I (21M) want to be more reliable and helpful to my (21F) gf, who’s going through a rough patch. What can I do?
Hi, maybe this is the wrong subreddit but I didn’t know if I should post it on relationship advice. The thing is that my girlfriend is going through some rough days, she’s going through a lot of stress and her family situation isn’t really helping. I won’t give a lot too much detail about the things that affect her, but to summarize everything, life’s not good.
This situation is affecting our relationship a little too and we’ve talked about it, and I don’t want to judge, antagonize or just bargain with her over feelings she can’t control and feelings that she’s actively trying to get over with. I don’t know what to do, she’s the love of my life, my best friend, my everything, and I really want to be more helpful for her when she’s struggling.
We’re currently college students, and we have a pretty busy schedule this semester. I’ve been thinking about planning something improvised for her, just to spark her a bit, but what else can I do to truly help her?
I have to say a few important things to take in consideration, she’s very much an introvert, she doesn’t know how to express her feelings and likes to keep them in. She enjoys spending time alone, we’ve been working on that because we’re pretty much opposites on that (cat gf-dog bf). Like I said before, she tends to keep things to herself unless they’re important to express or if she feels like I should know, so I feel I can’t push her with that. We both know communication is important, and when it really matters she never doubts on telling me something. But still, she doesn’t like to talk about things that frequently.
So, what can I do to help her without breaking her boundaries and touching topics she doesn’t feel comfortable talking about? How can I help her when she feels numb about everything? How can I make things easier for her when she’s overwhelmed and feel like exploding? How can I make her feel understood when she actually tries to talk with me?
This girl is very important for me, we’ve been dating for a year and 6 months now, and we have a lot of plans for the future. So, people of Reddit, what can I do? :(
Pd: sorry if this is a little hard to read, English isn’t my first language.
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