u/CarpenterDependent71

I was diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer at 30. My stage was T2N1M0, and my genetic testing came back negative.

I’ve now completed 8 cycles of chemotherapy + immunotherapy, followed by breast-conserving surgery and ALND. Radiation is still pending, along with 9 more sessions of immunotherapy.

My Ki-67 was 80%, and because my cancer was aggressive, my oncologist wasn’t confident that we could safely take the ~21 days needed for fertility preservation. So I had to start treatment without freezing my eggs/embryos.

I continued getting my periods until around my 7th cycle, but they have now stopped. I have no idea yet whether this is temporary or permanent. On top of that, I’m having extreme hot flashes that are honestly difficult to describe.

Because I had lymph nodes removed during surgery, I’m also constantly worried about lymphedema and what I should or shouldn’t be doing to reduce that risk.

And then there’s the biggest fear of all: recurrence. I know TNBC can have a higher risk of recurrence, and intellectually I understand that treatment is being given to reduce that risk. But emotionally, I’m struggling with the thought that after everything I’ve gone through, there is still a possibility that it could come back.

For the last six months, I feel like I haven’t actually had the chance to process any of this. I’ve just been going from one appointment/session to the next chemo, scans, surgery, recovery, the next treatment… and now radiation and more immunotherapy are still ahead.

Sometimes I genuinely ask myself: what is the point of putting my body through all of this if there is still a chance of recurrence?

So I want to ask people who have been through TNBC treatment : How did you deal with the fear of recurrence?
And more importantly, once active treatment is over, what can I realistically do to reduce my risk of recurrence as much as possible? What lifestyle changes, exercise, diet, follow-up, or other evidence-based things actually matter?

I know nobody can guarantee that it won’t come back. I just want to understand what is genuinely within my control, rather than spending the rest of my life being afraid of every ache, scan, or symptom.

If you’ve been through something similar, I’d really appreciate hearing how you coped emotionally and practically.

I’ve submitted the EOI, but honestly, I’m quite confused right now. I’ve been reading a lot of negative comments about Godrej, and it’s making me rethink whether I should go ahead with this. At the same time, Bangalore real estate is getting so expensive that I feel like if I keep waiting, I might never be able to afford a decent property.

The other thing I keep seeing is people saying that the location is a big red flag.

Would love to hear from people who have actually researched this project or know the area well. Is the location really that bad? And what do you guys think about Godrej as a builder? I’m genuinely confused between the “this could be a good investment” side of my brain and the “don’t make a stupid decision” side

Any honest opinions would really help.