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Be honest guys how many times do you go to triage ?

This is for reduced movement. Especially if you have a posterior placenta and baby has random movement every day how many times have you been in? I’m 30 + weeks and I’ve been in almost every week since 27 weeks tbh. Feels so shameful thinking that they probably think I’m taking the piss but my baby generally sometimes goes so quiet I freak out after a few hours and I rather get the reassurance there than try home remedies which don’t even work for me :/

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u/wrtuhfdi454 — 19 hours ago

Maternity clothes

Hi all. Im 35 weeks pregnant. Ive not had to size up in clothing yet thankfully. But i think its time. My leggings are really pressing on my bump. My question is, do I just size up or are maternity leggings worth it? I have always been curious about them but I dunno if it's worth it cause I only have a few weeks left

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u/saaaammywam — 18 hours ago

Help - Where are we buying flattering maternity clothes?

I’m at the start of my second trimester and the bump (or bloat) is definitely bumping. May have had a small meltdown to my husband as I now only have one pair of trousers that fit me… Where do I even start finding half decent maternity wear? I would happily just wear leggings and pyjamas all day but unfortunately I occasionally have to do things like go to the office or socialise.

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u/HotValuable5783 — 19 hours ago

Scans

Hello , I posted a while ago (3-4weeks) about TTC and the post was removed as it wasn’t the right sub
Guess who’s now pregnant and panicking? Meeee

To recap

30 y/o FTM type 2 diabetic - not well controlled overnight, but good during the day

I’ve been testing positive since 8/9 days after ovulation and my period is now 3 days late
I’ve got the mild cramping and am terrified I’ll miscarry

I’ve sent the referral. Spoke with GP who’ve also chased the referral

Just want to know if I should have a 6 week private scan to ensure everything is okay?
I feel like with my health I don’t want to get excited until I have a scan and all is okay

I will be 6weeks since last menstrual period on 31st
Thank you

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u/Mental_dental96 — 22 hours ago

Is it out of the ordinary to be given your midwife’s number?

To clarify I do mean work phone number. My last pregnancy my midwife gave me her number at the booking appointment, and told me to contact her directly. My daughter was only born July last year.

Im pregnant again now, haven’t moved, haven’t changed trusts etc, and im finding it impossible to get in contact with my midwife. I have to call the hospital midwives department and have literally had my call answered twice out of potentially 15 different times calling over the last 4 months. I’ve left messages when prompted and then am called back by somebody who isn’t my midwife, and told I need to talk to my midwife, and to try again tomorrow. Rinse and repeat, no answer - somebody else calls me back - try again.

I’m not seeing my midwife again until 26 weeks and i’m currently 18 weeks so i’ve just accepted I won’t be getting the results of a blood test I had, until that appointment.

Is this how it is everywhere?

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u/loldontlistentome — 1 day ago

Is it unhealthy to eat precooked frozen meals in third trimester?

So my partner has to travel for work this week and I’ve been having some bad pains and aches due to gallstones so my mobility isn’t the best. I’m 30 weeks and feeling tired everyday but wanted to still avoid take away is it bad to have a frozen meal every now and then? e.g one of those frozen meals from Sainsbury’s like a tikka masala and rice? I’ve got a fresh food shop coming this week but felt guilty to have a frozen meal as I want to be healthy for baby but still want access to easy food. How much b frozen food are you guys having ?

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u/hsjdjejn283873 — 23 hours ago
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Employment Tribunal

Hi everyone,

I'm a Support Services Coordinator at Pregnant Then Screwed. If you haven't heard of us, we're a national charity supporting tens of thousands of women and parents every year and fighting to end the motherhood penalty. https://pregnantthenscrewed.com/

We've recently re-launched our Tribunal Mentor Programme and we're looking to recruit volunteers to help us grow the programme. If you have filed an Employment Tribunal Claim (even if you didn’t go all the way to the final hearing) and you would like to support other people going through that stressful process then this could be the perfect opportunity for you. Your claim doesn’t need to relate to maternity discrimination to be able to volunteer. Volunteer mentors share their lived experience, offer emotional support, a listening ear, and signposting usually over 12 weekly 1:2:1 calls.

You can find out more here https://pregnantthenscrewed.com/volunteer-as-a-tribunal-mentor/ and you can apply to be a volunteer here https://pregnantthenscrewed.beaconforms.com/form/9bdd0403. You’re also welcome to email me gabi@pregnantthenscrewed.com if you have any questions.

Thanks so much,

Gabi

u/Key_Implement_8439 — 1 day ago

further along than i thought...

heyyy i'm currently 19 weeks pregnant and actually just found out i was 19 weeks instead of what i thought was 12 weeks when i got to my "12 week scan" appointment and got told by the sonographer that i was actually 19 weeks so ive had all the 20 week scan stuff checked. with that being said, it's defo a little surprise as i wasnt sure when my last period was when i found out i was pregnant so i'm kinda freaking out a little bc baby's coming like 2 months sooner than expected, i was wondering what's people experience with vaccinations and shojld i just say yes to all of the ones that are recommended? i feel like there's suddenly so mich more to be thinking and stressing about amd i honestly don't know where to start with all the stuff i have to be thinking about ie getting the flat ready for the baby, breastfeeding options, maternity leave and everything that comes along in the second trimester.

if anyone has any advice i'd massively appreciate!! apologies if this is a little all over the place i think my brain's scrambled and i want to be prepared to have the baby like 2 months earlier than expected,, thankyouu <3

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u/cryingpotato2 — 1 day ago

Hospital bags.. from a clueless FTM

Looking for advice on all things hospital bags when preparing for birth. Some people seem to pack small suitcases, whilst others take a bag. What is the norm? Will I be underpacking if I bring a bag, or will I look silly turning up to the hospital with a suitcase? I’ve found various checklists online about what needs to be packed but I’m feeling a bit clueless on how I should be preparing. What did you take with you to hospital and how did you pack it?

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u/Velvet_Teacup_ — 1 day ago

13w - food aversions

Hi girlies
I’m currently 13w and struggling quite a bit with nausea and food aversions
I know i’m at the point now where i really do need to start eating a lot healthier than i am. I’m currently surviving on cheese strings, ready salted crisps and apples.
Is there any go to foods you could recommend to help get those nutrients and vitamins in ??
I’m trying to write out my tesco list now but everything just sounds bleh

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u/whoishunkeydorey — 20 hours ago

Travelling in first trimester

Did you travel long journeys alone in the second half of the first trimester?

Sorry for an unorganized and long post.

So I work from home mainly but have to travel to work once a month for 1-3 varying number of days. That's mandatory.

I am 7 weeks pregnant. This is my second pregnancy. First one was an IVF pregnancy and I had an early pregnancy scan at the clinic. This was when I was 35. Now I will be 40 end of this year. So this being natural conception is pure luck and at this age I feel I need to be more cautious. My travel includes airport transfers, flight and or train for 5-6 hours stretch one way carrying my bags with a much heavier company laptop. I am not very physically strong anyway.

Last month I took exception as my child was sick and home from nursery for the whole of the week. I have to go early next week for 2 days 1 night and then next month for 3 days when I will be 12 weeks. I haven't got a midwife assigned yet to discuss this.

I don't want to disclose my pregnancy yet but if I have to skip next week travel tomorrow is monthly catch-up with my boss. He has good feedback for my work but for such things I am sure he thinks I take way many exceptions than my peers who are mostly 55+ and mostly men including himself.

I am as it is anxious everyday due to fluctuating symptoms and my age constantly running at the back of my mind. On top of that travelling alone carrying bags sitting in uncomfortable work clothes for long hours is making me dread to go this month and the next. Worse of my anxiety is thinking what if I miscarry when in transit or in hotel / office in another city. I know I shouldn't have those thoughts but I know I won't be able to explain and my boss will not understand my anxiety. I feel sick in the train almost always and with although mild morning sickness I am scared of it more and more.

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u/saanij — 17 hours ago

Positive c-section at Royal Preston Hospital

Hi everyone, I wanted to write out my recent experience of c-section at Royal Preston Hospital in the hopes it gives some assurance or context for anyone else, as I used this sub extensively through my pregnancy and learnt so much from everyone, and hope to pay it forward somehow. ✨

Sorry it’s long! And if I’ve missed anything please blame newborn brain 🥴🙃

Background:

I elected for a c-section from the moment my pregnancy was confirmed viable at my 6 week scan (IVF pregnancy after 5 years TTC). Whilst my initial booking in appointment in Preston was delayed, everything else since under the hospital trust and local midwife team’s care has been really positive.

C-section prep:

In the days prior to my c-section I had to take the below (which was given to me at my final hospital consultation the week before):
- specific antacid tablets (omeprazole once a day for two days prior)
- an anti-sickness tablet the day before
- plus the pre-load drinks day before / morning of procedure to supplement meals and reduce nausea after the procedure. (The drinks tastes of nothing at all (bland!) so nothing to worry about if you’re wondering!)

C-section day:

My c-section was scheduled for the afternoon (I was informed via Badger App a week before) so my partner and I arrived at the Delivery Suite for 12:30pm. After a brief wait in a small waiting room initially, me and my other half were set up in a private room with a bed and chair and rested there between separate consultations and paperwork with the anaesthetist, midwife and surgeon over the span of an hour or so. Everyone was really friendly and accomodating and gave us chance to ask questions in each consultation. We then knew our approx time to head to theatre (3pm), so just chilled out as best as we could.

After changing into our gowns and me with my slippers we walked to theatre together with the midwife and met the full surgical team of smiling faces. This was about 3pm. We were again talked through every step as it happened from the cannula, spinal etc. I was gently laid down on the table and we put on our music playlist too. My partner stayed by my side throughout. There was a lovely buzz in the room as everyone was so positive and communicative. There was lots of preparation, and the surgical team setting up, including shaving me down there (I hadn’t seen what was going on down there for a long time so god knows what they had to deal with! 😂)

Baby’s birth:

Before we knew it after about 10 minutes of the surgical team working away, including sucking out the extra fluid I knew I was carrying in my womb, I finally heard my baby’s cry for the first time, and the curtain was dropped whilst one of my favourite songs played in the background 🥰 he was born at 15:56. It was such a blur in retrospect!

My partner and I cried as we saw his little face for the first time, and the midwife team helped take lots of photos of the baby as he emerged whilst me and my partner were just in awe and in shock.

We were really looked after by the team, I was sewn back up (I was in a baby daze I didn’t notice anything) and baby was placed on my chest for cuddles and loads more photos kindly taken by the midwives.

Recovery:

Then I was being wheeled to the recovery ward for immediate checks, my toast 🙌 and compression socks added to my very numb legs. I had my cannula still attached and a blood pressure sensor on my finger too. It felt very weird not being able to move or feel my legs 😩

After what felt like 15 mins I was wheeled to the maternity ward to find a cubicle for the night. Our ward was thankfully quiet, just one other couple in their cubicle.

The njght’s stay:

We had our bags out (I was in such a daze I don’t remember how they got there!) and made ourselves comfortable, with baby in his little bassinet. I was checked over every 15 mins by different midwives for the first hour or so, then about every 30 mins next hour or so. I had my pads changed regularly as I was bleeding, my blood pressure taken etc. I was also offered pain relief (morphine) when the anaesthetic wore off which I gladly took. I kept on top of the midwives to keep asking for this, the ward was short staffed and I did have to keep chasing up my pain relief a few times.

At one point late in the night a midwife helped me to the toilet in our ward for a shower, and to try wee. I had to wee in a small cardboard container and I had to pull the emergency bathroom cord once I’d filled it, to bring a nurse out as they had to see I had wee’d.

Our first night I didn’t sleep lots as I was admitedly uncomfortable from the cannula/legs slowly recovering from spinal etc, and because I was in awe of our little one and obsessing over his every breath.

my partner was able to sleep next to me on a fold out chair in our little cubicle. Really private and relatively quiet, dare I say calming?!

The next morning:

The next day I had breakfast and lunch from the catering at the hospital, and my partner headed home briefly, when he came back baby had his checks with the midwife and we just had to have a final assessment with a midwife at the bedside before we could leave. We left around 3pm and headed home to enjoy our newborn bubble!

All in all I have such wonderful memories of my c-section experience. I’m recovering well now and loving being a mum.

Best of luck to everyone approaching their baby’s birth! 💜

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u/seejonesokay — 1 day ago

Colostrum and feeding at the hospital

Im 31 weeks pregnant, a bit early but just thinking ahead.

I plan to harvest colostrum from 37 weeks, but I will not be latch feeding at any stage.

Question: I'm wondering from those who've done it - were you able to harvest colostrum whilst in labour. I'm having an early epidural for medical reasons. If I take my syringes can I get some for the baby while I'm in labour? Is it better to do it during early labour and bring it with me - I've seen a lot of women saying their frozen colostrum was binned at the hospital due to lack of storage options.

I also have no clue about feeding them after birth? I believe you only get colostrum for the first few days if breast feeding, so how do you balance that if using formula without over feeding?

Edit: I appreciate the advice around pumping and establishing supply but its not something im concerned with or willing to do. I'm realistic in my expectations. Consider it that I'm just willing to have 'a bit of a go' at getting him a little bit of breast milk, but mostly planning to use formula.

Please dont give me unsolicited advice on breast feeding or pumping, its not my concern. Im looking for advice around colostrum. The other info was for context only.

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u/Hannah90219 — 1 day ago

Baby Names

Hi! Can't decide between our two favorite names. We think we will wait until we meet baby and see, but didn't know if anyone feels a particular way! Last name Webster

We are between Owen & Elliot.

Appreciate the help!

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u/Wooden_Airline3056 — 1 day ago
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What diet restrictions did you follow after delivery, and were they actually necessary?

I’m a FTM, vegetarian and Hindu, and there are quite a few traditional diet restrictions in my culture after childbirth.

I had also read on the NHS website that traces of what you eat/drink can pass into breast milk, and that caffeine from tea, coffee and soft drinks can sometimes make babies unsettled or uncomfortable. So I’m wondering how much attention people actually paid to their diet while breastfeeding.

What did you personally follow after delivery — especially restrictions around certain vegetables, fruits, dairy, spices, etc.? Which restrictions did you feel were genuinely helpful or had a logical/evidence-based reason, and which ones did you feel were mainly cultural?

Also, were there any foods you were specifically encouraged to eat for recovery, breastfeeding, constipation, energy, etc.?

Would love to hear what worked for you, especially from other vegetarian mums. ❤️

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u/Big_Sundae_7563 — 1 day ago

MIL disagrees on scans

Hi just after some advice! Just found out that I am pregnant, excited but nervous as miscarried last year at 8 weeks. I am wanting to go for an early viability scan and as my boyfriend works away, I invited my boyfriend’s mum. However, she is adamant that I shouldn’t get an early scan as it is going to put the baby at risk and I think she is insinuating that is why I miscarried last time. She has spoken to my boyfriend and told him to tell me, but I really want to go and check everything’s ok. But then if I miscarry again, I’m scared she’ll say it’s my fault because of the scan. What can I do?

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u/Appropriate_Sea8841 — 1 day ago
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Induction query

Just wondering how the induction process works. I’ve been told I can be induced between 38+5 and 39+3 by the consultant. Do I just wait around for a call from someone now? I’m 38+6 now and thought I might have heard from someone about a rough idea of a date. Can it go over that week? Baby is measuring big so don’t want it to go beyond really. Feel a bit in limbo. Didn’t think to ask at the time.

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u/Beledx — 1 day ago

Whooping cough experience

I'm a FTM, currently 33 weeks pregnant, and an exchange I had with a vaccination nurse while getting my whooping cough jab made me want to post this - she said she had never actually met anyone who'd had whooping cough and I have so here goes.

I got whooping cough in 2016. It turns out there was an outbreak in our office but the people who started it didn't realise what they had because the "whooping" takes a while to start. It was absolutely horrific. It started like a cold that made me feel like hell - as a fit 26 year old - and then the cough came.

It's super violent coughing and after each one you have a moment where you can't breathe, it's like being frozen while you're suffocating. Then you take a massive breath in, which is what causes the whooping sound, and the cycle continues. I didn't shake the cough fully for 3 months and it was confirmed as whooping cough by a blood test arranged by my GP.

I can't imagine how distressing it would be going through that pregnant or watching a baby suffer it. This isn't to make anyone change their minds on vaccination but just to get my experience out there in case it's useful in decision making because I didn't realise how rare whooping cough cases in adults actually are.

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u/Specific_Yellow_8370 — 2 days ago

NHS care for early pregnancy - is this normal?

What are your experiences with being seen for abnormalities etc in early pregnancy?

I’ll start by saying I know not a lot can be “done” for problems in early pregnancy and as we all know the NHS is under strain.

But I’ve got pain and bleeding (about 8 weeks) I’d like checked out but no matter how I try to get through I fail (trying for almost 2 weeks)
- GP surgery (says it’s fine, go to EPAU if concerned)
- EPAU (won’t see you unless referred)
- 111 (go to walk in centre)
- walk in centre (won’t refer)
- community midwife personal number (no answer)
- community midwives group number (no one answers)

Is this normal from your experience?

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u/ArtisticExperience48 — 2 days ago

What does NHS do after missed miscarriage?

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2 pregnanices in last 6 months. 1 CP at 6 weeks and now 1 MMC at 8 weeks.

During my first pregnancy, I felt helpless and lost - it was confusing to navigate the early pregnancy support system with NHS.

This time I got some blood tests and scans done privately and I was able to get help from the EPU very quickly as I was seen there before. So far I am happy with the support I've been getting with NHS.

I am going to my local EPU (not the one I went in for the first time as it's farther from home) to get one last scan next Monday. They say I might be able to get the surgery done next week as well.

I just wanted to know what kind of "after care" the EPU can provide - like follow up scan to confirm a complete clearance, genetic testing of the tissue, hCG tests to see if it drops properly, etc. Also I am 38 and my husband is 47. I'm wondering if we could get a specialist consultation with NHS after two losses (ofc I can ask this while I'm there but just seeking any personal experience).

I just moved to the UK last year for work and it is pretty standard to get all those things done after D&C in the country where I'm from.

I understand each trust is different but I'd love to hear from those who had gone through the process. If not provided, I'd start looking for a private option. Thank you!

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u/Foreign-Banana8663 — 1 day ago