u/CashMedical3765

I have been job hunting for a few months and landed an interview at a company that looked genuinely promising on paper. Good role, decent pay, reasonable commute. I was actually excited going in.

About five minutes into the interview I noticed a tattoo on the hiring manager's forearm. I know what 1488 means. It is not an obscure reference or something open to interpretation. It is a well known white supremacist symbol and this person had it tattooed visibly on their body.

I sat there for a moment trying to decide what to do and then I thanked him for his time, said I did not think it was going to be the right fit, and left.

My friend thinks I was being impulsive and that I should have at least finished the interview and then decided not to take it if I got an offer. She said jobs are hard to come by right now and I should not have walked out over a tattoo.

I told her I was not going to sit through an interview being evaluated by someone who has made their views that visible and that deliberate, and I am not going to work somewhere that apparently has no problem with it either.

Am I wrong for walking out?

about a year and a half ago i was supposed to receive significant financial support from someone close to me. for something specific and ongoing. on paper it looked generous. but the conditions attached were not conditions i could live with. this person has a particular way of using support as a way to stay inside decisions that are mine to make. i knew that going in and i knew i would not be able to accept the help without accepting the control that came with it.

so i quietly arranged things myself instead. took out loans. cut back. figured it out. i told nobody. not the person who wouldve been supporting me. not other family. i just handled it and let the assumption sit that things were going the way everyone expected.

the first year was the hardest financially ive ever had. but genuinely the most peaceful year of my life in terms of not having someone elses hand in how i was living it.

a few weeks ago there was a big family gathering. someone at the dinner table turned to the person who wouldve been supporting me and asked casually how much my education was costing them this year.

i said youd have to ask me that. im the one paying for it.

one sentence. calm. factually accurate.

small quiet at the table. someone changed the subject. we moved on.

later in the kitchen the person pulled me aside. told me i had embarrassed them in front of everyone. that i shouldve given them a heads up or let them handle it. their voice was completely flat and they were genuinely angry.

i told them the question was asked, the accurate answer was mine to give, and i gave it in about twelve words. i hadnt planned anything.

they said that wasnt good enough. that how it landed was my responsibility regardless of intent.

ive been sitting with this for three days. the thing i keep landing on is that they are embarrassed because they spent a year letting people believe something about my life that was not true. i did not create that gap. they did. by letting the assumption sit rather than ever asking me how things were actually going.

i feel settled about my own part in it. but the flatness of their voice in that kitchen is staying with me in a way i cant quite shake.

am i wrong for how i answered?