Would I be in the wrong for writing a story about my worst mistakes?
It was worse than saying it was bad can really get across. And it dealt mainly with an interpersonal situation I handled horribly.
I'm just wondering if doing this would somehow be self-serving. I want to be able to say how my past influenced me without using it to "justify" what happened, because I still made active choices about how to perceive the past that hurt myself and others.
And I do want to believe even if I feel difficulties feeling remorse for the person I hurt (which is probably partly because the person I did hurt, crossed my sexual boundaries at least twice, even though they probably didn't mean to hurt me), that it's still okay for me to try in everyday life even if I am more interested in improving merely to improve my well-being, because changing my behavior should benefit other people as a bonus.
Also I want to talk about how I refused help because I thought it would make things worse, only to get help later. My whole thing was avoidance because I was scared trying would cause something bad to happen. I want to believe that doing this is a part of trying to do things ~I~ want, and is in fact a way to reclaim agency, rather than this just being part of an old habit of deliberately hurting others.
I'd like to anonymize people, under an anonymized alias, so that nobody would recognize it as being me or others formerly associated unless they had known me personally. Although I worry about a slight chance of irl consequences if people figured it out, because my inability to handle conflict is arguably what caused me to act out in the first place, because I blamed others for what I had chosen to do with them, like they were tempting me or something. I feel like trying to have more agency necessitates the ability to take responsibility, so if I want to do this bad enough, then even if it's "not wrong" then maybe it not being wrong should not be taken as a free pass to deal with what doing this causes. I can't pretend there would be a 0% chance of possible irl suffering and that it might all just be online hate.
I'm thinking of even try to play it off as if the whole thing was fictional, but I'm genuinely not sure if it's worse to not be open with your whole identity, or the fact it was all real.
Am I being selfish, or pretending to myself to have different motives than I do? Should I be more concerned about hurting others in the process?