Potential for me to land a dream job, but wife does not want to relocate for it. How do I approach this?
I’ll try and keep this short and sweet. Currently working in a great job (92k/year with yearly raises) and able to live close to where we both grew up. Downside, it’s contracted year-to-year. My organization has expressed they’re fully on board with keeping me around but contract work, especially yearly, is stressful. I’m also getting to the point where I currently am feeling like I need a change.
Several GS13 spots in my career field that I am qualified for and have connections to land them are popping up, but they are 3hrs away. Still regional to where we are, but not local. But with an organization that for me is a dream job as well as amazing pay and benefits. Wife absolutely does not want to move though.
I have not been offered the spots, but my experience and credentials would likely put me at the top of the list. If I do get offered how would I approach this? GS roles on my field are few and far between, so this would be an opportunity I feel like I couldn’t pass on.
EDIT: My wife has a job about 20min from where we live and is in a field where job availability is everywhere. We currently live about an hour and some change from where she grew up, but with this move we’d still be that same distance just coming from a different direction. The area we live in is where I grew up my whole life, so our social circle is predominantly at our current spot. And we both love it, I’d much prefer not to move but for a spot like this it would require it. This spot would ensure that we’d be able to get our first home, comfortably have kids without the constant stress of “what if” I have a few times a year if my contract doesn’t get renewed, and have government benefits which would be huge because we are currently going though diagnosing some stuff she deals with that our current healthcare doesn’t cover.
Did not try to come off as “self-centered”, so I apologize. I’m trying to view this through a lens of the benefit as a family long-term; like 15-20+ years, not just myself.