the past. I told my brothers so my husband obviously wanted to tell his too which is fine because I like BIL. The bit I am struggling with is that his partner knows. I feel resentful that this person who has been horrible to me knows the most intimate thing about my life before our friends or extended family know.

I know that rationally it wouldn’t have been reasonable to tell him not to tell her, and I don’t mind my own brother telling his partner, whom I love, but I just can’t stand the fact that she knows!

Currently 7 weeks.

First Baby.

No morning sickness although have felt a bit sick and a few dry heaves.

What I do have though is almost debilitating vertigo. I’m so so dizzy even when sitting or lying down. Sunday I could barely get out of bed all day for fear of fainting.

I’m also experiencing heart palpitations which are unsettling.

Is this something I should see my GP about or will I be fobbed off because I am pregnant and should expect to feel like shit?

And I feel guilty for that because this baby was 100% planned and so wanted.

But it’s taking me ages to get ready in the morning because I’m so dizzy I have to keep sitting down. I’m exhausted. Toothpaste is making me heave.

How on earth am I going to cope with a baby if I can’t even cope with being a few weeks pregnant?

I feel absolutely rotten and like I will never feel like myself again and it’s making me think I shouldn’t have tried to get pregnant - we had a perfectly happy life and I’ve ruined it 😭