Why can’t we just hear out Pregnant women instead of just telling them to get “used to it” or “it only gets worse”?
Hello I am just turn 31, 20 weeks on Thursday on first pregnancy, have fibromyalgia and neurodivergent/possibly autistic(not important part but I am not sure if part how I feel could be from that, so I did want to mention). Also, been having pretty normal and healthy pregnancy besides fibromyalgia episodes making symptoms worse/body reacts to pain more intense than how it feel, but that’s rant for another day. Future apologies for any over explaining.
I am first of my husbands siblings(he has five and huge age caps with two youngest. Technically half siblings but outside different last names they don’t call each other anything but full siblings) to get pregnant but last of my family(2 older brothers five years older and one baby sister five years younger). I am very active and involved aunt to my own nieces and nephews but as well as my best friend kids, so I am not all going in blind to be pregnant. So, I am fully aware each pregnancy is different and each one can be range for single person.
With that be said, why I feel like I complain(lack of better word) specially with something I just want to be heard on, do I get respond of it gets worse? Like is that supposed to make me feel better?
Here current example;
We went to in laws yesterday to swim, pool still freezing at first but weightless of water felt great on hips and we have heat wave in my state before we get some big 5 day rain front. I was expressing to my mother in law how I am honestly scared I am gonna hate feeling of baby move due to idea of sensation gives me ick. Like I couldn’t even bring myself to feel others stomach when babies moves, like give me heebie-jeebies. I just wanted to be heard more than anything or even maybe get “it’s weird at first”, but getting told “you better get used to the thought of it,” was absolute last thing I want to hear. It just made me so mad.
I am not sure if generational thing but, I feel like only other mothers that listen to pregnant women’s feelings and give advice that is just hearing you out are just ones who were pregnant, in my case, within five years.
I am debating starting up counseling again because just want my current feeling to be heard so I don’t go spiral and do what doing now ranting to Reddit hoping I don’t feel alone.
Besides all that thank you for any advice and I hope you are having healthy baby pregnancy and if you want rant to me about something, I’ll hear you out.