FML
My abuser coerced me into having sex with other people (multiple) when I clearly and unequivocally said No (multiple times) in addition to so many more “minor” sexual acts.
When I was processing it in couples therapy with them (yup, you read that right, I was so confused that I actually thought counseling would help) I even said sex with them afterwards always felt like rape and still didn’t get it until society started talking about sexual coercion as abuse.
Now, I have to coparent our preteen daughter with this piece of trash, and just finished a particularly distressing conversation about setting boundaries where he kept talking about how his house is “sex positive” and told me, yet again, that there isn’t anything wrong with sexual activities just to keep your partner happy and that is what he wants to teach her, which is verbatim the argument that he made as to why I was the one in the wrong. He is very literally setting her up to be fucking abused.
I literally have no idea how to stop spiraling right now. My entire nervous system is in absolute overdrive. I am typing because I have no other way to process this fucked up situation.